Many here know my brother is a active addict "also constant head and heart ache" for me. My Dad is also a severe alcoholic, part time crack smoker, Vietnam vet. Both are a real drain on me. My brother is in a real deep relasp. Mom found a dirty spoon in her bathroom "for the millionth time". My brother is selling dope getting beat up. I sas him on Saturday after driving him home from the emergency room saw him Yesterday "thursday" he still had on the SAME clothes which was dirty gray shorts and a long sleeve shirt "mind you it's 90 outside HERE. He looks like he's knocking on deaths door conctant dry heves telling me how good the dope is he's getting.
My Dad gets goverment money from nerve disorder caused from the war. He called yestday wanting $10.00 said he's broke been eating bread all week. He got $986.000 dollars on JUNE 1ST. He said he lost it. I'm so fed up with them.
ZG - Take care of you, lady...I read before where you said your brother didn't even thank you for picking him up at 4am an hour away. I'm sorry you have this going on in your family and I know how hard it must be to watch them keep walking that road. But you've got kids, a family, a job, and just did your school thing...that's plenty on one plate. You know where the money's going to go...where it's already been. We can feel badly for them, we can empathize with them, but we can't do it for them. Focus on you, ZG, there's enough going on there, no?
Peace~MomNMore
Peace~MomNMore
mom took the works right out of my fingers :) you are doing so good, stick with it (I know you will) and i aslo know you probably have heard all these things before and it doesnt help sometimes, but man you are a tough one--after all you have been throug lately you still have such compassion for those who are suffering, yet the strenth to say no...that a tough one! i dont think i could watch my family go through what they watched me go through i wouldnt blame you if you cut them off for awhile till you even out...and dont give $ for food--give food--thats ALOT of cash to go through in a couple of days, and eventhough he's your dad--he has to learn his lessons too...thats gotta break your heart...hows the family and school--are u enjoying summer break
Hey ZG, agree with what Amity and M & M said, you really don't need all this in your life at the mo... I can only imagine what you are going through. You know where they are at, you've been there, They will only use you, you don't need that. I know it is hard, but think of you and your kids. Take care, Kev
Wow, HG...that is so tough. I agree with Mom...you have plenty on your plate and are doing just amazing. To me, you are such an example of what courage is. I'm sorry things are to tough right now. But in my useless opinion, you need to blow them off when it comes to money and anything to do with copping. You're doing so well. You take care of you and your kids and man. You're doing everything right. Please take good care.
Beck
Beck
Hang tough ZG i know you will .....but you really dont need all these major hassles in your life its full to the brim already.You know what to do be friedly /helpful but dont further their own problems.Take care Ms.hope you and family are doing o.k
Edit to say ;Becks your opinion is so far from useless .....whats going on girl you are brilliant and treasured by me and lotsa folks on the forum ....so i hate to see you desribe yer opinion as such.Peace and love going to Utah from lil ol Ireland...............Davey
Edit to say ;Becks your opinion is so far from useless .....whats going on girl you are brilliant and treasured by me and lotsa folks on the forum ....so i hate to see you desribe yer opinion as such.Peace and love going to Utah from lil ol Ireland...............Davey
Oh my girl..........I wish you didn't have to worry so.
I know they all drive ya bonkers..............I know how much you love your brother...............they all best shape up so my girl can have some da*n peace.
Honestly, ZG your life..........you should honestly write a book.......plus you're a good writer...............I have no advice.............just empathy and much respect for you.
I know they all drive ya bonkers..............I know how much you love your brother...............they all best shape up so my girl can have some da*n peace.
Honestly, ZG your life..........you should honestly write a book.......plus you're a good writer...............I have no advice.............just empathy and much respect for you.
Thanks everyone!... Of course I agree, I have plently going on in my life without these problems. It is hard to NOT deal with the overflowing sea of addicts i'm surrounded by. I come from a HUGE family so many of them are addicts. I swear it's like a bad T.V show. No one would belive just how sad and dysfunctional my relatives are. I get total mixed messages about my own recovery from them.
The one that drags me down the most is my little brother he and I used A LOT together. I don't see recovery in any shape working for him. He is numb to reason and sanity he's brain can't grasp the concept. I think it's bad genes lol.
I am pretty sure my Dad suffers real mental issues. No lie he went to vist my older brother a few years back. Dad was so drunk out his head he barked like a dog peed on my brothers rug. He was living in the woods in a tent during the summers. He makes me feel like a screw up.
All and all looking at where i come from i'm doing Faboulse. I do keep a distance from them to keep my head on stright. They are CLEARLY TOXIC people for me to be around.
The one that drags me down the most is my little brother he and I used A LOT together. I don't see recovery in any shape working for him. He is numb to reason and sanity he's brain can't grasp the concept. I think it's bad genes lol.
I am pretty sure my Dad suffers real mental issues. No lie he went to vist my older brother a few years back. Dad was so drunk out his head he barked like a dog peed on my brothers rug. He was living in the woods in a tent during the summers. He makes me feel like a screw up.
All and all looking at where i come from i'm doing Faboulse. I do keep a distance from them to keep my head on stright. They are CLEARLY TOXIC people for me to be around.
