so i have a sister whom is using heroin and her life has just fallen apart. She's abandoned her kids and husband and is out on the street doing I don't what to survivor. It's been months trying to get her see she needs rehab, but no luck. She has no phone but uses other peoples cell to call friends that will give her money. However, recently she has been calling and saying she's not going to make it through the morning and wants to die. She was crying and we had no way of getting in touch with her or know where she is at. How can I help my sister? She's been saying she wants to die and wants to kill herself and I'm afraid she will because of this addiction. Any tips on how to help please comment.
Please go over to the family board...they will give good advice...as a heroin addict myself...i can say...sadly...there is nothing you can do unless she wants out...dope does crazy s*** to your head after awhile...we usually look for clean time around then...your sister is completing a run...she'll either get clean ...that is...detox...or try to cut back for awhile...we tend to surface during these times...but it's up to her if she's done...
Peace
Con
Peace
Con
Agree fully with Con. The only feelings Ive ever felt when using were depression anxiety and suicidal thoughts especially right before getting clean. I was never happy using I wanted to stop and put down but my addiction was too strong. Hopefully she is at the end of her run and will accept help from her family . I wish you and your family the best.
2 weeks ago I attended the funeral of a 38 yo girl who I used to work with and had sporadic contact on special occasions, she had depression and used alcohol at times to medicate the pain. She left an 11 month old baby and a 12 yo son. Then yesterday my partner heard the news that his chieldhood friend, 12 years clean from cocain and alcohol addiction also lost the battle. He also had 2 kids ages 3 and 5.
I never before had anyone close to me commit suicide and the common factor is that they both posted something strange on Facebook that my partner and I read to each other and said: that's odd. It was a cry for help. And I feel I should have picked up the phone and called just to say that I care, and ask if there is anything I can do to help.
We get tired of being manipulated when dealing with an addicted loved one, but inspire of all the resentment that I, as a codependent, many times create for myself, I rather that than thinking what if... when is already too late.
If my partner called saying he wanted to end his life, I would say: you are loved, we care about you and there is help.
If they are bluffing and it becomes the new trick to try and get us to pay for the next high we will know soon enough and I would have done it for him knowing upfront that it could be the addiction talking and hopefully not allow myself to fall for a trap of my own thinking.
I never before had anyone close to me commit suicide and the common factor is that they both posted something strange on Facebook that my partner and I read to each other and said: that's odd. It was a cry for help. And I feel I should have picked up the phone and called just to say that I care, and ask if there is anything I can do to help.
We get tired of being manipulated when dealing with an addicted loved one, but inspire of all the resentment that I, as a codependent, many times create for myself, I rather that than thinking what if... when is already too late.
If my partner called saying he wanted to end his life, I would say: you are loved, we care about you and there is help.
If they are bluffing and it becomes the new trick to try and get us to pay for the next high we will know soon enough and I would have done it for him knowing upfront that it could be the addiction talking and hopefully not allow myself to fall for a trap of my own thinking.
Over the 27 yrs I've been in recovery I have seen many suffer and die.
The simple truth of HOW IT WORKS has proven itself repeatedly.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-10..._howitworks.pdf
If I don't surrender and apply myself to my program I am on thin ice.
I have a "daily reprieve" if I work my simple program.
If I still want to do it "my way" then I will be back to wanting to kill you .. and me.
All the best.
Bob R
The simple truth of HOW IT WORKS has proven itself repeatedly.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-10..._howitworks.pdf
If I don't surrender and apply myself to my program I am on thin ice.
I have a "daily reprieve" if I work my simple program.
If I still want to do it "my way" then I will be back to wanting to kill you .. and me.
All the best.
Bob R
