i guess i am naive - i must be - the guy that i have adored for 2 years - we have finally got together - we have been together now for a lil over a year - i knew that he "USED" to do cocaine - when we got together i realized that he did - up to that point it was heresay - well i trusted what he said that he had stopped doing and i was so proud that he wasn't on it - needless to say, i walked in on him and well, he was doing it. now i don't know how i feel,i am confused,i have no idea what to do -i want to be with him still - we have even set a wedding date - now i have no idea - will he ever stop - confused on whether to stay ot leave - has anyboby went through this - i know you can't tell me what to do - but would like help / advice / and just to talk with someone who has been there ---any conversation / advice will be helpful and greatly GREATLY appreciated
thank you for any information and/or advice
I would reconsider your thoughts on marriage for now....he needs to get into a recovery program to deal with his problem. I believe an addict that says he/she can do it alone is in denial. I would concentrate on getting him help, however be careful of enabling him. You might want to try Nar-anon, or Al-anon. These are support groups for friends, family and loved ones of people that suffer from the disease of addiction. Addiction has both physical and mental components, so he can put down the drugs however, if he does not get help for the behaviours associated with addiction he will not be able to stay clean.