When I first came here to this board I was looking something in addition to
f2f recovery. I found that here. I made some friends along the way. So then
I looked forward to coming here daily and checking to see how everyone
was doing. But somewhere along this all had gotten lost. Now all there is
is fighting and who is talking about who, and who can hurt who the most.
Some things I was involved in and some I wasnt. I always try to see the
good in people. None of this now is any good for my recovery. I have
purposely stayed out of all the drama in recent times. I now see my friends
getting hurt as some others that get caught in the cross fire. I realized
something tonite. I put too much stock into online friendships. I wore my
heart on my sleeve. I found out when it came right down to it that all i can
really count on is my real life friends . So now its tme for me to move on. I
wish everyone here well. This is a great place to start out for those of you
new to recovery. I wish you all the best of luck. LIfe is too short to waste
on fighting, love each other we are all in this together. Take care of each
other. God Bless you all.
gina
Gina, as you know, when I came here I was in active addiction. I thought this board was the greatest thing. I knew nothing about my disease. But I was guided to that information. I learned about recovery. I made kick butt friends that I don't doubt I'll have for life. Back in the very beginning I can remember being in chat with you, such a newbie, hardly knowing anybody, but eager to be there. I had found people with the answers and they were showing me.
Along the way here on this board that I've been on almost a year now, I've gotten clean and working a solid program of recovery.
Through the months I've had my feelings hurt a time or two, I've had to eat crow once or twice, I asked forgiveness and I've been given forgiveness.
I moved on up the ranks to an old timer here now I think. I've seen those still suffering lash out and I've seen those in recovery lash back.
All in all, hurts and offenses aside, it's worth it to be here. I know for a fact I've helped a few people in their new journey. That's an awesome feeling.
I know you have and so have all my other friends here.
We can all thank this board for much. It brought people together. It's taught us life lessons and it's given us a chance to share and give back.
I know you are frustrated by the insults and the hurt you've seen caused.
Those feelings will pass.
We will find there are just people who we cannot relate to. That's okay, cause for every one we can't, ten more will come in who can. There will always be people who are desperate to learn how to cope with this disease. We know these things and we can share that.
I would not be clean if not for those who came before me and guided me.
I hope you'll consider your part in that. I hope you can get past this and just get back to the really cool place that this can be.
Cruel people can offend but they can't break us. It's sad that they would even want to harm others that way. But that's on them, that's their inventory, not ours and I'm no longer interested in trying with those who can't see what is good and right.
Keep in mind, many will. Take a break my friend, but remember, this place belongs to you too just like everyone else. You have much to offer. Love, Kat
Along the way here on this board that I've been on almost a year now, I've gotten clean and working a solid program of recovery.
Through the months I've had my feelings hurt a time or two, I've had to eat crow once or twice, I asked forgiveness and I've been given forgiveness.
I moved on up the ranks to an old timer here now I think. I've seen those still suffering lash out and I've seen those in recovery lash back.
All in all, hurts and offenses aside, it's worth it to be here. I know for a fact I've helped a few people in their new journey. That's an awesome feeling.
I know you have and so have all my other friends here.
We can all thank this board for much. It brought people together. It's taught us life lessons and it's given us a chance to share and give back.
I know you are frustrated by the insults and the hurt you've seen caused.
Those feelings will pass.
We will find there are just people who we cannot relate to. That's okay, cause for every one we can't, ten more will come in who can. There will always be people who are desperate to learn how to cope with this disease. We know these things and we can share that.
I would not be clean if not for those who came before me and guided me.
I hope you'll consider your part in that. I hope you can get past this and just get back to the really cool place that this can be.
Cruel people can offend but they can't break us. It's sad that they would even want to harm others that way. But that's on them, that's their inventory, not ours and I'm no longer interested in trying with those who can't see what is good and right.
