Does your husband want to stop?
Has he tried before?
I am in day 6 of w/d - and I just told my husband about my problem yesterday.
He is very understanding ( I think), but I don't know how it would be if I slipped over and over again.
I guess I am just trying to get a bit more info, if you are ready to give it.
-britney
Brit.... My husband and I both worked at the hospital... We were people that worked our a** off.. and our fellow workers loved us. I was hit head on by a drunk driver and it ended my nursing career as an RN. This happened in 1997. after that.. from what I could understand, my husband started getting lortabs from the doctors in the hallways of the hospital. This really started happening in 1997, by 1999, he was a full blown addict. The doctors in the ER were giving him enough prescritions to get a precription filled about every three days... My husband started hurting me.. my father was dying of cancer and I found out my husband was having an affair with a girl that worked in the pharmacy because she was working in the housing place of his greatest love, Viks..... anyway, I went through hell, crying, not understanding what was going on.... while my father was dying, I would leave the hospital to find him in a strip club...probably trying to find him some drugs... also the other employees of the hospital thought he had had a child by this girl that worked in the pharmacy. My husband stole drugs from the Pharmacy in the hospital, went to Jail for three months... he is on probation but he pays a hefty 400.00 of our money every other month to the court house. The never call him for unexpected testing because they want the money more than to knw he is on drugs still. I"m torn all to pieces constantly because almost all of his contacts are involved in drugs, alcohol. I can tell by the way he is always on the camode or in his sleep, his arm and legs jerks really bad, that something is going on.... he did beat me black and blue three times in 1999 and now he has started to be violent again. I dont want to wrongly accuse him of doing drugs or being in withdrawal if he is not. I need help to understand what I"m seeing.
All I can say is WOW. You are a strong, brave person to have stayed by his side so long. Now I am not a therapist or anything, but have you tried to talk to anyone about this - like a therapist???
Does your husband admit he has a problem?
Do you know where he keeps his pills?
-britney
Does your husband admit he has a problem?
Do you know where he keeps his pills?
-britney
Incentive-You are strong. All I can say is hang in there. I'm going to write my story here in the next 24 hours. It's bad too. It's bad for all of us, but hang in there..my story will be posted under a new thread called "My story"..watch for it..it's going to take me a little time to write it...
With all due respect, right now his addiction -- or confronting him on his using -- is less important than your personal safety. He has physically abused you before and now you are fearing that he is becoming violent again? You deserve to feel SAFE. Many who have endured abusive relationships would tell you to get the hell out now, before you're beaten again, unless he gets clean immediately and seeks counseling. But I have no persoanl experience in this area, so I feel unqualified to offer advice. I just worry for your safety. I hope you get some addditional feedback from women on this Board who may have suffered through similarly abusive relationships. God Bless, M.
I would have to say that it doesn't even matter at this point if he is still addicted or not - if he is being abusive, you have to get out now!!
Abuse, regardless of the excuse (as there are absolutely no reasons for it!) cannot be tolerated. Abuse, just like addiction can, usually escalates.
Please ensure your safety and go somewhere where you can be safe.
This is no way to live.
Peace
Mickey
Abuse, regardless of the excuse (as there are absolutely no reasons for it!) cannot be tolerated. Abuse, just like addiction can, usually escalates.
Please ensure your safety and go somewhere where you can be safe.
This is no way to live.
Peace
Mickey
Dear insentive...I'm going to stick my nose in here because of the black N blue thing.Please be SOOO careful.I know first hand how emotions can spin out of control.I spent 12yrs with a man who took his problems out on me and our daughters.Finally it took him cutting my throat to make me realize that he was not worthy of my love,help,faithfulness support I could go on and on.I'm sorry to but in but when it comes to abuse I take leave of myself....I will be thinking of you and praying for you.take care......mollyjean
