ok, im am 22 go school and work my brains off and need to drink everyday, i fight myself everyday stay busy dont go out and no matter what the devil or something makes me get a bottle of vodka before I get home from work or school at night. I dont know what to do, where to go who to talk to, any one out there? K
Hi, K, I'm the mom of an addict. She's 22. You're SICK OF IT...and that's a great thing. sounds like you've had enough. As I said, I don't know what it's like to be the addict/alcoholic...but I know I'd give anything to hear those words from my child. Post on the family board....lots of people, addicts or not, will jump in and help you. I say...you're half way there. You know you don't want this for yourself. There is help and a way out. sounds like you are working your butt off to make a life for yourself...alcohol will ruin that. You've done the right thing by reaching out. Learn all you can about alcoholism and talk to people here...help's on the way.
thank you so much for responding, im not even sure what this site is all about and I tried it and got a response from you! Thank you so much for the encouraging words and making me feel that help is on the way. It for once makes me feel like someone cares, I mean I cant talk to my boss or family about the real, real world of mine and the drinking. I need someone there to help me get out, and Ill help them out. If we can talk more Ill help you out, and your situation.
Hi, again K. I went through heck and back with my daughter and alcohol...I could not believe the quantities she would drink..and the mess she became. I know she hated herself for it, as her dad was an alcoholic. Now she's moved on to meth...lord help me. Do you have family members that are alcoholics? I swear it must be in the genes cause she was raised only with me and no alcohol in the house. The best part K is you're wanting to stop now. Believe me when I say it will only get worse as it is progressive and it will destroy what you are working so hard to accomplish. I am pround of you that at such a young age you already know you don't want that for yourself. I'm sure the cravings are so strong to ward off...but you can do this, K. It's minute by minute sometimes, but the cravings will pass. I hope you are feeling a bit better today. I know it's too hard to talk to family about this...so until you can, come talk to us or go to an AA meeting. Have you ever been? It's amazing how at home you will feel...as everyone there knows exactly what you're going through. I hope you give it a try. luv corrinne
K, welcome to the board sweetie!
You should start attending AA meetings, The only requirement is the DESIRE to stay sober.
You will find many people whose stories you can relate to. If you don't like the first meeting you go to, try to go to it at least 3 times. Get some phone numbers of people that you can call, they don't mind, and would love to help you.
Good luck!
You should start attending AA meetings, The only requirement is the DESIRE to stay sober.
You will find many people whose stories you can relate to. If you don't like the first meeting you go to, try to go to it at least 3 times. Get some phone numbers of people that you can call, they don't mind, and would love to help you.
Good luck!
Hi K,
My heart is so with you, I too am driven by the inner voice, that just seems to take over & before you know it you have brought a bottle of vodka and it all kind of goes pear shape.
This MB has really given me inspiration, every one has been so helpful and friendly and encouraging, they are really an inspiration. Stick with this MB, keep posting messages, we are here to support you. You are not alone. One thing I have found with with this MB is the more honest you are, the more support you get back. We can all say we really know how you feel. We are all at different stages of our sobriety/ trying to find the courage to give up, and you are not alone.
Please keep in touch, and please please feel that you can really pour your heart out.
This MB for me has been a god send, actually speaking to people who can say 'I know how you feel'
xxx
My heart is so with you, I too am driven by the inner voice, that just seems to take over & before you know it you have brought a bottle of vodka and it all kind of goes pear shape.
This MB has really given me inspiration, every one has been so helpful and friendly and encouraging, they are really an inspiration. Stick with this MB, keep posting messages, we are here to support you. You are not alone. One thing I have found with with this MB is the more honest you are, the more support you get back. We can all say we really know how you feel. We are all at different stages of our sobriety/ trying to find the courage to give up, and you are not alone.
Please keep in touch, and please please feel that you can really pour your heart out.
