survived the weekend , 7 days in , help you self because no one else will . if you want to be a winner , do what has to be done , take control , dont be a professional victim ....
how are you doin? i have made the break today !!!!!! I like your message :)
easier said then done ,,,, addiction sucks
Hey Doinit,
Hows things going?
I just wanted to let you know that you don't have to do this by your self. There are thousands of people willing to help you who have been in the same position you have.
Don't give up giving up. Just ask for help.
All the bast.
MattB
Hows things going?
I just wanted to let you know that you don't have to do this by your self. There are thousands of people willing to help you who have been in the same position you have.
Don't give up giving up. Just ask for help.
All the bast.
MattB
doinit the same old , failed again set new date , monday ,,got to pull out
Ive been on a bit of a bender , beer , pot and ekys , addiction sucks , For a smart guy im not doin a good job ,, very selfish , all about me and my addiction , im in a pot induced ground hog day . Next Monday im gettin my life back , getting traction and going forward and it all starts with the pot ,, first peg in hole . second peg eat well , third back to training .. and all most important be calm at home , be aware of the triggers . and keep away from the hooks that lead to places you dont want to go .. onwards and up wards.................
Hi Doinit
First, a quick question. Why does everyone always set a Monday as a day to give something up. And if they fail always set the date as the next Monday rather than just trying to stop the next day? lol. I did that quite a lot.
Anyway...
I'll tell you what worked for me. I went to 12 step fellowships. Tried to do everything which was sugested to me.
Stoped thinking I knew whats best for me. My thinking got me into that mess.
Made my recovery the most important thing to me.
Got a sponsor (someone to take me through the 12 steps)
Do that and you will really be doin it.
God bless
MattB
First, a quick question. Why does everyone always set a Monday as a day to give something up. And if they fail always set the date as the next Monday rather than just trying to stop the next day? lol. I did that quite a lot.
Anyway...
I'll tell you what worked for me. I went to 12 step fellowships. Tried to do everything which was sugested to me.
Stoped thinking I knew whats best for me. My thinking got me into that mess.
Made my recovery the most important thing to me.
Got a sponsor (someone to take me through the 12 steps)
Do that and you will really be doin it.
God bless
MattB
failed monday , failed tuesday , failed wednesday , no more pot stayed strong been straight for 8 days and i feel great , everything has got better , got my life back again , first 3 days are the hardest , be strong keep away from temptation and good does come , so worth while , Ive been smokin the s*** for 30 years , power to me . Im so scared of a relapse ..I knowhow easy it is to fall back into the cycle . Got to stay positive .. to all just do it . talk is cheap ...
2 weeks in , going strong feeling switched on the fog has cleared ...
Dear Doinit tough,
I am a mother of a 21 yr old also doinit tough. He is also with the Mental Health Unit involuntary. Mental health don't help, they have just becomming more of the problem. every time he messes up he has to stay on his order longer. at this rate he will never get his life back.
I spoke to a re hab centre and the counsellor thier advised me that he had 13 stays in rehab before he stood up and said enough is enough. He is now Counselling at the centre.. This story gives me some hope that my Son will finally see the beautiful person he is inside. His self esteem is just shoot to peices.
Train your mind to only say good things about yourself. Never ever beleive the negitive stuff your mind keeps turning back to.
Treat yourself as you would a friend. Would you ever treat another person the way you treat yourself? you don't sound like that sort of person!!.
Always remember "You are what you think" "You create what you think". and "Where ever you go, their you are" So try to get along with yourself.
Good Luck -
PS - look at the power of positve thinking - or get a copy of the "Secrete" i don't know it may help or at least give you some ideas.
I am a mother of a 21 yr old also doinit tough. He is also with the Mental Health Unit involuntary. Mental health don't help, they have just becomming more of the problem. every time he messes up he has to stay on his order longer. at this rate he will never get his life back.
I spoke to a re hab centre and the counsellor thier advised me that he had 13 stays in rehab before he stood up and said enough is enough. He is now Counselling at the centre.. This story gives me some hope that my Son will finally see the beautiful person he is inside. His self esteem is just shoot to peices.
