I guess I'm writing this because I'm lost not really know which way to turn just needing some advice and guidance.. I have dated my partner on and off for about 3 years now.. The only difference is now she is sober and has been for about 100 days now give or take.. There has been a lot of pain caused more than I want to acknowledge.. When she left for detox we kind of got pushed back together.. I can personally say that I have no healed from anything that has happened.. I love her to death.. I feel like everyday I try my hardest to be the best I can but I have lost myself along the way worrying and trying to take care of her... I guess I'm just needing advice and comfort.. I don't understand half of what goes on with her I try to understand but I know I'll never get it.. What do I do????
I highly recommend seeking out Alonon. There are meeting all over the country, or phone meetings if you can't make meetings in person. You can find them on the website. The disease isn't a simple linear thing, but if you start attending meeting the cloudy picture of it all come into view. Google them and you should be able to find groups near you. The rehab is also likely to know where the meetings are.
