I to have someone very special to me who is on Meth, formerly my best friend better known as my older sister. She has probably been using for about 2+ years. She is a single mother with precious child who will be two very soon. She adores him and he adores her. I hate seeing how it is changing her. She has not admitted to using, but we know that she is. When she is confronted she snaps on us. She has been very horrible to my family and I, especially if we won't help her. She doesn't work and she uses her son as a wildcard for us to give her money. Recently, most of us have stopped except for our mother who always gives in.
I used to be very angry about this drug. I hate it and used to hate everyone who uses and sells it. I even began hating my sister, I would accuse her and she would deny, causing me to explode and want to get physical with her and treatening to have her son taken away from her. This has pushed us away from each other. After praying for so long about what I needed to do I have decided that I need to go and talk calmly with her. I have shed so many tears and it burdens me to see the way that it is effecting her and how it will effect her son as he gets older. She currently lives in on a mountain which people call "Meth Mountain" and I know that it is very important that she gets away. She even has people who will give her the drug if she can't afford it.
I have been researching online about meth because I have not used and do not know how it works. It has been very discouraging looking in the Forums and seeing that people who have loved ones who are addicts are being told that the can do nothing and are being told to run and don't look back.
Is there anyone out there who has a story about someone overcoming this addiction and how they were able to help?
I'm working on my own success I hope , been using 35 years and know how hard it is quitting .I know it isnt what you want to read or hear . if she is on place called meth mountain she will not quit , Even if she wanted to , I have doubts to one staying clean in vicinity of it. I live at what was (still is maybe , dont know) the meth capitol of the world . I was clean a couple months away from here, came back ...was strong......for a day or so . back to square one . You have figured out that forcing doesnt work and you have realized beingcalm might work better , good start , have never known anyone who quit being told to . Sad fact of this addiction is that recovery comes only from the addict having the desire to quit (in my experiences , from friends I have seen quit)even then with them wanting to quit it took 2 times in a inhouse program , the first time they thought the problem was only meth , a beer and a bowl of weed was ok. nope, didnt work thatway . it took staying away from everything and everyone that used to make it . I am moving 2500 miles away from here to make what I hope will be a final parting of me and my friend meth.read thru as many forums , learn as much as you can , be your sisters rock of reality , help her when it is for right reasons , let her fall when it is not , the bottom is all that wakes some of us up , best wishes, good luck , and come talk any time , hope this might help somewhat
Hi there,
My heart goes out to you. I am a recovering meth addict. I used for 20 years. I now have 51/2 years in recovery and YES RECOVERY HAPPENS, however the truth is it only happens when the addict is ready. I have a sister and a daughter out there using and there is nothing I can do for them but love them. I don't get caught up in their disease or try to talk them into changing or tell them they have to stop. I understand what their going through and like a person who is sick we don't throw them away. Sure I worry but then I turn to God for comfort knowing there is a reason for everything that happens even the stuff we don't like or understand. I spent 20 years trying to make drugs work. I hurt a lot of people and made a lot of mistakes. I could get stuck in regret but instead I found purpose and meaning to all those years of drug abuse. I am now a addiction treatment specialist and work with women. The point I am trying to make is drug addicts do some really ugly stuff while their on drugs, however they can and do clean up and get their life back together. So don't give up or lose hope. Addiction is very wicked and it can suck the life out of a person and all that my be involved. I suggest you learn as much as you can to help yourself. Get a support system. Try your best not to personalize your sister's drug use.As much as it may feel like it is being personally done to you, It's all about getting high and getting high some more doing whatever it takes. Take care and God Bless you.
Denise
My heart goes out to you. I am a recovering meth addict. I used for 20 years. I now have 51/2 years in recovery and YES RECOVERY HAPPENS, however the truth is it only happens when the addict is ready. I have a sister and a daughter out there using and there is nothing I can do for them but love them. I don't get caught up in their disease or try to talk them into changing or tell them they have to stop. I understand what their going through and like a person who is sick we don't throw them away. Sure I worry but then I turn to God for comfort knowing there is a reason for everything that happens even the stuff we don't like or understand. I spent 20 years trying to make drugs work. I hurt a lot of people and made a lot of mistakes. I could get stuck in regret but instead I found purpose and meaning to all those years of drug abuse. I am now a addiction treatment specialist and work with women. The point I am trying to make is drug addicts do some really ugly stuff while their on drugs, however they can and do clean up and get their life back together. So don't give up or lose hope. Addiction is very wicked and it can suck the life out of a person and all that my be involved. I suggest you learn as much as you can to help yourself. Get a support system. Try your best not to personalize your sister's drug use.As much as it may feel like it is being personally done to you, It's all about getting high and getting high some more doing whatever it takes. Take care and God Bless you.
Denise
