Hello,well i have been a member here for over a month really longer just change my name.Because i lost my log in infor. because i wast getting anything from here.So one day i said id go back maybe someone has become a member and could help me.Well i came back and been posting.I noticed that new member have to suport eachother. The old member know eachother they help eachother out .So the new members post end up not been a post at all.Although i have met 3 people here i am thankful for.I get emails from them only one has been a member a long time,The others are in the same place i am stuggling to find help and get better.I got a email from this person and they said i seen your post and i know the board has not been much help lately.But keep posting they will start answering.So i have and i see that the member old members here stay at the top of the post board.I just thought id point this out so maybe you all could start ansering and help the new members.The old members they will jump in when there is action going on and take side the withother.I have not gotten anything out of this borad and i sit here reading post for hours at the time and watch a new members post disapear.I read them hopeing someone has asked the same thing i have and have gotten a answer.I spend hours a day here and its time for me to move on and find another suport group online.I wish you all the best i hope this borad starts helping those in need new members.To my friends that email me and call we will keep suporting eachother.Im thankful for you.Take care all hope this addication dont get the best of you.Crystal
It will fade away before long .....But ill bump it a few just so many will see how this borad really is.Im here to keep bumping it until many have read it.Ill let it fade then im outer herecrystal
well, now i don't know about that.
didi posted to you pretty quickly a little while ago.
the more you are willing the post about yourself, the more help you are likely to receive. give, and you will receive. ask, and you will find answers.
hopefully, you'll find them here if you choose to stay around.
the more you antagonize people, the less they are likely to help.
attempts at guilt trips don't work very well with fellow addicts.
Oh Crystal(pretty name) I know I feel bad that you feel that way.I can only answer for myself and I am sorry.For the last 2 mths Ive really only been social on here.I am having problems in my life 7 felt I really needed the extra support.I did forget for a bit there that it can be scarey comming here for the first couple times,This place feels to me like a second home truley.Even through the hard times when we all start bickering to & at each other.I really dont know what I would of done without the support from the friends Ive made here.
Now I still have stuff going on in my life(who doesnt) but I dont feel i need the extra support so maybe a day or 2 ago i start to reach out to new people,and I forgot just how helpful to me it is.It made me feel good to come here & maybe reach someone who felt alone.
I guess my point is that yes there are close friendship on here but it does take time to build that kind of relationship.I can say that Ive never met a group of people before who banned together to help people.Im sorry you didnt & dont feel that way because I have seen it.Ive seen members fighting like cats & dogs only to bann together when they see someone (new&old)needs help.So I guess thats my point.I will be here a bit longer if you would like to talk....mj
Now I still have stuff going on in my life(who doesnt) but I dont feel i need the extra support so maybe a day or 2 ago i start to reach out to new people,and I forgot just how helpful to me it is.It made me feel good to come here & maybe reach someone who felt alone.
I guess my point is that yes there are close friendship on here but it does take time to build that kind of relationship.I can say that Ive never met a group of people before who banned together to help people.Im sorry you didnt & dont feel that way because I have seen it.Ive seen members fighting like cats & dogs only to bann together when they see someone (new&old)needs help.So I guess thats my point.I will be here a bit longer if you would like to talk....mj
hello dear.. so sorry you feel that way ....I dont post to much... when I frist got on here I did post alot ..I think thats how life is sometimes we move on when recovery gets a little better and return to help a little..life gets so bust sometimes we forget that people like youselve need our attention .. so very sorry...I work alot and get so busy forgive us here we want to help believe us we do and the weekends arehard becouse not many people post they get bust ...there will be someone here dear WE CARE REALLY WE DO love poopie I MEAN BUSY NOT BUST SORRY
Crystal,
Hi, I'm sorry you feel that way. For me, I don't read all the posts, usually just what catches my eye. There are quite a few newcomers I post and talk to through im's. If I read something I can't relate to, I usually wont post just to hear myself talk. Usually I'll say hi, and I apologize for missing your posts. As a matter of fact I just posted to someone just to say hi so he didn't feel ignored.
