Hey, don't really know where to start! My husband and I have been together 12years and been married 7 years. He started smoking weed before we got married but this was on an occassional basis (as far as I knew). But after we got married he became unemployed and started smoking on a near enough daily basis, he was unemployed for 4 years. He has recently become self-employed and things seemed to be looking good. However, since the last six months he has also started drinking everyday. Over the last 12 years he has always said he would like to give up and recently mentioned he would like to get some professional help.
But has never actually tried. It's at a point where it's affecting our marriage, as all we ever do everyday is argue. He starts arguing over pathtic little things. We can't go out for simple things like a movie or dinner anymore, this again ends up in an arguement and is quite embarassing for me as everyones attention is drawn to us.
I am not sure where this behave is coming from.... is it because of the smoking? Is there anything else that anyone would suggest to help him quit? Is rehab the answer?
Hello Sheela,
Welcome to the board.
I am sorry to hear about the problems you are having in your relationship with your husband. Relationships are not easy. This being said, I don't know that the fact that your husband smokes weed is what causes the problems in your relationship. It obviously isn't helping the situation but I am sure its not the only reason there are problems. I have been married for 21 years. There has been ups in downs in my relationship with my husband too butI must admit that the fact that I was smoking pot on a daily basis did cause some problems especially moneywise. I was spending alot of money on weed and he did not like that. I quit smoking pot 23 months ago. It is the best thing I ever did in my life and my husband does say I have changed for the best since I quit.
Why don't you ask your husband to check this web site out. There are alot of people on this board whom I am sure he could relate to. The fact that he has thought of quitting marijuana is a least a beginning. Quitting pot is not easy. You have to do it one day at a time.
Here is another web site that I go to often and that I have found very helpful. Your husband could register and so could you.
http://www.ma-online.org/chatroom.html
There is another web site I went to every single day when I first quit. There is a 30 day self help guide to quitting marijuana that I found extremely useful.
http://oade.nd.edu/educate-yourself...aging-cravings/
Hope to hear from you again.
Keep posting.
Welcome to the board.
I am sorry to hear about the problems you are having in your relationship with your husband. Relationships are not easy. This being said, I don't know that the fact that your husband smokes weed is what causes the problems in your relationship. It obviously isn't helping the situation but I am sure its not the only reason there are problems. I have been married for 21 years. There has been ups in downs in my relationship with my husband too butI must admit that the fact that I was smoking pot on a daily basis did cause some problems especially moneywise. I was spending alot of money on weed and he did not like that. I quit smoking pot 23 months ago. It is the best thing I ever did in my life and my husband does say I have changed for the best since I quit.
Why don't you ask your husband to check this web site out. There are alot of people on this board whom I am sure he could relate to. The fact that he has thought of quitting marijuana is a least a beginning. Quitting pot is not easy. You have to do it one day at a time.
Here is another web site that I go to often and that I have found very helpful. Your husband could register and so could you.
http://www.ma-online.org/chatroom.html
There is another web site I went to every single day when I first quit. There is a 30 day self help guide to quitting marijuana that I found extremely useful.
http://oade.nd.edu/educate-yourself...aging-cravings/
Hope to hear from you again.
Keep posting.
Thanks Fleur, you advice has been useful. Its great to hear you have quit pot, good luck.
Thanks x
Thanks x
Have looked in the family section of this board for supprt?
