hey every one, i posted this topic on the family board my mistake, can you check it out over there so i don't have to retype
Here ya go, Angela....
ok, so i get up this morning and turn on my cell phone. there is a frantic message from my sister asking me to call her asap...the second message is from my mom...same message. so i am now shakeing like a leaf thinking something really bad happened. i call my sis, no ansewr, i call my mom and she answears and i blurt out whats wrong????she asked me "what happened to you last night? I ask" what do you mean?" she said my sister had a voice mail at 2:30am from me totally incohearent and some dude that sounded like my soon to be x in the background yelling "shut the f up" i am 100% speechless. i told her i watched the ball drop with my dogs, called my dad at 12:02, watched some fire works out my back door and went to bed ALONE at 12:15. now of coarse I am not to be believed or trusted ever again cause i'm an addict. So you can tell she in no way believes me, so i said, mom i don't know what to tell ya, it wasn't me that's all i can say..i am not going to waste any more time trying to make you believe me. so i say happy new year and good bye. so i call my sis back, still no answer, i want to hear this voice mail, you can even forward it to people. i'll bet she FORGOT to save it????? what do you all think about this? it really makes me mad, i refuse to start the 1st day of the year like this WTF
oooppps, i ment to post this on the pain pill section, can it be moved over there?
MODS, CAN YOU MOVE IT?
ok, so i get up this morning and turn on my cell phone. there is a frantic message from my sister asking me to call her asap...the second message is from my mom...same message. so i am now shakeing like a leaf thinking something really bad happened. i call my sis, no ansewr, i call my mom and she answears and i blurt out whats wrong????she asked me "what happened to you last night? I ask" what do you mean?" she said my sister had a voice mail at 2:30am from me totally incohearent and some dude that sounded like my soon to be x in the background yelling "shut the f up" i am 100% speechless. i told her i watched the ball drop with my dogs, called my dad at 12:02, watched some fire works out my back door and went to bed ALONE at 12:15. now of coarse I am not to be believed or trusted ever again cause i'm an addict. So you can tell she in no way believes me, so i said, mom i don't know what to tell ya, it wasn't me that's all i can say..i am not going to waste any more time trying to make you believe me. so i say happy new year and good bye. so i call my sis back, still no answer, i want to hear this voice mail, you can even forward it to people. i'll bet she FORGOT to save it????? what do you all think about this? it really makes me mad, i refuse to start the 1st day of the year like this WTF
oooppps, i ment to post this on the pain pill section, can it be moved over there?
MODS, CAN YOU MOVE IT?
Aww Atlas ya beat me!
Like I said on your other thread, this is really weird. Maybe the Ex has a vendetta now?
Whatever, it was mean spirited and cruel.
Like I said on your other thread, this is really weird. Maybe the Ex has a vendetta now?
Whatever, it was mean spirited and cruel.
Angela,
She must still have the message, if one ever existed. NOBODY would erase that kind of message, and certainly not before hearing from you. Perhaps it was a wrong number and sounded like you? Does she have caller ID?
Don't waste much energy on this but I would insist that your sister allow you and your mom to hear the message and/or see the caller ID. If she is unable to produce those 2 things, then it sounds like she is trying to stir up some major s*** for some childish reason. What is your relationship with her like?
You can tell your mom that IF that would have happened, why would she erase both caller ID AND the message BEFORE hearing from you????? Nobody would do that. If she can't see the logic in that, then let it go, because you know the truth.
But, it can only be one of three things.....
1. A wrong number that was confused by your sister.
2. She is lying.
3. You called in your sleep and do not remember. It's possible. Do you have a history of sleepwalking or talking in your sleep. Did you go to sleep with the TV on? That would explain the man in the background. I realize this isn't probable, but it is possible if the first two can be ruled out.
With the info I have, I'm inclined to believe #1. Since your sister called, concerned, it seems like she really thinks you did call. Very strange indeed. I would try to get to the bottom of it, but if you cannot prove yourself, don't waste the energy trying.
