The Wisdom Of Letting Go...

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For so many years I would rant and rave about why God was not doing more to help the poor, needy, dying and hungry;  the prisoners of war; and victims of violence.  And I always included a special plea for the helpless children of the world!  If God is as powerful as we say He is, could it be that He has ceased to care?  Could it be God is on the side of the abusers?  Is God dead?  How can God be God, yet allow the world to operate the way it does?  Is there an answer to all the above? 
Yes.  Detachment.
God is not a codependent!
God is not a God who fixes, controls, intervenes, stops bad things from happening to good people, or makes everything safe.
Why?  Because god knows that codependency--controlling love--does not work.  Love requires freedom.
The Wisdom of Letting Go, Leo Booth

This isn't meant to be a "God Thing." Just an observation. As most (good) parents know, making the kids go outside and play doesn't mean dictating to them which games they'll play, that they won't get scrapes, or that someone isn't going to cheat to 'win.' The point is that they are growing. Learning. Interacting. Living.

I'm just sayin'...
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Yep....need help with that one....getting to where I think I'm taking some good steps in the right direction but this is such an issue with me I'm pretty sure my head isn't straight about it yet. I'm getting better with my 24 year-old....but the 14 year old twins.....drawing the ever-changing line between being dad and being an intrusive and disabling pain....I don't find particularly easy....and even around other people....I've got a strong instinct to "protect" and "help"......if anyone's got any ESH or anything ele that can help me be clearer about how to draw boundaries in the right place I'll be grateful....they were non-existent in my childhood and I really am still very immature about this.

In principle I try never to answer a question or solve a problem they can solve themselves, but I'm really not sure I've ever really known what "healthy" looks like.

Maybe it's just practice? Increased awareness?
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Skg ,there are some things I need to let go of but can't just yet.Lord knows hanging on is crippling but kinda difficult to let go when it 's in your face all the time. Maybe after september there will be some closure .Then we can move forward to a more positive future. thanks for the post .as always inspiring and thought provoking. Take care.
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SKG....great analogy with sending the kids out but not dictating the games they play or anticipating scrapes, etc...Brilliant.

Pirate...again, stay in the moment. Do you really believe that after the trial, you will suddenly let go, as if by magic, on that certain day, poof, it'll be gone? Be gentle but realistic with yourself and don't use the september deadline to keep you stuck right now. You CAN "move forward to a positive future" starting right now.
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Good one Skg...."God is not a codependent"....Brilliant and true! Some good food for thought from that book! Thanks.