yes..........i have some to air...........i have to get this off my chest......
please bear with me........
ok.........the other day..........first of all me and my husband work together at the same hospital but in different departments........
we have dinner together everyday..........
this young lady that i see all the time around the hospital.....and in the elevators..she likes my husbands co-worker and my husbands co-worker is in his early twenties.............and this girl must be to....but i am not usre of her age..
comes...right up to my husband while me and my husband are in our own world sharing details about our day and having dinner.......
she says..........very loud.........looks right at him...turns her nose up at me and says to my husband.............."you didn't buy my lunch"
and starts laughing....and walks away to a few tables over..........WTF
my husband was looking at me .looked up at her and said.."aww No"
i was thinking WTF is going on here...why did she feel comfortable to walk right up to our table and say such a thing..............TO MY HUSBAND
that BI***..............i am thinking....who the F**** DOes she think she is to come up to a husband and wife and be so disrespectful...........
very immature...............of her.......
so today my husband goes and finds her and says to her "did you know that was my WIFE........that was very disrespectful.......
dont you ever come to me and ask me some s*** like that.......
you dont even know me like that...........we dont know you..."
"we are older and MARRIED.......and you should know better than to do such a disrespectful gesture, espeacially right in front of my wife....thats my wife,"
thenn he told her.........what do you think my wife thought......
she does not know you at all........what were you trying to do?, what was your point?"
and she just laughed and said i am sorry.........he said when you see my wife you better apolize to her.........because that was highly disrespectful"
'my wife is a nusre here and she is respected here in the hospital...my wife does not bother anyone and i think you were trying to aggrivate my wife"
so the day will come when i will see her and i know she will be embarresed, because most men, will take this as a compilment and have fun with this...
kind of gesture and disrespect.........BUT WHEN MY HUSBAND sees hurt in my eyes he is instanly hurt.....
when women try to talk to my husnad and ignor me like i am nothing..
he pulls me in closer and holds my hand tighter.......
i am big girl.........i know..but thats whay he does....
because he respects me.........and makes it known....
i am thining of asking her if she is married.........and that is not a very kind gesture to walk up to a husband and wife minding their own business and having dinner and say something like THAT........
i know in my heart that she was trying to offend me, trying to make me think that maybe something was going on..........between her and my husband
at first i was so flippin pissed at my husabnd because i was thinknig...
why did she feel comfortable to walk up to my husband and say that....
i shared this with a few close co-workers.........
many said that she was just trying to start something in my marriage and that some women are just flat out BOLD...........
i would never do this.............
when i notice that a man is checking me out and his wife is there...
and i can see the look on the wifes face.........
i turn it right around.........
hello.........oh is this your wife........hi , you two make a beautiful couple...
and introduce my self........have a nice day.......God bless you.....
and walk away...........
OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
THATS been on my mind ...........and i dont want to make a big deal about it...
so i just had to get this off my chest.....
this girl is just that............ a girl........
and i am still feeling angry ....because i have to see this HEFER........
and i have not seen her since she said this to MY husband......
my husband knows me and he knows that this made me angry....
its not his fault.........he told me that he cant control what people say..
which is very true.......
thank you for letting me share this.......
you know how we let little things bother us.........
and brew in our hearts..........
well this is waht is happening to me......
let it go...........thumper............let it go............
what would you say when you saw this chick agian.........
i know i will be seeing her real soon.......
thank you
thumper
Hi there thumper wow you sure have some dignity hun, we are all different but being friendly to her the next time you see her will throw her right off guard she will expect you to be angry etc. Your comfortable and safe within your marrage so dont let anyone spoil that. Me on the other hand because of my insucuritys i would of well lol you dont want to hear what i would of done it would not be very charitable lol jaxxxx
Thumper,
What a wonderful and sensitive husband you have.
That obnoxious "child" better cross the street when she see's you coming from now on, lol.
It sounds like you and husband have a wonderful relationship.
God bless,
Sharon
PS: HI Jackie
What a wonderful and sensitive husband you have.
That obnoxious "child" better cross the street when she see's you coming from now on, lol.
It sounds like you and husband have a wonderful relationship.
God bless,
Sharon
PS: HI Jackie
Thumper, some women are just like that...catty, jealous bitches. It just is what it is.
Right on, Mr. Thumper...that was very cool.
Some men do know how to treat a lady.
Right on, Mr. Thumper...that was very cool.
Some men do know how to treat a lady.
Thumper, Next time you see her just smile. Obviously she was in need of some attention. Shantel
Thumper-from a male perspective.
