I'm am torn between my heart and my mind,, I don't know what to do .. Hi I'm writing this post in hope of the right decision when it comes to my 2yr old sons Daddy.. In the begining he was a wonderful dedicated Dad . showed his love for his son every day. Loved to laugh and make others laugh , helped his family and always making sure we were all OK nd had everything we needed... Hes so smart ,kind hearted and very loving .... Until now.. Him and I are not together but I love him so much he used to be my best friend but now he's a stranger. He pushed me and our son away as well as his mom and the people who le loved the most in life ,slowly fading away as he got deeper into his addiction to drug.. He kept the fact that he was on drugs away from me but I wasn't stupid... He stayed away for days than weeks that turned into months. I would call nd text to make sure he was ok . no answer .. I fear for him and scared to death of a relay of 2010 when I lost my oldest sons dad to drugs...
Anyway... My 2yr olds Daddy is now in jail facing prison time do to his vulnerability and need for drugs. Now he calls asking to please get him out , he wants to change he needs help and wants to build a family orented home for the boys . he admits that he has a problem . but I'm afraid if we post bail that he is going to relaps or worse even harm himself to keep from going to prison..... My heart believes so much that he can/will change and the sound of a family is amazing . but than what if I would b making a mistake by helping to get him out .. My mind and heart is floating on what ifs ... I just want him to be OK and get better I can't lose him our 2yr old can't lose him nd my 9yr old loves him so much... Idk what to do . please someone help me to understand this ..
Hi, Someone will see your post that is going through or been through what is happening to you and answer your letter. I am the mother of an addict. It's hard to be tough hearted when you have two little ones like you have. But if you read other posts on here the majority will probably say leave him in jail! Drug addicts know what buttons to push its a survivor instinct they develop to get them where they want to be to get themselves their drugs. You probably don't like that I will say to leave him in jail. He won't come out of there after a day and just quit drugs. It takes time and professional help most of the time. He is more apt to get that in jail than being out. It's hard I know! Hope it all works out for you. M.
