Hi to you all , hope your all copeing with things.
Last I heard from my daughter was sunday morning , hav't heard from here since . She came around asking for money,did'nt give it to her,but as she was going I did'nt tell her I loved her and now I hav'nt seen her for two days.
I know she has been smoking heroine but the people she is bothering with now inject,what if she starts doing that.She does'nt seem to mind not being at home now,and I had such hopes that by telling her to leave it would bring her to her sense's.
I think now the intial shock is over she is adapting to living from hand to mouth.I don't seem to want to do anything , all I seem to see his her laying somewhere out of it. She is nineteen people tell me she is not ready to come off the stuff yet ,but how lower must she fall, or do I just wait for a phone call to say some thing has happend to her
Sorry for all the bad thoughts just had to tell you all how I was feeling nobody else seems to understand.
Love to you all Welsh Lady
Hi Welsh lady,
I'm sorry. It is so hard loving someone and wanting the best for them and worrying that they're throwing it all away. Forgive me, but I wonder if you're in danger of throwing what YOU have away?
It's beautiful here in Cardiff today. I'm pretty sure the sky must be gorgeous where you are, and where your daughter is, too. I hope you can see its beauty despite your hurt. None of us know what the future holds and tomorrow is another day. It might be cold and wet, or brighter than today....only time will tell. In the meantime your life is only one beautiful day - today. It is only ever today for all of us.
What are you going to do with this beautiful day?
I hope tomorrow brings sunshine into your life.....but we can only live the day we have.
I hope your daughter makes different choices soon, just as I hope my ex does. And now I'm going to take a walk in the sunshine and look closely at the snowdrops and daffodils and apple blossom.
God bless.
I'm sorry. It is so hard loving someone and wanting the best for them and worrying that they're throwing it all away. Forgive me, but I wonder if you're in danger of throwing what YOU have away?
It's beautiful here in Cardiff today. I'm pretty sure the sky must be gorgeous where you are, and where your daughter is, too. I hope you can see its beauty despite your hurt. None of us know what the future holds and tomorrow is another day. It might be cold and wet, or brighter than today....only time will tell. In the meantime your life is only one beautiful day - today. It is only ever today for all of us.
What are you going to do with this beautiful day?
I hope tomorrow brings sunshine into your life.....but we can only live the day we have.
I hope your daughter makes different choices soon, just as I hope my ex does. And now I'm going to take a walk in the sunshine and look closely at the snowdrops and daffodils and apple blossom.
God bless.
As hard as it is to do you have to live outside of the pain because no matter how hard you worry, wonder, and make yourself weak it is she who has to bare this burden. You are her mom and it is veru undrstandable that you want to take her pain and make it your own but she chose addiction....not you! Martin hit a point.....get out and enjoy the day if but for the moment. Do something for yourself.....steal a moment for yourself to just breathe! Don't let HER pain consume you!
Those questions can best be answered by her and her alone!
All the best to you in this trying time!
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Those questions can best be answered by her and her alone!
All the best to you in this trying time!
Take a deep breath
My son seemed to like being out in the first few weeks, then little by little I would hear about all the normal that was here as opposed to what living out was like. He would talk of how much different is was, and he was staying with his gf but there was not herethere was chaos and lots of arguments and to many people and no real food, and I really believe it helped him understand that there is a better, to find something in himself as to what he wanted in lifeand he seemed to miss the normal
He was just 20 when he split in the middle of the night pissed cause we had boundaries and he didnt want to live by them. For some reason I was removed from putting him out which was what I was going to do the next day, and I understand that was a gift to me when he left on his ownIt is really hard when they bolt like this although I got lucky he called all the time, and I know now why he did cause I didnt ride his a** about getting clean, actually I would tell him this is your life you want to smoke a crack pipe, then so be itI aint going to argue but I am going to make sure your sisters are safe and that this home is a home not a place where insanity runs the day
I knew he had the capacity to understand the difference between living and merely existingI knew he could change his life and would when he wanted toI never looked at it with him as something was set in stone, would be foreverI always believed, and honestly is there ever a reason not too
I wish I could promise beyond a shadow of the doubt that she will be ok, and find her way but that is up to her, and she does hold the key inside to find a most wonderful lifeLet this be hers, let her shine, as she will in her time always..
Don't forget to believe...
Be good to you,
Love,
Tina
My son seemed to like being out in the first few weeks, then little by little I would hear about all the normal that was here as opposed to what living out was like. He would talk of how much different is was, and he was staying with his gf but there was not herethere was chaos and lots of arguments and to many people and no real food, and I really believe it helped him understand that there is a better, to find something in himself as to what he wanted in lifeand he seemed to miss the normal
He was just 20 when he split in the middle of the night pissed cause we had boundaries and he didnt want to live by them. For some reason I was removed from putting him out which was what I was going to do the next day, and I understand that was a gift to me when he left on his ownIt is really hard when they bolt like this although I got lucky he called all the time, and I know now why he did cause I didnt ride his a** about getting clean, actually I would tell him this is your life you want to smoke a crack pipe, then so be itI aint going to argue but I am going to make sure your sisters are safe and that this home is a home not a place where insanity runs the day
I knew he had the capacity to understand the difference between living and merely existingI knew he could change his life and would when he wanted toI never looked at it with him as something was set in stone, would be foreverI always believed, and honestly is there ever a reason not too
I wish I could promise beyond a shadow of the doubt that she will be ok, and find her way but that is up to her, and she does hold the key inside to find a most wonderful lifeLet this be hers, let her shine, as she will in her time always..
Don't forget to believe...
Be good to you,
Love,
Tina
Welsh Lady, my heart breaks for you..........honestly I am so sorry.
Can't be no help to ya with this...........I just know I feel so bad for you and your daughter.
Can't be no help to ya with this...........I just know I feel so bad for you and your daughter.
Welsh Lady, what Bryn said.. My sentiments exactly. Take care, Kev
Dear Welsh Lady,
I don't know if it was suggested to you before or not but you might want to post on the Families/Partners of Addicts forum as well. There are a lot of wonderful, caring people over there too who have been in your shoes . Just a suggestion.
Keeping you and your daughter in my prayers.
Love,
Susan
I don't know if it was suggested to you before or not but you might want to post on the Families/Partners of Addicts forum as well. There are a lot of wonderful, caring people over there too who have been in your shoes . Just a suggestion.
Keeping you and your daughter in my prayers.
Love,
Susan
