Hi I hope I have came to the right place! My sister use to be the person I always looked up to being the youngest of three! She's beautiful and had everything going for her! She has 4 beautiful kids! Over the past 3 years she has struggled with alcohol, though we didn't think as bad to start doing other stuff! Then we started noticing a big change and found out she was doing this "dusting" using the canned air! It's getting worse and she is refusing help! How do you force someone not willing to get help? We don't want her kids to go into foster care! Will they allow the kids to stay with family? This is something unexpected for our family and don't know we're to turn to!
So I take it no one meaning your sisters mother and father has ever had a case were the Department of Children and Families Services was involved. And do u mind me asking what state are u in ?
No it's ok! My sister is 34 and my dad pretty much raises the kiddos! LOVES them with all his heart! We live in Missouri!
I'm sorry! But no neither one has NEVER had a DFS case! My mom is in Iraq now but my dad takes care of my niece and nephews!
Okay the reason why I ask is because if children services would get involved then ur dad can get custody of them. I'm in California and over here if you had an open case on you before no matter how long ago it was then you can't get custody. So if they do get involved then your dad will be able to get them so they don't go into foster care. You should have your dad have a sit down talk with her. I'm a heroin addict. I rite now have an open case with me and my four month old daughter. She is not with me. I'm only allowed to see her 2 days a week for one hour each day. That ain't s***. Your dad should tell her to get right before someone does call on her and then she's gonna be forced into doing all this s***. It's not fun. It's not fun at all. Cps have threaten me, lied to me and my family. They get a bigger check for every child that they do put in foster care. So why wouldn't they want to. Get it?. Look if you need anything, let me know please. Cause if I can help anyone not go thru this then its my pleasure. I'm 35 and this is my first child. It's sad. To have to be on someone's else's time. So if she needs to get sober she should do it now on her own time. Instead of having to be on they're time and pissing in a cup while a lady sits there to watch you and literally staring at you down there. So also check Supreme Court's in your state. And also Department of Children and Families Services. The Supreme court's should give you alot of info. Maybe show her so she can see what she'll be up against. And remember if you need anything else I'm more then happy to be here for you
Dear ANC,
Recovery is up to her. There really isn't anything you can do. Each addict has their own bottom to where they have finally "had enough". They will change, only when the pain of change is less than the pain of not changing.
It doesn't sound like you are enabling based on your post. If you were, I would encourage you to stop as it places the consequences of the addict's behavior back onto them (thus raising their bottom).
Have you tried a family intervention? There are professionals that can help you - consult your nearest treatment center.
Recovery is up to her. There really isn't anything you can do. Each addict has their own bottom to where they have finally "had enough". They will change, only when the pain of change is less than the pain of not changing.
It doesn't sound like you are enabling based on your post. If you were, I would encourage you to stop as it places the consequences of the addict's behavior back onto them (thus raising their bottom).
Have you tried a family intervention? There are professionals that can help you - consult your nearest treatment center.
