hi, we recently found out our 22 yr. old son was using heroin the past 6 months. He just started a methadone clinic and is starting to feel better. He is working, looks better, and attends groups and sessions daily. It has be a lot to deal with and admit. We are helping him financially. But It is hard not to enable at times. We are having him be responsible for his own appointments, he even has a date book to keep his schedule straight.
We are talking to him a lot and he is sharing more.
But sometimes he is so irresponsible with money and is in debt. We do help him with some of it. It seems like we walk a fine line and I know it could explode at any moment.
I sure hope he makes it. Maryann
Dear Mary Ann,
Welcome to the ARG message board. I'm so glad you found us. God lead me to it too when I was in complete desperation over my son's heroin addiction. After a LOT of heartache, my son went to rehab and now has almost 13 months heroin free. Praise God!
There are a lot of forums on this board and one of them is called Families/Partners of Addicts. There are a lot of people on there who have been through what you're going through and they'd be very happy to help you. There are a LOT of great people on this forum too who will help you to understand your addict and what he is going through. To get to the Families/Partners forum, click on Main Categories at the top of this page, then click on the 12th one down (Families/Partners of Addicts), then click Post New Topic like you did here. If you know how to copy and paste you could highlight it, click copy, and then take your post over there too. I will keep you in my prayers and get back to you tomorrow. I have to get to bed before I lose the whole night's sleep! lol
God bless!
Susan
Welcome to the ARG message board. I'm so glad you found us. God lead me to it too when I was in complete desperation over my son's heroin addiction. After a LOT of heartache, my son went to rehab and now has almost 13 months heroin free. Praise God!
There are a lot of forums on this board and one of them is called Families/Partners of Addicts. There are a lot of people on there who have been through what you're going through and they'd be very happy to help you. There are a LOT of great people on this forum too who will help you to understand your addict and what he is going through. To get to the Families/Partners forum, click on Main Categories at the top of this page, then click on the 12th one down (Families/Partners of Addicts), then click Post New Topic like you did here. If you know how to copy and paste you could highlight it, click copy, and then take your post over there too. I will keep you in my prayers and get back to you tomorrow. I have to get to bed before I lose the whole night's sleep! lol
God bless!
Susan
I feel for you Mary Ann, all parents share in your worry. Just remember he did'nt get hooked overnight, recovery will take time too. Some of us a lifetime. Your doing the right things. Support from the Family is very important. Keep talking, keep Loving, I'll pray for ya.
Maryann,
My name is Darin and I am a recovering addict of 6yrs. Methadone was apart of my story as well. This journey is a trying one that at any moment can jump course. Recovery not only takes time...it takes WORK. Even after the drugs are gone, the addict is still there. Behaviors have to be changed. Then there's the methadone. To me it was like putting plaster over a severed head. Your son has to be very careful with that because(IMO)I saw it as an excuse and it was a choice I regreted making. While on he should QUICKLY get to work on himself and getting off methadone and not look up 10yrs later still on. All the best to you!
My name is Darin and I am a recovering addict of 6yrs. Methadone was apart of my story as well. This journey is a trying one that at any moment can jump course. Recovery not only takes time...it takes WORK. Even after the drugs are gone, the addict is still there. Behaviors have to be changed. Then there's the methadone. To me it was like putting plaster over a severed head. Your son has to be very careful with that because(IMO)I saw it as an excuse and it was a choice I regreted making. While on he should QUICKLY get to work on himself and getting off methadone and not look up 10yrs later still on. All the best to you!