She must still have the message, if one ever existed. NOBODY would erase that kind of message, and certainly not before hearing from you. Perhaps it was a wrong number and sounded like you? Does she have caller ID?
Don't waste much energy on this but I would insist that your sister allow you and your mom to hear the message and/or see the caller ID. If she is unable to produce those 2 things, then it sounds like she is trying to stir up some major s*** for some childish reason. What is your relationship with her like?
You can tell your mom that IF that would have happened, why would she erase both caller ID AND the message BEFORE hearing from you????? Nobody would do that. If she can't see the logic in that, then let it go, because you know the truth.
But, it can only be one of three things.....
1. A wrong number that was confused by your sister.
2. She is lying.
3. You called in your sleep and do not remember. It's possible. Do you have a history of sleepwalking or talking in your sleep. Did you go to sleep with the TV on? That would explain the man in the background. I realize this isn't probable, but it is possible if the first two can be ruled out.
With the info I have, I'm inclined to believe #1. Since your sister called, concerned, it seems like she really thinks you did call. Very strange indeed. I would try to get to the bottom of it, but if you cannot prove yourself, don't waste the energy trying.
Thanks Atlas, I didn't sleep with the tv on, I wanted to hear the rain on the roof (i love the sound of rain at night) ok, so it's now 1:15, and i called my sis at 11:30 yeah she is sooooo worried that she hasn't bothered to call me back. as far as my relationship with her....almost nonexistant, i see her like 5-7 times a year and we only live 45 minutes away. I have slep over her house 1 time in my whole life, and we didn't speak for @ 8 years (same goes for my mom) I called them about 4 years ago to make amends. i wanted to be the bigger person.
oh, thanks for moveing this for me i appreciate it
oh, thanks for moveing this for me i appreciate it
I was doing some thinking on this...if you called and seemed to be in trouble, then why didn't your family come and check on you, or at least call the police? Now that REALLY doesn't make sense to me. Might be something you want to ask them.
Did they check their messages this morning, or at the time you supposedly called?
Did they check their messages this morning, or at the time you supposedly called?
like i said janet, i have yet to hear back from my sister. I have called 2 times and i am not planning on calling a 3rd. i agree with you 100% if they gave a crap about me then why wouldn't they take some sort of action? i am not calling my mom back to further question her about this....the 2 of them are very close and they tend to stick together and gang up on me and i want no part of it. it's just a shame to start jan 1 2007 like this. i want a fresh start and they are robbing me of that and it makes me sad.
This sounds really screwed up.
Is your sister a drama queen? Would she do something like this to start something with you and make you look bad to your parents?
I'm sorry honey but you have just got to shine this kind of crap on. You don't have room in your life for it anymore. You know you didn't do it, so that's all that matters. Let it go and move on.
Take care
Is your sister a drama queen? Would she do something like this to start something with you and make you look bad to your parents?
I'm sorry honey but you have just got to shine this kind of crap on. You don't have room in your life for it anymore. You know you didn't do it, so that's all that matters. Let it go and move on.
Take care
lisa you are right, i wish i knew how to not let this kind of stuff bother me.
my birthday this past september she pulled a stunt also. I had strep throat real bad, me, mom, her hubby, and my sis were supposed to go out for my b-day friday night. i got sick tuesday night. so i talked to my sis thursday evening and said i was still sick and rather then play it by ear for friday i told her to cancel and tell mom the plan. sooo i call my mom saturday morning (my actual b-day) and said so when should we reschedule for?? she said what do you mean? we all went last night where were you??? later that day my sis leaves me a voice mail "where were you last night? we were all waiting for you?" swear to god...this is the sh*t i have to put up with, i am sooo glad i decided to call them to make amends 4 years ago, it really paid off huh? oh so as far as the b-day thing, that was sept 9, i never got a card in the mail, a gift NOTHING, x-mass eve was the first time i saw any of them.
