Anyone one see the documentary on women and heroin on A&E last night? States that women who are physically/sexually abused and come from at least one parent with a drug addiction have about a 70% chance (give or take some percentage) of becoming a drug addict.
No Trooper, did not see it, as I live in the Antipodes, where we get our Cable tv shows sent to us on clipper ships, via Cape Horn...seriously,we are 2 ys behind the US. But what u say is no suprize to me: that shoe fits ME both ways.I was sex-abused as a 9 yr. old & I come from a long line of Scotch-Irish American drunks.My older bro was a Meth Head who graduated to Crack,he's cleaned up.U havent had the fear of god put into u until you tangle w/ a guy 6'5", 200+lbs. who can't score.Part of the reason I bailed home & haven't been back,in fact have taken refuge on the other side of the planet.I think a big BIG reason a lot of us abused gals turn to drugs is the Unspoken,You Provoked Him into Messing With You Thing-even tho that IS NOT TRUE, somehow, in a gal's mind, it twists itself into that thought. Ergo, YOU r the Worst Thing in the World, ergo, you seek Oblivion, Destruction, etc.I know I felt that way about meself, even tho, intellectually I knew it was hogwash.Also, & THIS is a GIANT beef w/ ME, since we find ourselves @ the mercy of Religious Mania,of all stripes, right now: Organized religion says It's all you girls fault: original sin, Eve & the apple, etc.You should hear me take on the Jehova's Witnesses when they come to my door...they run away,literally!If u grew up in a society that found fault w/ u just for something u could not help:ie, being born a girl, well, u would be a bit kooky, too. Also gals are told not to act out their anger. "Girls don't fight!" "Watch yr. temper, little lady"-- I've heard that all my life. So where is the most safest place to take out yr anger? ON YOUR OWN BODY: anorexia, bulimia, cutting, drugs.Something us gals can do to ourselves, quietly, when no one is looking.Thanx for mentioning it, Trooper. I'll look for that clipper ship in about 2 yrs.time!
Interesting that you all brought this up because I have been thinking about it all day; Christmas Eve '04, my daughter, whom I have been talking about came home for holiday; she went out to a party w/some friends that she had worked with over the summer (from Eastern Europe) I got the phone call at 4am Christmas Day that she had been raped by 3 guys, after passing out from straight vodka shots! That was the beginning of this long nightmare that we are still going through...needless to say, the guys were never charged with a crime. She went back to college & leaned on the new boyfriend, who just happened to be a herion addict....one thing leads to another.....it sucks!!! I am really pissed about this whole situation & where will it end? sorry I just need to vent. J
hey alaska, yeah me in the same boat. Raped at 11 years old, and the product of a heroin addicted mother and an acid head for a father. Physical self mutilation came shortly after the rape, and then I found the terrible world of mental sedation. I've still really never delt with half of the poop that's gone on with my life, and in sobriety I've turned to avarice.
MAN One thing about this site, if you thank you got it bad, there's always somebody whose had it worse. I just feel so bad for you guys, I just can't imagine. I hope that since your posting here things are turning around for you'all. I wish you all the luck and love, sounds like you might need some.
No cable for me either Trooper, but I certainly wish I had seen that.
Zekk that is so sweet of you, and compassionate.
Frightened Mom I am so, so sorry to hear that happened to your daughter.
There should definately be more studies done on this. Raped at age eight. Never told. Never did drugs until I was 35. Consequently my own child was turning the age I was when it happened to me. I now know this is also fairly common to adults who were sexually abused as children. It's not just women either. I know quite a few men who had been sexually abused as children who are heroin addicts.
No drug abuse though in my family. Neither P's. Then again I don't know my bio, but understand he was alcoholic. DNA? Who knows?
Zekk that is so sweet of you, and compassionate.
Frightened Mom I am so, so sorry to hear that happened to your daughter.
There should definately be more studies done on this. Raped at age eight. Never told. Never did drugs until I was 35. Consequently my own child was turning the age I was when it happened to me. I now know this is also fairly common to adults who were sexually abused as children. It's not just women either. I know quite a few men who had been sexually abused as children who are heroin addicts.
No drug abuse though in my family. Neither P's. Then again I don't know my bio, but understand he was alcoholic. DNA? Who knows?
Something I think I oughtta clarify, here, after going back & reading this: MY BROTHER did NOT molest me. He did terrify me w/ his temper but he is a prince of a guy. The person who did this to me was my Grandmother's husband, not my real Granddad. But isn't it usually someone you know?I have told only my husband, my brother & all of you. My husband's reaction, bless his heart, was;"Is this guy still alive?" ,w/ the unspoken:I'll kill him! You see, it was a recovered memory I had--don't let anyone tell you that is not real;it IS.I have never visited a shrink or anything;no one "planted"this thought in my head. I was really high one nite, watching "Flatliners" & the whole thing, the episode just POPPED into my head. I was so shook up it took me 3 days to get up the guts to tell my husband. There is indeed such a thing as a recovered memory. My biggest horror was this: my mind had completely blocked the whole thing for like 30 yrs. THAT is what freaked me out so bad. It was like:WHAT ELSE is my brain NOT letting me recall??
Hi. I was just reading the above posts and found it all very interesting. I was interfered with sexually as a child age 4 through to age 9. I developed a huge alcohol problem and now have BPD. If it were not for my reluctance to go out socially or interact with other people due to my difficulties I believe I would be a drug addict also. I look for that 'high' and oblivion... I drank til i was sick and passed out. I am lucky I hadn't choked on my own vomit. It is sad that society deals some individuals with such crap but I believe God dishes out what he knows you can handle...
Izzy, Dear, thanx for yr. words of kindness,& please DON"T take this the wrong way but you ARE a drug addict:alcohol. Just because you can get yr. drug in a store, where the Gov't. throws a tax on it, instead of copping off some guy down an alley, it's still a drug. I personally think it is a most dangerous drug, really, because it is legal .Man, I have been on a lotta different "street drugs", & the worst highs I've had, the most debilitating effects, the craziest stunts I ever pulled were all alcohol fuelled.I must refrain from comment about people getting stuff thrown @ them so they can handle it.I think there are lots of folks out there w/ Religious beliefs & I will surely set the cat amongst the pidgeons. But I suppose we are sent here(existence on Earth) to LEARN.And, Baby:I been to School...
