Hello everyone! I am brand new and I am desperately seeking advice. My husband is addicted to pain pills and it's ruining, more like butchering, our marriage. He takes anywhere from 6-10 pills a day, whatever he can get but usually vicodin or Percocet. He works overtime almost every night, but keeps all the extra money for his habit. I had left him last year in June after 14 yrs because he put us in such a financial hole. Wound up owing 15,000 for pills. He went to a doctor and got on suboxone and took money from his 401k to pay back the money and to save the condo he owns (my name not on it). He was doing well and I had moved back to help him. Well we're heading down the wrong path again and I'm fed up!!! I had a spinal fusion in April and I keep the medication at work because he would do anything to try and get me to give him pills if he knew I had any. He is moody on a good day and on the pills he is a zombie when he is home. I'm left to deal with everything on my own, I work a full-time job, take care of my parents (my dad had two strokes in the last year), have 3 dogs, two birds and a cat, and do all of the house chores by myself. We don't sleep together (he sleeps on the couch) and don't talk cause he sleeps when he is home. I am fighting depression from this situation. Help!!!!
Why are you staying?
For better or worse, in sickness and this IS a sicknes
hi,this sickness is not covered by any marriage contract- we who are addicted to drugs/alcohol do not conform to the usual behaviour expected by a spouse- the drugs will always come first- you cannot change this situation the only person who can change is the addict themselves- i would speculate that he is using alot more than 8-10 pills a day to run up that sort of debt and his consumption on all probability would have increased as he became more tolerant of the drug- this is the normal pattern- having said that the amount is irelevant it is the affect that it is having on your relationship- i would suggest you need to talk to people in a similar situation - look up NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS/NARCOTICS ANON in the local phone book there you will find alot of people in similar situations- you need to reach out to them, you will find them very welcoming and helpful by all accounts- you need to start looking after yourself - he will have to decide himself when/if he is ready to quit- you are not responsible for his addiction or his recovery, if that is what he decides he wants. both addiction and recovery are personal and selfish journeys - only the addict can decide which he wants - either way the addiction or recovery needs to come first in that persons life, though for very different reasons.
I too got into depression because of the addiction of my brother.
He came live with us.
I had to be here to care for my dad and help my mom.
It is not fair that you should suffer because of his addiction.
I am seeking help in order to be able to leave this situation and my mother without feeling guilty.
Maybe you too need some help to realize that you are not able to help your husband but you are destroying yourself.
Good luck
He came live with us.
I had to be here to care for my dad and help my mom.
It is not fair that you should suffer because of his addiction.
I am seeking help in order to be able to leave this situation and my mother without feeling guilty.
Maybe you too need some help to realize that you are not able to help your husband but you are destroying yourself.
Good luck
