in reply to another post: Diff i'm so excited for you "i really am". 10 WEEKS will come soon. I want to see pics when she's born!. I am always here 4 advice & questions if you need it jengoley@yahoo.com . I want you to be prepared for the emotions AFTER delivery i know how crazy you'll feel. I cried for 4 days for no reason. I did not want to go to sleep because i just wanted to look at him. I was not depressed i was just crazy emotional having a baby changes everything. I know it will be very overwhelming 4 you in a GREAT way. I did poop on the delivery table lol so embarsing "but after the epidural you can't get up to use the bathroom" so i was in bed like 5-6 hours. It's pretty common to poop when your pushing so hard... the baby takes up all your room so anything in the bowel gets pushed out. The nurses just wipe it away it's HONESTLY not a big deal & kind of expected. My boyfriend was laughing at me after he said man you about pooped in the doctors face "he thought it funny". By the way it usually is only a little. Yeah after being pregnant and uncomfortable for SO LONG you do lose the fear of delivery you just want your body Back!. In the last few week with Robbie I was so big my hips cracked when i rolled over. In a way i'm so sad i'll never have another it's such a AWSOME experience. The pic is him almost 1 month old
Your baby is ADORABLE!
Back in the olden days, they used to give the poor mom an enema while she was in labor to clean her out so she didn't do that to the doctor. What a treat to be having labor pains and sitting on a bed pan!
I'm glad you're both healthy.
Diff, I never did the crying with any of my 3 babies. Some have a problem with that and some don't. I did have the problem of not wanting to take my eyes and arms off my precious babies. I spoiled all 3 of them...never letting them cry themselves to sleep except maybe when they got older and a boy broke their hearts. I have NO DOUBT you'll be a GREAT mom!
Love,
Susan
Back in the olden days, they used to give the poor mom an enema while she was in labor to clean her out so she didn't do that to the doctor. What a treat to be having labor pains and sitting on a bed pan!
I'm glad you're both healthy.
Diff, I never did the crying with any of my 3 babies. Some have a problem with that and some don't. I did have the problem of not wanting to take my eyes and arms off my precious babies. I spoiled all 3 of them...never letting them cry themselves to sleep except maybe when they got older and a boy broke their hearts. I have NO DOUBT you'll be a GREAT mom!
Love,
Susan
herogirl....Your baby is soooooooooo beautiful..........and like susan i never had the crying problem............but yes always wanted my children with me and spoiled them so.never wanting them to cry....feel any pain........wanting to protect themevery second............if only I could have been better prepared for the times I couldnt protect them from themselves..........
Jeezzz
Im glad Im a guy- -
much respect to the moms and moms to be out there.
zg-
beautiful just beautiful
Im glad Im a guy- -
much respect to the moms and moms to be out there.
zg-
beautiful just beautiful
Aww Zerogirl, he's such a cutie! No wonder you can't take your eyes off him! I was an ugly baby. Well, not hideous, but no bonny baby prize winner. Fortunately I was a very good baby, and rarely cried. I hope my little girl takes after me. I'll have to ask her paternal grandmother what her father was like as a baby.
And as for the crying, I'm one of those people who get tearful very easily, so I'm used to it. I was reading a magazine whilst waiting for a blood test at the hospital yesterday, and to my horror I found myself in tears over an article describing a shire horse pulling a dray! I know it sounds daft. I can't sing nursery rhymes without my voice cracking.
It's 9 weeks left now. As for the hips cracking when you roll over, I don't even bother rolling over much now, coz it's so much effort. And getting up from the sofa when I've been lying down is like raising the Titanic. I've been pretty active all the way through this pregnancy, but it's really catching up with me. I haven't made a start on sorting out the house yet. My "incapacity" is giving the boyfriend a lot of ammo to use against me to try and stop me from going. Every time I get my independent streak out and tell him that I'm going to go up and make a start on it, he points out that I can just about climb the stairs, so how am I going to manage to decorate a whole house? He has been making a big effort not to upset me recently, and I can see that he's trying. He has agreed to come and give me a hand with the decorating next week. I'm wary of letting him get too involved, coz then he starts dictating to me. But at the same time, I need his help. It's a difficult one.
I'd love to just be left in peace, without him nagging me about crap. He's got a talent for wasting time, particularly my time, sending me on wild goose chases, finding out information that he never uses, and then mislays, and then asks me to do it all over again. He likes to organise every second of my day, and it's so claustraphobic. He'll wake me up with a cup of tea, and before I've even taken a sip, he's asking me what I've got planned for the day, and giving me a list of jobs to do for him. And with him going on and on about the house, and putting pressure on me 24/7, he doesn't realise how much stress he's putting on me. He thinks that it's the fact that the house needs so much work that is stressful, but it's not. It's him meddling and trying to stop me from moving into it that is stressful. I read somewhere that chronic unresolved stress is a factor in premature birth, and should be avoided during pregnancy! Ha! As if anybody chooses to endure chronic unresolved stress during any time, never mind pregnancy!