Let her show her azz.Everyone might look but then they also see the big red pimple on it.
You've got too much class to even let this faze you.
Your husband obviously knows it.
Having good manners and breeding doesn't mean you are weak.
Forgive her and be grateful you don't have to perform like a lower primate in a circus to get some attention.
Have A Great Weekend
Let her show her azz.Everyone might look but then they also see the big red pimple on it.
You've got too much class to even let this faze you.
Your husband obviously knows it.
Having good manners and breeding doesn't mean you are weak.
Forgive her and be grateful you don't have to perform like a lower primate in a circus to get some attention.
Have A Great Weekend
Thumper I want to tell you a little story of what happened to me a few years ago. First I want to tell you how wonderful a husband you have. He handled this with class. Anyway my then husband and I went to a christmas party that his company had thrown. Thre was a 19 year old girl that worked with him and she followed us around. We were all standing together when she reached over and picked something out of his mouth and he did not even protest, just let it happen, and I am like are you serious?? Anyway weekend went by he denied everything, didnt defend me or my feelings which I found out I was right later. First clue is how he reacted or lack thereof. he let this woman do that to him without protest. major red flag for me. I had to go out of town and felt something wrong and I turned around and drove 200 miles home and sure enough there they were. Anyway I went to his place of work strode right up to her in public with everyone in full hearing range the customers included and said "you left your underwear in my bed!!! well that was a scene and we divorced shortly after. The major difference in this and what you are going thru is you have a wonderful husband that defended you immediately. My husband just stood there like the punk he was and did nothing. Thumper some woman like drama and these youngsters dont get it yet. They like to create disturbance. You are one class act and I know all to well how you are feeling, but take the high road and karma is what will happen, mark my words. You will be the winner in this. I know I didnt take the high road , looking back I would have been a little more low key but it happened that way.
sending big hugs yur way
Carol
sending big hugs yur way
Carol
Hiya sharon its great to see you posting more, oh and by the way MERRY CHRISTMAS to you and your family. jaxx
Tim very good post always nice to have a male perspective on a female problem. jax
Tim very good post always nice to have a male perspective on a female problem. jax
Oh Thumper, so nice to see you posting your "dirty laundry" and getting it off your chest, I could tell that it was still bothering you.
Someone said you should be nice to her the next time you see her. I think that is good advice, but I don't know if I could do that and feel ok about it.
When she comes around you again, you will know what to do. Remember we have someone looking over us and taking care of us and HE will not let anything bad happen to us. He will tell you what to do.
I love you.......Call me later.
Someone said you should be nice to her the next time you see her. I think that is good advice, but I don't know if I could do that and feel ok about it.
When she comes around you again, you will know what to do. Remember we have someone looking over us and taking care of us and HE will not let anything bad happen to us. He will tell you what to do.
I love you.......Call me later.
I think everyone on this thread said it perfectly. Your husband handled it perfectly. If it were me, and I ran into her....I would pour on the charm and say something like "Oh hi, you're susie, right? You were in such a rush the other day, I didn't even get a chance to introduce myself. I'm thumper, mr. thumper's wife. So nice to have this opportunity to meet you.
One thing I have discovered is that catty bitches speak one language, and that is catty b****. If you speak above that, she probably won't have anything more to say. I guarantee that kindness and sweetness is not what she is expecting from you. She'll run off like a wounded animal with her tail between her legs.
Or, if you just can't help yourself, you can extend the above and tell her that next time she doesn't have lunch money, to give you a call and you would love to buy her lunch and get to know her better.
You have class, thumper. Process this and let it go. Otherwise she is getting what she wants. She's looking to stir up s***, so don't let her. Nothing she says or does will change the fact that you have a loving and respectful husband who will be at home with you every night.
(((BIG HUG))))
One thing I have discovered is that catty bitches speak one language, and that is catty b****. If you speak above that, she probably won't have anything more to say. I guarantee that kindness and sweetness is not what she is expecting from you. She'll run off like a wounded animal with her tail between her legs.
Or, if you just can't help yourself, you can extend the above and tell her that next time she doesn't have lunch money, to give you a call and you would love to buy her lunch and get to know her better.
You have class, thumper. Process this and let it go. Otherwise she is getting what she wants. She's looking to stir up s***, so don't let her. Nothing she says or does will change the fact that you have a loving and respectful husband who will be at home with you every night.
(((BIG HUG))))
Dear, Dear Thumper, You are one of the rare lucky ones when it comes to husbands. Mine slept with my ex best friend. Needless to say she is no longer my best friend.