Keep in mind, many will. Take a break my friend, but remember, this place belongs to you too just like everyone else. You have much to offer. Love, Kat
Goodmorning Gina x
I too have been having thoughts about leaving cos i can't handle all the fighting BUT i have thought long and hard about it, and y'know what we are never gonna get on with everyone(i know i'm always sayin cant everyone just get on but human nature doesnt alllow that) I wish we could just ignor negative posts but i know ow hard it is to ignor things that hurt you) I have come to the conclusion that i shall just take a back seat for a while but i shall not let anyone run me off the board and i hope you come to the same conclusion? remember the board will be here, so even if you just take some time out, we will be here waiting for ya to come back-if you so ever choose, just remember that there are a lot of people here who do enjoy your input and learn from it, i know i have. and i too agree with what Kat has said (good morning Kat aswel)
Take care LOADS of love
Gabbi
I too have been having thoughts about leaving cos i can't handle all the fighting BUT i have thought long and hard about it, and y'know what we are never gonna get on with everyone(i know i'm always sayin cant everyone just get on but human nature doesnt alllow that) I wish we could just ignor negative posts but i know ow hard it is to ignor things that hurt you) I have come to the conclusion that i shall just take a back seat for a while but i shall not let anyone run me off the board and i hope you come to the same conclusion? remember the board will be here, so even if you just take some time out, we will be here waiting for ya to come back-if you so ever choose, just remember that there are a lot of people here who do enjoy your input and learn from it, i know i have. and i too agree with what Kat has said (good morning Kat aswel)
Take care LOADS of love
Gabbi
Hun, when you get to be my age, as bad as it sounds, you realize the only person you can REALLY count on is YOU. But through realizing this, you are never disappointed and always have a plan "B' so its not all so bad. :- )
This kind of forum is a bit odd simply because it does become addicitve in its own right and sometimes we need an excuse to leave to sort of give us the freedom we want. We also feel like be belong somewhere so thats what keeps us coming back and forth i left once but not for long whats the point i knew i would be back. i actually enjoy coming here yes the squabbles are tiresome but hey im gratefull its not me thats all, im proud not to be a part of squabling or part of a side etc im just me and proud to be clean and offering little comfort to those still in pain. i fully intend to stay that way so dont mind what people say or do i can sleep at night knowing full well ive given life the best shot i can for that day. your advice is envaluble my friends jackie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
gina,
i hope you change your mind, there are still new people like me that come here and find what we need. i now get f2f support, but this board pointed me in the right direction. i am going to a meeting everyday on my lunch break- but i need more than that- i still have cravings alot, and since im a single mom of 2 small kids its just not possible for me to go to extra meetings when im feeling weak, so i come here, and get the support i need.I just scroll my way through the receint fighting and find what i need. alot of people are talking about leaving, and i hate that. people arent going to get along all the time, im sure all of this will calm down soon
i know im being selfish, but you are needed here- please reconsider
love,
adrienne
i hope you change your mind, there are still new people like me that come here and find what we need. i now get f2f support, but this board pointed me in the right direction. i am going to a meeting everyday on my lunch break- but i need more than that- i still have cravings alot, and since im a single mom of 2 small kids its just not possible for me to go to extra meetings when im feeling weak, so i come here, and get the support i need.I just scroll my way through the receint fighting and find what i need. alot of people are talking about leaving, and i hate that. people arent going to get along all the time, im sure all of this will calm down soon
i know im being selfish, but you are needed here- please reconsider
love,
adrienne
Jackie said it best....it is a bit odd, isn't it? And very addictive in it's own right. Maybe it's time for all of us to step back and breath?
Love you all
CG
Love you all
CG
well ... I am sorry you feel like this gina.. and who can blame you... I feel like this too... some just can let things go... and keep it going... but to all.... whether gina leaves or not.... I will be there for her and all possee.. right wrong or indifferent.... and I AM NOT LEAVING THIS BOARD...so if you all want to continue to be at status que than ok.. cause I wont be run off.... got it 'K' and 'C'... ok.. nough said....
gina ... I love ya....
Teresa
gina ... I love ya....
Teresa
you can't go Gina, you still owe me a coke.....see how my addict mind works....its all about me
seriously Gina, take a breath and step back for a minute, I understand where you are coming from, we all do at times. Maybe a break will help.
all of these people leaving lets the drama win. I'd hate to see that happen.
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