My big fear is that I'll end up having her early and being in a situation where I've got nowhere to go. It's not as if I've got anything at all organised for her arrival. I don't even have a cot. And I don't want to have to come back here after the birth. I really don't. I try and tell him that the more time elapses, the more stressed I feel, and his delaying tactics are just making everything worse. We could have got the place sorted by now if he wasn't procrastinating so much. He says he wants the best for me and the baby, but the way I see it, he just wants what's best for him. He wants to be able to come and go as he pleases, seeing me when he needs me and leaving me alone when he doesn't.
He's got to realise at some point that our child needs a home, and his home is never going to be our home, because of everything that has gone on in the past. I can't just forget it. He wants me to find somewhere else, that's convenient for him, and wants to contribute financially to the roof over our heads. And I know him. He's broken every promise he's ever made to me, and he wants me to trust him with the roof over our heads! He's even tried to bribe me, saying that he'll change his will to leave everything to me, if I don't take this house on. He's promised that he'll always look after me and the baby, no matter what happens between us. But how can I trust him? He has no relationship with the children he's already got. And it's always somebody elses fault, never his.
Anyway, I'm just praying that he'll realise that this is something I have to do, because he has never given me any security. He only gives so he can take away. He forced my hand, and being nice to me for a week isn't going to make up for all the time he was a total b****** to me. I've made mistakes in my life, and that has made me a very forgiving person, but he can't expect me to forget.
I'm just venting, coz it alleviates some of that stress!
love
Diff xxx
And as for the crying, I'm one of those people who get tearful very easily, so I'm used to it. I was reading a magazine whilst waiting for a blood test at the hospital yesterday, and to my horror I found myself in tears over an article describing a shire horse pulling a dray! I know it sounds daft. I can't sing nursery rhymes without my voice cracking.
It's 9 weeks left now. As for the hips cracking when you roll over, I don't even bother rolling over much now, coz it's so much effort. And getting up from the sofa when I've been lying down is like raising the Titanic. I've been pretty active all the way through this pregnancy, but it's really catching up with me. I haven't made a start on sorting out the house yet. My "incapacity" is giving the boyfriend a lot of ammo to use against me to try and stop me from going. Every time I get my independent streak out and tell him that I'm going to go up and make a start on it, he points out that I can just about climb the stairs, so how am I going to manage to decorate a whole house? He has been making a big effort not to upset me recently, and I can see that he's trying. He has agreed to come and give me a hand with the decorating next week. I'm wary of letting him get too involved, coz then he starts dictating to me. But at the same time, I need his help. It's a difficult one.
I'd love to just be left in peace, without him nagging me about crap. He's got a talent for wasting time, particularly my time, sending me on wild goose chases, finding out information that he never uses, and then mislays, and then asks me to do it all over again. He likes to organise every second of my day, and it's so claustraphobic. He'll wake me up with a cup of tea, and before I've even taken a sip, he's asking me what I've got planned for the day, and giving me a list of jobs to do for him. And with him going on and on about the house, and putting pressure on me 24/7, he doesn't realise how much stress he's putting on me. He thinks that it's the fact that the house needs so much work that is stressful, but it's not. It's him meddling and trying to stop me from moving into it that is stressful. I read somewhere that chronic unresolved stress is a factor in premature birth, and should be avoided during pregnancy! Ha! As if anybody chooses to endure chronic unresolved stress during any time, never mind pregnancy!
My big fear is that I'll end up having her early and being in a situation where I've got nowhere to go. It's not as if I've got anything at all organised for her arrival. I don't even have a cot. And I don't want to have to come back here after the birth. I really don't. I try and tell him that the more time elapses, the more stressed I feel, and his delaying tactics are just making everything worse. We could have got the place sorted by now if he wasn't procrastinating so much. He says he wants the best for me and the baby, but the way I see it, he just wants what's best for him. He wants to be able to come and go as he pleases, seeing me when he needs me and leaving me alone when he doesn't.
He's got to realise at some point that our child needs a home, and his home is never going to be our home, because of everything that has gone on in the past. I can't just forget it. He wants me to find somewhere else, that's convenient for him, and wants to contribute financially to the roof over our heads. And I know him. He's broken every promise he's ever made to me, and he wants me to trust him with the roof over our heads! He's even tried to bribe me, saying that he'll change his will to leave everything to me, if I don't take this house on. He's promised that he'll always look after me and the baby, no matter what happens between us. But how can I trust him? He has no relationship with the children he's already got. And it's always somebody elses fault, never his.
