When the hell is enough enough? I have been doing a pretty good job of "detaching with love" in regards to our homeless AS. I understand I can't control his addiction and I cannot cure him. Of course, we want to be there for him when he decides to get help. This was the scenario today and it's the second time it has happened in the past couple of months. He calls me yesterday and says he has a detox appt. set for the middle of November. His "plan" is to detox, hopefully get into an inpatient program, deal with his legal issues and then live life. Ok...great!! Then he calls back a little while later and says detox called him and said they had a cancellation and he could come at 8am today. I said I could give him a ride and store his things. I texted him before I left to get him this morning (he's currently sleeping in someone's basement). He tells me he doesn't have his things all ready. I tell him to be ready by the time I get there. Of course, he's not and proceeds to try and blame me and the family for not helping him. He had clothes strewn all over and was no where near ready to go. I went out and sat in my truck and texted him and told him we had to leave by 745am to get there on time (they cancel your opening if you are late, even a few minutes). At 746am I left. He then bombarded me with texts and phone calls telling me "thanks alot" "he's really just sick of this, he's going to kill himself". I responded with, "I was there when I said I would be" and that's all I said. Of course, I sobbed the whole way home. As I said, this is the second time a scenario like this has happened. Am I still supposed to be there for him when he decides to get clean? I worked last night and didn't get in bed until 1130pm and I was up at 6am to go get him. Do I say no the next time to helping him potentially get clean? I felt so positive last night and now I feel broken. Thanks again for listening friends. I know you all know what I went through this morning.
Michelle
If he actually is serious about getting into rehab the facility will come get him.
Good luck
Good luck
