Hello. I am So Very Confused. Please if someone can help! Recently found out my daughter is on Heroine.It has been so heart breaking...
She wants to go to a Methadone clinic to get off of Heroine. I was already to say yes.... lets do it. BUT then talking to one recovering addict & another & another...EVERYONE was Saying, Don't let her do it - Explaining how bad methadone is - trading one drug for another...etc etc.
I was told do the "tough love " Tell her detox or get out. That I can't enable and I Never should help her with Methadone, the worse thing to do. So I told her No to the methadone clinic - I can't support it.... It will only hurt her more. I explained.....She is 21 years old. IF she chooses to do methadone - I can't/ won't support her. She is out of my house unless she detox, by going to a facility. So that is what I did. I gave her till tomorrow to agree to go to detox. Thus far she only wants to do methadone....
Its breaking my heart to give her this ultimatum - I am Standing firm, & telling her I love her w/everything I am. She is begging me to help her- Now in this forum, I am reading about many who do methadone - parents taking their kids etc. And it seems its a viable option?? I am SO CONFUSED! Everything I am told Says Don't let her do it! Everything I read says it's a big mistake! BUT Now So many are doing Ok on Methadone? Pls I need help in knowing Is Methadone a viable option? Is it a mistake, So Confused now?
I just want to help my daughter to get better. To get her off of Heroine .Is Methadone a help? OR a very big Mistake? Should I only Support Detox and a program - I want to do what right for her.... I am So Confused now what that is...
Any advice would be deeply appreciated! Ty!
How long has she been using? Has she already tried multiple times to stop ? How bad is her habit ? Methadone saved my life...but only after I spent years trying to stay off the dope ...in my opinion it's a last option and for the truly desperate .. but only my humble opinion
I'm on methadone maintenance and have been for over 2 years. I am now tapering off because I felt ready and nobody told me to get off but myself. Just like Con asked how many times has she tried to quit and how bad is the habit? She should try to quit on her own before resorting to methadone. It would be nice if she could get off it without depending on a medicine. I've tried to quit twice cold turkey and constantly relapsed before deciding to go on MMT. This is from my own experience as I'm telling you. Once I got on MMT all my cravings and withdraws from heroin were completely gone. I never relapsed again, therefore, MMT saved my life so I can raise my son without worrying about heroin anymore. I believe that you should never kick her out for getting off heroin and getting help from MMT. Shes not doing anything illegal at that point. When she goes to MMT she will have a counselor she will be talking to once a month or so and she will be under doctors supervision. You should support her decision to take methadone to help her get off heroin. You don't know what shes going through mentally and physically with this addiction. You cant completely understand something like this unless you went through it. And this is what pisses me off about people downing on methadone and saying its mistake. Its not a mistake for me, I never felt that way. If it wasn't for methadone and I don't know if I could have the will power to get off without it. Don't listen to everyone and make your own decision on what your going to support not based on what people say. Go to the clinic, talk to the doctor or counselors and get educated on what MMT can do for your kid. I know that MMT clinics do drug testing every month randomly to check if they are using heroin or other drugs also. If methadone could help your child like it did for me then she will do fine. but I really feel parents should support their kids that are on methadone especially if they are truly trying to stay away from heroin or pills. If she is going to use methadone for only what its purpose is then you should support it. And this is exactly why I keep my treatment private only because of what people say about methadone. There is only one person is my life besides the clinic that knows I'm on methadone. People get too judgmental about it and I don't need that in my life. I know what I'm doing is saving my life from heroin.
