Valarie (and everyone else too), thanks for the post and thanks for your honesty...that was the topic of the meeting I led last night at the convention. I started with, "with only two years of sobriety under my belt 100 % honesty is still a hard one for me"...but for the most part and very important for me is that I got honest with the gal in the mirror, once I finally admitted that alcohol had kicked my butt and that I am an alcoholic, that was the most honest I had been in years. The rest I just try to do the best I can...I can embellish or stretch the truth when I want someone to like me, because my alcoholic head will tell me over and over again, how can they really like me, if only they knew who I really am! So, I work on it...daily, some days are better than others...and in reviewing my journal I can see the progress I have made. Slowbriety....that's it in a nutshell for me. Also, the board can seem clicky at times, even to me and I've been around the board since 2004....some of us of formed bonds, but please let me know (all of you) if I need to check myself...because my ego can get in the way, and I can sound like I'm the AA rah, rah girl, when I should just be carrying the message of hope and solution for those who want to hear it...I know that AA is not the only way to achieve sobriety and maintain sobriety; I also know that some use AA for a springboard into sobriety and then can maintain sobriety on their own, or with their church or therapy sessions, etc. So, please I want to remain humble and teachable, and I am depending on you guys to call me on my BS! With that, thanks for being there for me....we are all links in a chain on a life saving journey.
VW Girl,
Don't you worry. In my book you are one of the most inspiring here. You never sound preachy to me. You are always positive and are open to ideas of different strategy's. Yeah things seem clicky but not in a bad way. It's like a big family and you guys always welcome people into the family with open arms. Some people just have different personalities as we all do. Like I said in another post to me you seem like that cool Aunt that everyone has that always tries to protect and shield the young ones. You are wonderful and I appreciate you and everyone else here very much. If I offended anyone I have really tried to explain myself cuz that was never my itent. I hope everyone has a safe fun and sober 4th!!!! Yipeeee BBQ!!!! Yum.
Peace and Friendship,
Valarie
Don't you worry. In my book you are one of the most inspiring here. You never sound preachy to me. You are always positive and are open to ideas of different strategy's. Yeah things seem clicky but not in a bad way. It's like a big family and you guys always welcome people into the family with open arms. Some people just have different personalities as we all do. Like I said in another post to me you seem like that cool Aunt that everyone has that always tries to protect and shield the young ones. You are wonderful and I appreciate you and everyone else here very much. If I offended anyone I have really tried to explain myself cuz that was never my itent. I hope everyone has a safe fun and sober 4th!!!! Yipeeee BBQ!!!! Yum.
Peace and Friendship,
Valarie
Valarie, thanks for describing me as cool, I don't get that very often, lol! Anyway, have you re-thought about takin' K off my hands for a few days? Actually, I have to say she has been towing the line pretty good...haven't sprung a drug test on her though ; - ) Have a wonderful day!
VW....LOL you are soo funny...and you do seem cool to me. Sometimes when feathers get ruffled around here you are there to smooth things out and show both sides of the story. I think I will have to pass on taking k off your hands. I don't even have a pet....I think I would forget to feed it or something. My hubby and I decided no kids about 5 years ago which is a blessing in disguise I think. I am soooooo selfish and I think it is okay if a person knows that about themselves and decides to not have them. To all of you that do....OMG do I take my hat off to you!!! I don't know how moms work, take care of kids, husbands....and all of the other millions of things women do and still manage to function....and BTW stay sober in this group! Hooray for all you moms!!!
Peace and Sobriety VW,
Valarie
Happy 4th
Peace and Sobriety VW,
Valarie
Happy 4th
I think you are an awesome lady VW, this board wouldn't be the same without you here, and I always look forward to reading your posts, although I don't respond as much as I should, but I am rutting for you, and I like the Slowbriety thing!! that's AWESOME,,
Big Hugs
lovedove
Big Hugs
lovedove
Thanks, sheesh I didn't even have a house plant stay alive before I had kids...don't get me wrong, I love my children but it is real tough sometimes...and I was never clear-headed when I made big decisions, ie, getting married, having children, buying property, on and on...well, coulda, woulda, shoulda...can't change the past...can only work on what I got today! You too have a wonderful weekend! It's been hot up here, imagine the OC is the same way...
Vw, yep...it hotter that HE double hockey sticks in Costa Mesa too. You have a great 4th my friend...and thanks again for being you!
Valarie
Valarie
Hi VW..hope you're having a great vacation. I just can't get over, the more i read you, the more you blow me away!!! You're definately getting into my head...which is something very few people have ever been able to do, being the stubborn biosh that i am;) (i mean this as a compliment...i swear you have to be a long lost sister of mine;)
Have a great day;)
Have a great day;)
Hey Jayde, thanks for that...yes you remind me of a young me...lol! Did you read the post about the bands at the Roundup I just posted to you ~ I can't remember what thread (old age ; - ) Anyhoo, funny feeling I have, I think our paths will cross some day, don't know why, how or when...just an intuition ~ and I normally wouldn't even post something like this on a public forum...but it has been burnin' in me for a few days. Okay, sista have a great sober day ~ what's the little man (your son) up to?
Hey VW, just want to say I think you're great too, and I don't think you sound preachy - I think your voice is one of experience, you have been where I am now and your experience and wisdom have definitely helped me. I hope to someday be where you're at. So thank YOU for always trying to help...
Hey Everyone, Thank you for your posts. It is with heartfelt humility I read them, I want to make clear to anyone who may be reading this for the first time or posting for the first time here...I didn't post it for any type of praise or kudos...I believe the folks who post here know that...however, it did make me uncomfortable to read some of the posts...because I still have trouble accepting who I am now...however, I want to also point out that I am no different than any of you, no matter where you came from or if you are still are out there drinking...I am a recovering drunk who by the grace of God is sober today...and if I can reach out my hand (through a post) and extend it to you just maybe, just maybe, I can through God, help someone stay sober...help them put down the drink and begin living life...with that I've done as directed and am giving away what was so freely given to me. Again, I've posted it before, I cannot keep this thing unless I give it away...I have a healthy fear now of keeping away from the first drink...I know where it will take me...believe me "countless vain attempts" got me drunk over and over and over again.
Hey VW,
Your a good lady,
Cricky VW You are awesome!!
And Again I thank you for being here for me and the reat of us !!!
Your a good lady,
Cricky VW You are awesome!!
And Again I thank you for being here for me and the reat of us !!!
