Hello
My son is out of rehab (31 days). He is with us now. He was supposed to go to extended care (recommendation from his therapist/addiction counselor) but when we took him to the new facility, it was so bad that we could not let him there. We took him home. Of course this is risky.
We are organizing outpatient aftercare but how do we (his parents) support his sobriety? Any tips would be welcomed. What are the problems facing someone (especially a young teen) coming out of rehab? What are the challenges? What should we be aware of?
Thank you
B.
I taped all of the phone calls to and from my home.
Of course, no cell phone use. No internet use.
How are you going to handle his old friends? Where can your son go and with whom?
Will he be submitting to drug testing?
My son knew that I would search the car and his room.
My son was using on his way to school in the mornings. He eventually started stealing from us.
After rehab, he was clean 100 days.
It has taken 4 years and some maturity on his part, to finally get clean.
I know I am describing a life that sounds like we were policing our son. We had younger children in the home and I really felt like it was up to us to keep our son alive. He did finally have to move out, but we never cut off contact with him.
Amy Seely1954@yahoo.com
Of course, no cell phone use. No internet use.
How are you going to handle his old friends? Where can your son go and with whom?
Will he be submitting to drug testing?
My son knew that I would search the car and his room.
My son was using on his way to school in the mornings. He eventually started stealing from us.
After rehab, he was clean 100 days.
It has taken 4 years and some maturity on his part, to finally get clean.
I know I am describing a life that sounds like we were policing our son. We had younger children in the home and I really felt like it was up to us to keep our son alive. He did finally have to move out, but we never cut off contact with him.
Amy Seely1954@yahoo.com
Thanks Amy
This is so difficult. We have been given advice by the rehab center about not letting him see his former friends and monitoring his activities but this makes him very angry and disrespectful. According to him, I am now on a F*** power trip
I don't know how long I can deal with the anger and the policing. Of course, we are going to get professional help but it is a tough battle.
What adds to the stress is that he does not have friends who don't or have not used. One is in recovery after a month of rehab. My son thinks that he would be appropriate for him to hang out with this kid but my instinct tells me it would be a disaster.
any suggestion is welcomed
This is so difficult. We have been given advice by the rehab center about not letting him see his former friends and monitoring his activities but this makes him very angry and disrespectful. According to him, I am now on a F*** power trip
I don't know how long I can deal with the anger and the policing. Of course, we are going to get professional help but it is a tough battle.
What adds to the stress is that he does not have friends who don't or have not used. One is in recovery after a month of rehab. My son thinks that he would be appropriate for him to hang out with this kid but my instinct tells me it would be a disaster.
any suggestion is welcomed
Well, we always told K that he could have anyone over to the house that he wanted. That didn't happen because the guys wouldn't come if they knew there was no party.
Are you certain he is clean at this point? His language and attitude would make me wonder.
Even though I knew that I couldn't keep my son from using, I was desperate to try and keep him alive.
If necessary, at this point, I would fill the police into the activities of these friends. I sat and watched 2 get arrested and cuffed one night.
Are you certain he is clean at this point? His language and attitude would make me wonder.
Even though I knew that I couldn't keep my son from using, I was desperate to try and keep him alive.
If necessary, at this point, I would fill the police into the activities of these friends. I sat and watched 2 get arrested and cuffed one night.