Anyway, I'm just praying that he'll realise that this is something I have to do, because he has never given me any security. He only gives so he can take away. He forced my hand, and being nice to me for a week isn't going to make up for all the time he was a total b****** to me. I've made mistakes in my life, and that has made me a very forgiving person, but he can't expect me to forget.
I'm just venting, coz it alleviates some of that stress!
love
Diff xxx
Dear Diff,
From your post...."He's got to realise at some point that our child needs a home, and his home is never going to be our home, because of everything that has gone on in the past. I can't just forget it. He wants me to find somewhere else, that's convenient for him, and wants to contribute financially to the roof over our heads. And I know him. He's broken every promise he's ever made to me, and he wants me to trust him with the roof over our heads! He's even tried to bribe me, saying that he'll change his will to leave everything to me, if I don't take this house on. He's promised that he'll always look after me and the baby, no matter what happens between us. But how can I trust him? He has no relationship with the children he's already got. And it's always somebody elses fault, never his."
I'm so glad you see through his manipulation! He sounds so self-centered and immature. Obviously you can't count on him for anything. You'll have to provide for you and the baby and see anything you get from him as a gift, because you aren't going to be able to count on him for sure. Even if you have to move in with the paining not being all done, babies nap a LOT in the beginning. It will get done.
Love,
Susan
From your post...."He's got to realise at some point that our child needs a home, and his home is never going to be our home, because of everything that has gone on in the past. I can't just forget it. He wants me to find somewhere else, that's convenient for him, and wants to contribute financially to the roof over our heads. And I know him. He's broken every promise he's ever made to me, and he wants me to trust him with the roof over our heads! He's even tried to bribe me, saying that he'll change his will to leave everything to me, if I don't take this house on. He's promised that he'll always look after me and the baby, no matter what happens between us. But how can I trust him? He has no relationship with the children he's already got. And it's always somebody elses fault, never his."
I'm so glad you see through his manipulation! He sounds so self-centered and immature. Obviously you can't count on him for anything. You'll have to provide for you and the baby and see anything you get from him as a gift, because you aren't going to be able to count on him for sure. Even if you have to move in with the paining not being all done, babies nap a LOT in the beginning. It will get done.
Love,
Susan
Diff you know my BF was stressful to me during pregnancy. All 3 of my kids have been pre mature "i'm sure stress was a factor". I have a low stress tolerence anyway i don't deal well with presure or being controled. I had major issues too with him "bf" wanting me to make his place as my place. I knew we needed OUR OWN place or I needed to be alone he needed to go. My bf was such a A*s about getting us somewhere to live. Before the pregnancy we both lived alone. My place was very small he lived in a 2 bedroom house "that is his" but his parents were living there too. He wanted me to move in there NO WAY I was going to do that. We fought about it a lot in the end I was about the just leave him make it on my own in my craphole of a apartment. He finally got in his head I was not going to live with him and his family. his mom gose to work at 4 am so he told me the weekends she works my 10 and 8 year old could not stay all night. No way i was going to tell my kids a baby can be there but they can't. Anyway he has $ he was just trying to stress me out. On DECEMBER 2ED we moved in together to our OWN place the baby was born December 7th so we cut that very close!. I guess child support payments started looking not so pleasent to him he decided to do what needed done for US. I had a lot less tolerence for putting up with him when i was pregnant. Now that the baby is here we have a great place to live where my kids can come whenever they want I feel so much better. I can't understand how he thought we could make a life together in a house where his mom and dad lived to. I have not lived with my mom since 17 i was not about to move in with his!.
Hi Z-girl, they just don't seem to get it, do they? The house I'm living in with him now is the same house where he lived with his ex-wife, where his children grew up, and where he's had all his subsequent girlfriends. It still jars me inside when I see his "private" photo collection, and see pictures of other women in OUR room, in OUR bed (even though I don't currently sleep there very often coz I prefer to be on my own being so heavily pregnant) - it's still the place where we make love. It just does my head in that there is so much history that has gone before me in that house, and makes me feel like I'm just one in a long line of different women, and not the love of his life. It doesn't help that his sister lives directly opposite, and his mother just round the corner. I feel like it's their strong hold. They're just waiting for me to move on and somebdoy else to take my place, as has happened so often in the past. How can I make that place my home?
Anyway, I'm gonna have a bath now and watch FTN later, coz they've got a programme on "Booze Britain" and this week it's the Isle of Man, during the TT, which is the time and place where we made our baby, so I might see myself, drinking champagne by the pint in the beer tent (it was my birthday!) and wearing thigh boots and basque!
love
Diff xxx
Anyway, I'm gonna have a bath now and watch FTN later, coz they've got a programme on "Booze Britain" and this week it's the Isle of Man, during the TT, which is the time and place where we made our baby, so I might see myself, drinking champagne by the pint in the beer tent (it was my birthday!) and wearing thigh boots and basque!
love
Diff xxx
