As bad as I need money right now I had to tell a potential client last night that I wasn't the right person for them.It nearly killed me too because I'm desperate.I hope God isn't playing some trick on me.
The condensed version is that these people are a referral from a designer I know personally.From the beginning they were indecisive with me and each other.I came up with a landscape design drawing and they both said they loved it.From then on I have met each one seperately and together over at the property and they change it everytime and then say things like"Well,she didn't like that" or "He didn't like that"....in other words they probably are arguing about it at night and then calling me the next day.
After meeting with her the other day was the last straw.She wants to completely f*ck the whole thing up by putting a doggy walkway for "FuFu" her precious s***zu so he can look at people walking down the street.The problem is that is goes through the main part of the garden and screws the whole design up.I asked her "Why can't FuFu just walk on the patio up to the gate?"....my tone might have been a bit acerbic at that point.She grasped her heart as if I was asking her precious dog to walk the plank or something........"Well he likes to walk through the plants and hide"....GREAT
I also had another obnoxious call yesterday about removing something else and I just finally said to myself.It's time to let this go.It might pay for 4 or 5 teeth but then how do I cover my pre-frontal lobotomy when it's over?
I'm getting too old to prostitute myself out anymore.My serenity does not come with a price tag.
My question for today...........HOW EASY IS IT FOR YOU TO SAY NO NOW THAT YOU'RE SOBER AND CLEAN?
Tim,
I sense your desperation and your financial need.
It is easy for some to say that God will take care of this, but when you are in the depths of despair it is not too reassuring..........
My thoughts though after reading about this is that God might be keeping you out of a impossible work situation which in the long run would be a nightmare.
Keep praying b/c it is amazing how He can put another job in your path.
Having faith is hard at times.........boy do I know!
-Gentlepeace
I sense your desperation and your financial need.
It is easy for some to say that God will take care of this, but when you are in the depths of despair it is not too reassuring..........
My thoughts though after reading about this is that God might be keeping you out of a impossible work situation which in the long run would be a nightmare.
Keep praying b/c it is amazing how He can put another job in your path.
Having faith is hard at times.........boy do I know!
-Gentlepeace
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Thank You.I couldn't agree with you more.
All that turmoil I put myself through is a direct result of not trusting that God has sent me a message.
The e-mail I sent her was also very kind but to the point.
I am not right for you.
I didn't have to go into some scathing review of how bad I think they acted .....which is what I really wanted to do,or that I really didn't give a rats a** how FuFu got to the fence.
I have to take my own inventory.The less I act up and keep my mouth shut when I need to,the less ammends I have to make.
I have to take my own inventory.The less I act up and keep my mouth shut when I need to,the less ammends I have to make.
No truer words Tim. If I keep taking my own inventory this will keep me humble and busy.
-Gentlepeace
No truer words Tim. If I keep taking my own inventory this will keep me humble and busy.
-Gentlepeace
Tim,
I'm only on day 8. In these past 8 days though I have become frighteningly clear on how I have been completely numbing myself up on and off (mostly on) for the past 8 years. I don't know about saying no yet because I am just trying to learn how to be honest. I never stopped and realized how when you are living as an addict, pretty much every aspect of your life is a lie. I'm feeling a lot of guilt right now. I feel a lot of guilt towards my husband. He is a strong guy with a big heart but he can only take so much. I feel so much guilt towards my 11 year old daughter. She's pretty much never really known what it's like to have a normal mom. I just feel overwhelmed. I hope and pray that one day I will be able to handle life again. I'm sorry if I sidetracked off your topic. Good for you for knowing your limits and putting your health first.
Shelly
I'm only on day 8. In these past 8 days though I have become frighteningly clear on how I have been completely numbing myself up on and off (mostly on) for the past 8 years. I don't know about saying no yet because I am just trying to learn how to be honest. I never stopped and realized how when you are living as an addict, pretty much every aspect of your life is a lie. I'm feeling a lot of guilt right now. I feel a lot of guilt towards my husband. He is a strong guy with a big heart but he can only take so much. I feel so much guilt towards my 11 year old daughter. She's pretty much never really known what it's like to have a normal mom. I just feel overwhelmed. I hope and pray that one day I will be able to handle life again. I'm sorry if I sidetracked off your topic. Good for you for knowing your limits and putting your health first.
Shelly
Tim, I agree with your decision.
You don't need any additonal grief, drama or headaches in your life right now.
You don't need any additonal grief, drama or headaches in your life right now.
That was the funniest thing Ive read this morning..about FUFU.. LOLOLOL--- good one tim!! -Ive always had a problem saying no-- always been the people pleaser, or if I do say no I have to go into this elaborate explanation as to why.
