What happened and what did or are you going to do about it besides make exuses and mess up those babies for life? They'll grow up thinking this is normal. Wish I could speak from experience, I've not been there myself, but reading your posts is starting to anger me. At you. At first it was at her, now its at you. You have a choice, the girls don't. You must make choices for them, and the right ones at that. They will grow up terrified, insecure and it will interfere in future relationships, its a stat, it will happen, it is inevitable.
If you love your daughters, you will put an end to this hell that YOU are making them live in. Once and for all....Briar
danny,
I was wondering that myself. You've posted about everything, and let us all kind
of know whats going on in your life. Now that things have settled a bit, and the smoke has cleared here a bit, what are you going to do about this situation?
I was wondering that myself. You've posted about everything, and let us all kind
of know whats going on in your life. Now that things have settled a bit, and the smoke has cleared here a bit, what are you going to do about this situation?
We each have our process. I too wonder what Danny will do.
All I can say is look at your situation a bit Danny.
I think we are safe in saying you want things different.
Nobody wants or deserves to be abused, beaten or treated poorly.
I challenge you to look though at what is the gain you are receiving in this situation??? Yes I said a gain ........ there is one. There always is. It might not be the truth but it's what is in your mind.
Dig deep for it lies within. And you don't have to write it here.
It can be a number of things for example, she brings in the money for now,
I get sympathy from others, I get to have my kids, I don't have to lose the house, my kids are safer like this ........ the list goes on and on.
Then ask yourself ................
Are you willing to give up that gain whatever it is?
What is it you really want? What is it you need? Write it down.
First, you gotta be real clear on what you want.
Then you gotta see it .......... if you leave her or have her leave what do you invision happening? You have the house, the kids, ..............................
See it, feel it, do it. You are intelligent Danny, you,
deep down have all the answers. If you have a hard time uncovering it,
gather information, get a counselor, professional adivse to help you.
If you need legal advice .......... go get it. Do whatever you have to do
to have your life be what you want and need it to be.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
You are only guaranteed more of the same.
At some point, however hard it is, we have to look at the real issues and be
totally honest with ourselves.
You are worthy of a good life.
May you find your direction soon and may your children be safe throughout this process.
PM
All I can say is look at your situation a bit Danny.
I think we are safe in saying you want things different.
Nobody wants or deserves to be abused, beaten or treated poorly.
I challenge you to look though at what is the gain you are receiving in this situation??? Yes I said a gain ........ there is one. There always is. It might not be the truth but it's what is in your mind.
Dig deep for it lies within. And you don't have to write it here.
It can be a number of things for example, she brings in the money for now,
I get sympathy from others, I get to have my kids, I don't have to lose the house, my kids are safer like this ........ the list goes on and on.
Then ask yourself ................
Are you willing to give up that gain whatever it is?
What is it you really want? What is it you need? Write it down.
First, you gotta be real clear on what you want.
Then you gotta see it .......... if you leave her or have her leave what do you invision happening? You have the house, the kids, ..............................
See it, feel it, do it. You are intelligent Danny, you,
deep down have all the answers. If you have a hard time uncovering it,
gather information, get a counselor, professional adivse to help you.
If you need legal advice .......... go get it. Do whatever you have to do
to have your life be what you want and need it to be.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
You are only guaranteed more of the same.
At some point, however hard it is, we have to look at the real issues and be
totally honest with ourselves.
You are worthy of a good life.
May you find your direction soon and may your children be safe throughout this process.
PM
Danny whatever your going through hun we are here for you ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))) jackie xx
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Danny,
I'm sure you love your daughters, but I have to agree with Briar. You sound like an intelligent guy, but this makes no sense to me at all. To keep those children in that situation is criminal to me. It is just not fair to them at all. YOU have to be the one to stand up and do something about this - NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES. And like Jackie says, we are here for you no matter what.
Love,
Marie
I'm sure you love your daughters, but I have to agree with Briar. You sound like an intelligent guy, but this makes no sense to me at all. To keep those children in that situation is criminal to me. It is just not fair to them at all. YOU have to be the one to stand up and do something about this - NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES. And like Jackie says, we are here for you no matter what.
Love,
Marie
