my son is 18. he has moved out and quit school his senior year. This isn't the first time that he has left home, he left last summer for 4 months came home when he hit rock bottom and he told me about "trying" coccaine. He behaved and followed the rules. didn't want to leave home again, and was glad that he was home, then all of sudden after nearly 4 months he was back to the sass talking etc, then he decided he wanted to move out, again. Since turning 18 moved out again, to be a "man" and take care of himself. I am seeing him spiral downhill. He gets angry so easily. He tells me or "promises me that he will go to school and the next day he doesn't". He tells me he isn't on drugs, but I found out for sure today from a guy that lives with him that he is on both. Which I knew he was. You see my son has always lied and I have always known the truth but it hurts when I try to believe him and he still lies. Now that he is 18 I can't do anything by law, he is an "adult". I have talked and talked to get him home, but saids he is fine. I am so worried that he is going to end up in jail, just like his birth mom. He doesn't remember her and knows me as the only mom he has ever had. We raised him not to do all of this stuff, but I realize everyone else has to, but he is still just like her. I just recently found out his birth mom is in jail and I told him. I have never lied to him about anything. My husband has tried to talk to him, but it doesn't work and he doesn't even try anymore. Any suggestions? Thank you, I am leaving a fake name in case he or one of his friends happens to get on this web site.
Dear parent, Go to families and partners of addicts. Up above in main categories. It's a much more active posting group. They have more experience in helping out the families. This group jumps aboard when an addict asks for help. You'll learn recovery is something that can't be given unless the addict wants the help. And is ready to quit. Sorry I can't help more and I pray everything works out for your son. with care and concern,,,,Linda
It is so sad when i read your post ...........I am a addict and as I read i saw myself in your son thats part of addiction................ the lieing the lies i have told it is just sick i know my mother loves me and i put her through hell as i look back now my mom was my gratest enabler she would always pick me up when i thought i had hit my bottem which allowed me to continue using you will get sick and tired of helping him as my mom did and when my mom quit picking me up that is when i did finally hit my bottem and i got help i am not saying it is a easy process.............but that is what it is a process i wish you and your son the best god bless you both
shorty, are you still with us ?