This MB for me has been a god send, actually speaking to people who can say 'I know how you feel'
xxx
Once again I feel that I have found a place where I can come to and get support, so I thank you all. Just to clarify Im a 22 year old guy, who has gone the most 2 weeks with out a drink since I was 15. Its usually vodka, no mixing and for parts of my life it would be without a chaser. I know that we have control over our lives and everyone of us can beat this habit, I know it, otherwise I wouldnt say it because I only speak the truth. We must surround ourselves with good positive people who are caring and like to enjoy life, with out the booze. To answer Heartaches question yeah I do have some history of it in my family. 2 uncles lost their lives because of it, I have a huge family. Also I have never been to AA. Thank you everyone, your not alone!!! So lets do this and enjoy the life we have been given without the interruptions of alcohol.
Thanks K
Thanks K
Hi, Again K. You sound as if you are really serious about getting rid of alcohol in your life. Read all you can on here...all the 12 step info and addiction info and inspirational info. It really does help you get a clear understanding of how and why. Pay attention to your family history...there's just no escaping the fact that this disease is hereditary....and progressive. You will find a lot of help here. And if you can make it to a meeting you will meet some new friends and soon find yourself doing sober things and having fun. I can't wait to see your progress day by day. Good luck to you.
P.S. not sure why but the alcohol board doesn't get as many posts and responses...but all the information works for all addicts...so post on all the boards. Many of the pain pills members have experience with alcoholism too and will help.
I found out the hard way how alcohol is so addicting not only does it cause me to drink but it causes me to drug. It makes my decissions for me I had a heart attack 31 that was just summer of 2004 and had to go into today in the ER for Meth I would not even have touch that stuff it wasn't for this alcoholism that I have. I was given another chance so this time I will attend support groups church and what ever it takes to beat this thing but I am scared that I might fail. I hope talking to u people with the same issue will help. It will really help if u guys respond to this because today is the day that I made up my mind to stop this thing that is destroying my life
you have made the first step. think your not alone and your going to die if you continue. so keep your self busy at all times, have schedualed plans such as school and then work after school that way your busy and keeps your mind kind of on other things. gota find a new lifestyle, i konw nothing bout dope addiction but booze is pretty addictive, so sign up for karate classes, or something. thats what im doing as soon as i change up my schedual, that way i can get the high from pain and have a new click of friends. good luck
thank you for the good advice I really appreicate it alot. I will do my very best to keep busy and positive. Tommorrow morning will be the first time in about 7 yrs I will be going back to church it has always been a positive and motivating feeling. Alcohol is so powerful that I would find a babysitter for my 5 yr old so that I could go out drinking and not have to deal with her the next morning. I feel so guilty and it gets me depressed when I look at her, she doesn't deserve this. I just hope I am strong enough to do this. Thanks agian and I am glad this site is here so I am able to share my feelings and stories with u people
The following caught my eye:
"I mean I cant talk to my boss or family about the real, real world of mine and the drinking."
As far as the boss goes, as long as he/she has no problems with your work performance, it is none of their business. I am interested, however, in why you feel you cannot discuss this with your family, or at least one particular family member. Alcoholism tends to be a disease of secrets, half-truths, and outright lies. An important component of recovery is being honest, especially with those who love you. A combination of family support and an honest effort to give AA a chance will get you on the right road, in my humble opinion.
Brandon
It just is such a secret life, i have to keep everything hidden from those that sorround me at work where i spend alot of my time because it can do me wrong. I have mentioned it to certain family members and they said well whenever you want just come over and hang with us but that dosent help, it feels like i need someone to baby me and check on me or something, im not really sure.
Typically, any large project that one undertakes begins with a Plan of some sort. It seems as though you lack a Plan to quit drinking, which could very well lead to endless relapses. Posting on this message board is great, but by itself, it is not likely to be any kind of long term solution for you. Several people have provided you with helpful suggestions. I am curious if you have developed a plan of action to solve your problem, what that plan entails, and most importantly of all, whether you are sufficiently motivated to execute the plan. Ben Franklin once said that Hope makes a great breakfast but a lousy dinner. Food for thought.