I liked your email--- perfect
I liked your email--- perfect
OMG..Tim that takes an enormous amount of integrity. Something that when we are using we don't have much of.
I think its admirable, it isn't easy to take the high road. I have had to say NO several times over the past few month.
Mostly to my immediate family...I have always been hard in business...women, we have to be.
I know you are worried about money right now. Trust me I can relate....hand it over...it is what it is...
My 22 year old son is my knight is shining armour. He told me that he is working hard to buy me the place that I deserve. God bless him. It won't happen. ( not that he couldn't do, I wouldn't let him)..but what a sweet kid. Now that is love!
I think its admirable, it isn't easy to take the high road. I have had to say NO several times over the past few month.
Mostly to my immediate family...I have always been hard in business...women, we have to be.
I know you are worried about money right now. Trust me I can relate....hand it over...it is what it is...
My 22 year old son is my knight is shining armour. He told me that he is working hard to buy me the place that I deserve. God bless him. It won't happen. ( not that he couldn't do, I wouldn't let him)..but what a sweet kid. Now that is love!
Hey Tim...we're not used to taking care of ourselves. We did whatever we had to do, because we are people pleasers. We never thought about what the hardship would be for us. Now we know that we have to take care of ourselves and that means, at times we may not like the bounderies we have to set. You did the right thing, serenity is so important and no one is going to provide it for you. I stopped needing to be the super-mom, do all volunteer about a year into recovery. The only reason I was able to do all of that stuff in the first place was because of the pills. I dont' have the energy for it now. It just gets easier as I go along to say no. I'm in a situation right now where I couldn't say no, wish I could, but can't. I'm miserable. But that's life, right?
Anyone who would name a perfectly innocent dog, "FuFu" should be shunned on general principle.
Good for you. Why work for someone who is impossible to satisfy? I'm sure something better will turn up.
Good for you. Why work for someone who is impossible to satisfy? I'm sure something better will turn up.
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LOL
I had a Rottwelier named Lola so I guess i shouldn't judge.
I can understand pampered pets but this was insane.Actually this womans hair looked exactly like the Sh*tzu's,except I think the dog's looked better groomed.LOL
Send her this link:
Have a pendant made from your pet's hair
In the interests of full disclosure, Tim, I'll tell you that in some cultures, like the French, it is common to repeat the first syllable of a girl's name and use that as her nickname. Hence, DeNae would be Dede, Kerri is KeeKee, Michelle becomes Mimi. And I spent the first 13 years of my life as Gigi.
Poor Fufu. That dog is more to be pitied than censured.
Have a pendant made from your pet's hair
In the interests of full disclosure, Tim, I'll tell you that in some cultures, like the French, it is common to repeat the first syllable of a girl's name and use that as her nickname. Hence, DeNae would be Dede, Kerri is KeeKee, Michelle becomes Mimi. And I spent the first 13 years of my life as Gigi.
Poor Fufu. That dog is more to be pitied than censured.
So if the womans name is Pat, she is Pee-Pee?
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You shouldn't have disclosed that GiGi.
....but since we are telling the truth here.... I didn't return a call about a month ago for a landscape job simply because her name was Heather.In my defense however,you would have had to listen to the message.
"I was like thinking like I needed to get some work done in like my yard and like you know I saw your name on the truck and like I thought I would like call and see if you like did that,you know?".........Call me my name is Heather"LOL
Danny asks-"So if the womans name is Pat, she is Pee-Pee? "
LMAO...........yeah,what about that????
Timmy, Danny,
In the case of a name like Patricia, you would take the syllable from the back rather than the front -- Cici. But I didn't know any Patricias growing up. Just Lulu, Dodo, Bebe...
In the case of a name like Patricia, you would take the syllable from the back rather than the front -- Cici. But I didn't know any Patricias growing up. Just Lulu, Dodo, Bebe...
My Moms name was Patricia.
Everyone called her "Ca-Ca" (not really)
They tried "Pa-Pa" but my Grandfather kept answering instead of her.
My ex's sisters name is Laura, and my kids call her La-La. When they go over there, I tell them they are going to "La-La Land".... No s***...hehe
Everyone called her "Ca-Ca" (not really)
They tried "Pa-Pa" but my Grandfather kept answering instead of her.
My ex's sisters name is Laura, and my kids call her La-La. When they go over there, I tell them they are going to "La-La Land".... No s***...hehe
My mom is Patricia as well, Danny. We just call her Patty. Mom to me. I grew up with a nick name too GiGi...one that I will not be disclosing on this board or any where else for that matter....<eg>
