My son is a 23 year old who I believe is addicted to weed and prescription adderol. Mostly weed. He recently was ticketed for possession, he had a grinder in his car. He said he would stop (again), but I saw some communication from him that his date for court was pushed out, so he was going to smoke a lot. He is lying to work, lying about where he is and what he is doing, he has abnormal temper tantrums.
I think I have finally convinced my husband that we have a problem and he can't enable him any more.
But, what do we do now?
Dear Mom, I am the mother of a 29 year old herion and opiate addict.Presently he is is jail.I could go on about my life and his over the past 10 years.My best advice to you is this.First off he is addicted the weed the adderel the pill crusher , which shows you he is either snorting it or injecting it. You mentioned he is lying his temper how many more red flags do you need? You and your husband right now are feeding him allowing him to sleep in a comfy home...of course he is not about to change...You and Dad must confront him with your concerns immediately. .of course he will deny it and use your own love for him against you.But you must state your findings what you have observed and tell him you will not tolerate his behavior or his drug use.You will contact the doctor and get him into rehab immediately. IT sounds like the addiction has progressed and before it progresses any further you must get him in rehab.If he refuses or says he doesn't need it you tell him that it is not a choice.You cannot allow him to run the household or get between you and your husband you must unite as one.If he refuses you tell him he will not be allowed to remain there.Dont allow the 23 year old to make the decisions or run the house .Be a parent if you don't be firm it'll progress don't enable him set the rules and stick to them.
ChristophersMom,
Thank you so much for your heart felt answer. I am so sorry for your situation. You must be very strong to help others with the same nightmare you went through. Thanks you for your strength and your thoughtfulness toward others like me.
We have talked to him, and have given him a list of rules. I don't even think he is going to last a week in keeping them. I'm hoping he isn't crushing the drug, yet, but I see where (and how easily) this could go. I think we are going to have to get him into some kind of residential rehab program. I don't know where to start to look for one, and I don't know how to make him go. I am worried about putting him with people who are farther down the abuse path and giving him ideas.
Thank you so much for your heart felt answer. I am so sorry for your situation. You must be very strong to help others with the same nightmare you went through. Thanks you for your strength and your thoughtfulness toward others like me.
We have talked to him, and have given him a list of rules. I don't even think he is going to last a week in keeping them. I'm hoping he isn't crushing the drug, yet, but I see where (and how easily) this could go. I think we are going to have to get him into some kind of residential rehab program. I don't know where to start to look for one, and I don't know how to make him go. I am worried about putting him with people who are farther down the abuse path and giving him ideas.
Dead Mom, I truly am sorry you and your family are going through this.I wish I had someone to talk to 10 years ago, I am here for you and will give you my best possible advice.As I said I'm afraid he is already crushing the medication for either snorting or injecting it..is he wearing long sleeve shirts , do you find shoelaces in his room..I am not there but now is the time to educate yourself and pay close attention ...do not down play any suspicion. ...I don't know if your son has health insurance if he does you can contact the doctor as he is the one that could be helpful in getting him into one.You already know this must be done cause you stated there are rules in effect and you doubt he will last a week....You cannot give him benefit of doubt ..All that will do is enable his behavior and usage to continue.He will promise you he is not using but you already stated he is lying about other things...You and your husband must band together because individually he will defeat you....my marriage of over 23 years ended in divorce. .You have to be strong be firm and trust yourself....I am trying to help you in the early stages he has already progressed...from weed to pills ...it will progress because eventually he will want a better high...they are stepping stones ....I am here for you I will do my best to help you through this....I have over ten years experience and my story is still on going but I am stronger smarter and a whole lot wiser now...I will do all I can for you.
Sorry about the mispell.Please I stand corrected Dear Mom
My son goes to court this Friday and it's breaking my heart It will serve as a rehab of sorts since he chose not to go and get the help he needs. He'll probably only get 75 days but we have to be tough and stand our ground about not letting him back in our home. He has stolen so much from us as parents both material items and the joy of parenthood. He will miss our daughters delivery of a new baby boy, Thanksgiving and Christmas. I don't know how to get through it. Any advice?
