Don't know where to start. I have always known that my boyfriend did hash, but recently he told me he's also done cocaine in the past. Started in '88, he's 32 now. I asked him to stop and naively thought that was all it took! I've never done any drugs myself - even alcohol and so I'm having trouble understanding why he does this. He hadn't done any cocaine for about 2 months, but two days ago he got really drunk with friends and ended up doing 4 lines. He told me next morning and he seemed to be really remoresful, guilty, even disgusted with himself. I'm so scared I'm gonna get a phonecall one night from a friend saying he's in intensive care etc. He's already been hospitilised twice in the past, once from alcohol once from drugs. What can i do to get through to him? How can I help him? Should I protect myself? We had a weekend away earlier this year and he was drug free for 2 days - best weekend of my life. He was interested, attentive, full of energy. Thats the man I love, the man I want. How can I get him full time and not just on holidays?
Any help appreciated.
I am sorta in a similar boat. My boyfriend is an alcoholic and two months ago he quit drinking. Since then he relapsed once - he was in total remorse and was very guilty the next day - He has left his previous job for a month now, and everyday he has been helping out some friends, all except today. Then I phoned him this afternoon, and lo and behold, he was drunk again. I have made a decision from today that I don't want to go out with him anymore. Me being a recovering addict myself - his drinking was not helping me at all. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make because last time we broke up it only lasted 3 days and I am scared that I won't be able to stick to it.
It is so hard to be with someone who WILL lie to you no matter how wonderful a person he seems to be. My boyfriend IS a wonderful person, but his drinking has taken that person and hidden him away. My boyfriend is also amazing, but when he is not drinking and I don't deserve to only have a part-time man. And I have chosen not to be dragged into that again. I don't know if that might give you any strength or courage for what you choose to do, or even if you are going to stay with him - whatever you choose, make sure it is for the best of YOU.
Let me know how things go
xxx
It is so hard to be with someone who WILL lie to you no matter how wonderful a person he seems to be. My boyfriend IS a wonderful person, but his drinking has taken that person and hidden him away. My boyfriend is also amazing, but when he is not drinking and I don't deserve to only have a part-time man. And I have chosen not to be dragged into that again. I don't know if that might give you any strength or courage for what you choose to do, or even if you are going to stay with him - whatever you choose, make sure it is for the best of YOU.
Let me know how things go
xxx
JUST DUMP HIM, HE'S ON A ONE WAY TRAIN TO NOWHERE.