Women like this do things like this because she can. Just like when dogs lick their...well you know where that one is going...lol It made me smile to hear what your hubby did. Keep us updated on that apology.
hugs,
Heath
Women like this do things like this because she can. Just like when dogs lick their...well you know where that one is going...lol It made me smile to hear what your hubby did. Keep us updated on that apology.
hugs,
Heath
Hey Thumper:
You got great advice here. I thought about this and the poem I copied last night. You know the part about listening to the ignorant...for they too have their story.
Well, that would apply to this girl. Obviously she is very ignorant. Your husband did everything right. I love a man who stands up for his woman, and is hurt when she is hurt. My husband does that for me too.
Many years ago when I first started dating my husband women came out of the woodwork. He had been lonely a long time...where were all these women then? I mean, I am certainly glad to have him to myself, but it made me sad to think he had been alone for so long. I wondered why, all of a sudden, women were interested in him?
I realized, it is the light that shines in a man who is in love that women are attracted to. It is the light in a man who knows how to love that women are attracted to. It is the same light that shines in you.
Disregard the girl if you can. You know your husband is coming home every night, you know where his heart is. Be secure...and be gentle...I will just bet it is that gentleness about you that your husband so adores.
Sarah
You got great advice here. I thought about this and the poem I copied last night. You know the part about listening to the ignorant...for they too have their story.
Well, that would apply to this girl. Obviously she is very ignorant. Your husband did everything right. I love a man who stands up for his woman, and is hurt when she is hurt. My husband does that for me too.
Many years ago when I first started dating my husband women came out of the woodwork. He had been lonely a long time...where were all these women then? I mean, I am certainly glad to have him to myself, but it made me sad to think he had been alone for so long. I wondered why, all of a sudden, women were interested in him?
I realized, it is the light that shines in a man who is in love that women are attracted to. It is the light in a man who knows how to love that women are attracted to. It is the same light that shines in you.
Disregard the girl if you can. You know your husband is coming home every night, you know where his heart is. Be secure...and be gentle...I will just bet it is that gentleness about you that your husband so adores.
Sarah
I totally agree Thumps............Shake this one off.
Just smile and introduce yourself next time you see her. She is far to immature to understand anyone with class and will back away. Just as soon as she realizes you are more mature than to play her little game she will be gone and move on to someone else.
Start a lunch money fund for her too, in a little tin can at work.............Just to emberass her LOL
BIg Hugs.
I wanted to add that your husband sounds like an abosolutely great guy.........He knows what he has in you.
Just smile and introduce yourself next time you see her. She is far to immature to understand anyone with class and will back away. Just as soon as she realizes you are more mature than to play her little game she will be gone and move on to someone else.
Start a lunch money fund for her too, in a little tin can at work.............Just to emberass her LOL
BIg Hugs.
I wanted to add that your husband sounds like an abosolutely great guy.........He knows what he has in you.
Thumer Oh Thumper?????YGM!!!!
Hey Jodigirl have I told you today I love you my friend?????Well I DO!!!!
Hey Jodigirl have I told you today I love you my friend?????Well I DO!!!!
I was just emailing you Brina LOL We have some ESP..........
Well I dont know what I would do without you..............that is for sure.
Love ya Love ya Love ya.........
Hugs.
:)
Well I dont know what I would do without you..............that is for sure.
Love ya Love ya Love ya.........
Hugs.
:)
I just emailed you too, MJ. Sent one to you yesterday, Java. Let me know if you didn't get it. I have to sign out soon, so may not be able to check again. You both have a great day....and you too thumper:)
thank you ladies and gentelman..................
i just worke up.............i have been sleeping in so so late..........
i will take all your advice............
atlas.........i am already practiing..............good one ms. bright.........
thank you all , every single on of u..........
love u all............
thumper
i just worke up.............i have been sleeping in so so late..........
i will take all your advice............
atlas.........i am already practiing..............good one ms. bright.........
thank you all , every single on of u..........
love u all............
thumper
Women are strange..thank God men don't hit on married women ever...
i was married to a man once who hit on me all the time....
luckily, that is in the past.
luckily, that is in the past.
Thumps...I don't have anything to ad here that hasn't been said already!
But...I just wanted you to know that I think you are one classy girl and your hubby is a pure gentleman.
Hugs to you sweetheart!
But...I just wanted you to know that I think you are one classy girl and your hubby is a pure gentleman.
Hugs to you sweetheart!