Brandon
Brandon
Thanks for carrying Brandon and I appreciate your response and I thank you for your time. EVERY project has a plan; otherwise it would not be a project. I do have a plan and joining this message board is the first step, because I am sick of it. We only get one life, why get the same feeling. Sure Ive gone from 3 handles a week to a half pint a day, and thats not a part of the plan its just me Growing up with the addiction because of my mistakes as I was younger. I also know that the MB is not just going to automatically make my life a sober kingdom full of wonders and happiness. I might have to drink everyday because I dont know life without it but Im not stupid, I plan to use this as a support tool to help me start my project and help me start living a life without this crap thats always been a part of it. Anyways my plan is set and I need generous people like yourself to help me through it. By the way whats your story?
lindy10@optonline.net
Hi, My name is Linda, I am a 38 year old Alcoholic for the past 20 years. I went to Rehab in 2003 after I lost my mother at 57. I almost lost my job, I was drinking on the job. I couldn't even take a shower in the morning without belting down large amounts of vodka. I thought noone would know. I didn't think I would appear drunk as all the vodka did was stop my shakes and nausea. My husband forced me into rehab. I went for 28 days and completed the program with my Employers Full Support and my Family's Support. In the past 2 years since my "Sobriety" I have been divorced and had to move from my home and am trying life alone. I was sober for 1 1/2 years and something told me I deserved to drink "a liitle" to congratulate myself on taking charge of my life.
What a mistake! I am back to my old habits, Lying to people I love. Emoitionally, Spirtually and Physically sick once again. I am so disgusted with myself I cannot even see straight anymore. They told me in Rehab, once you go back it will be 100% worse than where you left off. Please know this is true. I fight with myself every day not to stop off at the Liquor Store. It doesn't work. I can stop drinkining for a few days but once I feel better I go back to the bottle. Alcohol will make you forget how sick it makes you feel and that you would never want to go back there again.
I do not not what to do. I know I will be on the verge of losing everything I have worked for in the past 1 year 1/2 if I continue to drink. I feel like I am losing control of my life.
Thank you for listening.........
Hi, My name is Linda, I am a 38 year old Alcoholic for the past 20 years. I went to Rehab in 2003 after I lost my mother at 57. I almost lost my job, I was drinking on the job. I couldn't even take a shower in the morning without belting down large amounts of vodka. I thought noone would know. I didn't think I would appear drunk as all the vodka did was stop my shakes and nausea. My husband forced me into rehab. I went for 28 days and completed the program with my Employers Full Support and my Family's Support. In the past 2 years since my "Sobriety" I have been divorced and had to move from my home and am trying life alone. I was sober for 1 1/2 years and something told me I deserved to drink "a liitle" to congratulate myself on taking charge of my life.
What a mistake! I am back to my old habits, Lying to people I love. Emoitionally, Spirtually and Physically sick once again. I am so disgusted with myself I cannot even see straight anymore. They told me in Rehab, once you go back it will be 100% worse than where you left off. Please know this is true. I fight with myself every day not to stop off at the Liquor Store. It doesn't work. I can stop drinkining for a few days but once I feel better I go back to the bottle. Alcohol will make you forget how sick it makes you feel and that you would never want to go back there again.
I do not not what to do. I know I will be on the verge of losing everything I have worked for in the past 1 year 1/2 if I continue to drink. I feel like I am losing control of my life.
Thank you for listening.........
K,
My story is that I'm a recovering drunk. I like to read message boards like this to share and receive information. It sounds like your Plan is this message board and church (did you go to church today?) and I hope it works for you!!
Regards,
Brandon
My story is that I'm a recovering drunk. I like to read message boards like this to share and receive information. It sounds like your Plan is this message board and church (did you go to church today?) and I hope it works for you!!
Regards,
Brandon
hi Brandon I plan to do more than just the message board and church, the only reason I wanted to go back to church was that I remeber when I was attending it once a week I was sober and had a positive life, that is one step and this evening I also attend a meeting which I will continue to do. This point in my life I know church once a week will not help I need those meetings to remind that I am a acoholic and the message board at home so I am feeling pretty safe at the moment, my hard time is when the weekend approaches, the weekdays are simple for me but I still got to be careful, but I feel great and motivated to stay sober at the time. thanks for listening I really appreciate itBrandon