Train your mind to only say good things about yourself. Never ever beleive the negitive stuff your mind keeps turning back to.
Treat yourself as you would a friend. Would you ever treat another person the way you treat yourself? you don't sound like that sort of person!!.
Always remember "You are what you think" "You create what you think". and "Where ever you go, their you are" So try to get along with yourself.
Good Luck -
PS - look at the power of positve thinking - or get a copy of the "Secrete" i don't know it may help or at least give you some ideas.
Thanks for the words , hope your son goes well .. 90% of my relapses start with my partner .. very little support . makes it a lot harder ..i try again ..
I'm going on 7 months clean now. Did it with the help of a 12 step program My partner still smokes and I will get urges now and then when I see him do it but I have learned some tools thru my program to handle it. Life is good with a clear head:)
been straight for 28 days . Off every thing . pot ,piss, and pills . had a few beers at a party last week . wished i didnt it wasnt nessarcery , I think as drugs go the longest break i have had for many years , The big change came from walking and staying away from the no hope people I used to feed my addiction with , now my head is claer i can see how much they were are a pack of no hopers I anit going back , Every thingelse has got so much better , espealally the relashionship with my family .. I have got my head out of the clouds and life is better than it has been for a lomg long time . My partner has stopped as well which has been a huge help . YOU JUST DONT NEED THE WEED , NO GOOD COMES FROM IT . gOT TO BREAK THE HABIT . get out of the circle . I had a long hard look at myself and i didnt like what i saw , very selfish , all about me and my life sucking habit .. How differant my life would of been had i never got hooked on this terrable drug . I am not missing out on any more life because of it . Im saving a great deal of money , my health is way way better , relashionships going through the roof . its a no brainer . Dakkar is just a crotch , when stoned you dont really have face life in a switched on manner ,, just get stoned again , hang out with other stoner losers and repeat the same s*** over and oaver year in year out ,What a huge waste of a life it can be .. ITS BETTER TO HAVE NO COMPANY THAN BAD COMPANY . Call a spade a spade . It takes time to biuld new relashionships , consentrate on the good ones and as quiek as posable flick the bad ones . With me i had a good old fight at so called friend / drug dealers house which well and truely broke the life sucking cycle . One of the best thing that has happened ...
hey donit,a fink your doing a great job,addiction is so hard a fink you are inspirational,im 10 days today battling a 15yr addiction....... a have been reading your comments,advice and how your coping....Great job!!!!!!
Been off the pot and piss for the 4 mths went to party on weekend , tried to stay strong no joy . So what happens on tuesday my partner goes out and buys dakkar , the cycle starts again , im not getting on that train , interesting times .. she just doesant get it ..
failed again .... whats the point ...
Can someone please tell me how to find out about a 12 step program and how it works.
Good morning Rebeccao,
Take a look at this website
http://www.ma-online.org/schedule.html
for a 12 step online program.
Take a look at this website
http://www.ma-online.org/schedule.html
for a 12 step online program.
had a few relapses , but all in all heading in the right direction , so easy to get hooked again , so hard to re break the cycle and the depression that comes with it sucks , but it a nessasary evil . Another thing is that the old libido for me and my partner goes down hill , the yin and yang of it all .. After smoking pot for to many years and am now straight , my ability to talk and react with people is almost a non event , the cogs just dont turn fast enough to keep a convo going , or is it it just the way i would of allways been like . I feel like a straight loner . Well one day at a time . So easy to just go and score , but I know in my heart of heart that is not the way to go .. just gunna tuff it out ...
Last 2 weeks I weekend . Start again . Clear head time coming . I now by this time next week Ill be feeling great again ,, motivation back , spring in my step and being patr of life . Cant wait . Because ive done it beforew I know i can do it easy , one day just rolls into the next with out effort .... Life is better with out it . I got a 50 said tomyself only on Sundays will I have a smoke , once the brain gets another taste its on for young and old , so easy to get back into a full blown habbit .. scarey . Im not going there I have to much to gain and to much to loose ....