my birthday this past september she pulled a stunt also. I had strep throat real bad, me, mom, her hubby, and my sis were supposed to go out for my b-day friday night. i got sick tuesday night. so i talked to my sis thursday evening and said i was still sick and rather then play it by ear for friday i told her to cancel and tell mom the plan. sooo i call my mom saturday morning (my actual b-day) and said so when should we reschedule for?? she said what do you mean? we all went last night where were you??? later that day my sis leaves me a voice mail "where were you last night? we were all waiting for you?" swear to god...this is the sh*t i have to put up with, i am sooo glad i decided to call them to make amends 4 years ago, it really paid off huh? oh so as far as the b-day thing, that was sept 9, i never got a card in the mail, a gift NOTHING, x-mass eve was the first time i saw any of them.
AngieBaby, we can't pick our relatives but, we can choose how much time and energy we will allow ourselves to put up with thier crap. You have that power now. You don't have to put up with it anymore. I do alot of smiling and head nodding when it comes to my family. I love them to pieces but I have bounderies now that I won't allow them to cross. I don't have to put up with bad behavior. Just because we're addicts, doesn't mean that we are evil or bad people that have to be punished for our crimes for the rest of our lives. We make ammends, we move on. It's none of our business if those ammends are forgiven or not, we can only do so much. You just keep your side of the street clean and don't worry about what your family thinks or does. Start setting some of your own bounderies. Stop being thier door mat. You deserve better honey.
Well, now I think sis is just trying to stir the pot. I would try and rule out a wrong number, but beyond that listen to what Lisa just said. Don't let her ruin your first day of the new year! (((HUG))))
i agree with you all 100% the only thing i can't seem to figure out is...when i try to some what defend myself or present my case if something is wrong LIKE THIS they act like i am being arguemenative or am trying to start crap, no matter how i speak or the tone of my voice? like the b-day thing...i told both my mom and sister what was what, they got mad and defensive so it just has to be dropped and go unresolved. and i was left with very hurt feelings kind like now. i am off for a few hours i'll check back later with any suggestion
thanks for being there for me everyone, it makes this alot easier to deal with
thanks for being there for me everyone, it makes this alot easier to deal with
That's the thing, QUIT defending yourself. You simply answer the question, state the fact and then you're done. It's not up to you if they believe you are not. YOU know what's what. That's all that matters. Let them handle the drama and bs. You don't have time for it anymore.
Have a better day Angela. Smile, ok?
Lisa
Have a better day Angela. Smile, ok?
Lisa
lisa, your a pretty cool lady. you are right on the money, i know what is fact and what is fiction. by the way my WORRIED sister never called me back?
i did call my cell phone co. and requsted a fax of the last 24 hours of calls on my phone. i couldn't help myself...i had to proove myself. again, i wish i wasn't like this however..i am for now..i am going to work on it and try to live my life differently.
i did call my cell phone co. and requsted a fax of the last 24 hours of calls on my phone. i couldn't help myself...i had to proove myself. again, i wish i wasn't like this however..i am for now..i am going to work on it and try to live my life differently.
Progress, not perfection Ang. It's the best we can do.
Ok, here is the TOTALLY F'ED UP UPDATE.... so my sis sent me a voice mail this afternoon...Ah, Ang I only listened to a few seconds of your voice mail then i went back and listened to the whole thing yesterday....sorry if mom misunderstood me but i told her you called at 11 not 2am....Also i realized it was the news playing not you and some guy... so she forwarded it to me, and aparently i hit a button by mistake and it called her so it was the 11 o'clock news..and it was all muffeled cause i always cary my phone in a pocket cause i use an earpiece when i make calls. NO APPOLOGY, NOTHING....so i called her back and said, "thanks for your concern but why in the world would i call you with the weekly forcast? (cause after the news footage you could hear the chick giving the forcast... I am fumeing mad
You're giving her too much power. Let it go. Big hugs.