I think you'll find that most people here will post to ya' and will wanna try to help in anyway they can. I hope you'll stick and stay, just jump into a thread and say hi. There seems to be alot of newcomers here these days which is great and I think the responce from everyone is pretty good. I'm sure we all felt like that at one time or another, I'd say stick around and keep posting.Maybe you hit a day where alot of folks aren't on or some are having a bad day etc.. I'm sure everyone would agree and tell you to let us know whats up, even if you have, do it again. Anyway, welcome to the board, hope ya' stay, take care.........Bob
Hi, I'm sorry you feel that way. For me, I don't read all the posts, usually just what catches my eye. There are quite a few newcomers I post and talk to through im's. If I read something I can't relate to, I usually wont post just to hear myself talk. Usually I'll say hi, and I apologize for missing your posts. As a matter of fact I just posted to someone just to say hi so he didn't feel ignored.
I think you'll find that most people here will post to ya' and will wanna try to help in anyway they can. I hope you'll stick and stay, just jump into a thread and say hi. There seems to be alot of newcomers here these days which is great and I think the responce from everyone is pretty good. I'm sure we all felt like that at one time or another, I'd say stick around and keep posting.Maybe you hit a day where alot of folks aren't on or some are having a bad day etc.. I'm sure everyone would agree and tell you to let us know whats up, even if you have, do it again. Anyway, welcome to the board, hope ya' stay, take care.........Bob
Crystal, hey, my fellow GA peach. I just posted to you on another thread and then saw this! OMG! I am so sorry you feel that way, and I truly understand why you do. There has been a lot of crap happening around here lately, and several of our "old timers" have left or are taking a long break because of it.
I am very sorry that some of you have been ignored or felt left out. Please know that you are welcome to join in on any conversation at all. We have a chat on weekday mornings entitled GOOS MORNING, and you are officially invited to join it anytime you would like.
I have not been as active on the board myself recently for various reasons, but would love to help you further if there is anything you need. Thanks for reminding us to pay more attention to the true purpose of this board, recovery. Take care.
Love, Carol
Hello, I too am very sorry for not reaching out to you. I'm pretty new and have a fw who write and respond, but that's enough. Bob is right, by telling your story (and I'll bet you already) we'll know you better.
My name is Becky. I quit oxy 7 weeks ago and hydro today. Doing o.k. with it. Please tell me about yourself and any way I can help. Again, I'm very sorry for not reaching out to you. Please give me another try. I've been selfish and self-involved. Bad addict behavior. Please hon, give me another chance. Love Beck
My name is Becky. I quit oxy 7 weeks ago and hydro today. Doing o.k. with it. Please tell me about yourself and any way I can help. Again, I'm very sorry for not reaching out to you. Please give me another try. I've been selfish and self-involved. Bad addict behavior. Please hon, give me another chance. Love Beck
I just wanted to say a fast hello to beck & see how shes doing?Did you pass the nite well enough??????
Crystal
It took a long time for me to get notice around here. At first I did a lot of whinning, but got nowhere with that so I stop the whinning and just went with the flow; eventually I got responses and now I have some friends. Just be patient and things will come along.
Take it easy
Travis
It took a long time for me to get notice around here. At first I did a lot of whinning, but got nowhere with that so I stop the whinning and just went with the flow; eventually I got responses and now I have some friends. Just be patient and things will come along.
Take it easy
Travis
Hi MJ, Just got out of the shower, so I count that as a victory! I'm dressed. So far not too bad. Don't want to talk myself into anything. Tonight will be the challenge, to see if I can sleep. Thanks so much for asking.
May I add to Gargrl...(so sorry if I got it wrong) There are people who want to help. I've come so very far thanks so the kind souls here. You might not get a hundred hits, but promise you, you'll continue to make friends who can uphold your efforts to stop using. You know I responded to a post yesterday in a similar vein and kind of agreed with it. I was told to reach out, jump in...so I did. It's made these 30 or so hours much easier. We really want to help!
Thanks MJ! I appreciate your concern! Beck
May I add to Gargrl...(so sorry if I got it wrong) There are people who want to help. I've come so very far thanks so the kind souls here. You might not get a hundred hits, but promise you, you'll continue to make friends who can uphold your efforts to stop using. You know I responded to a post yesterday in a similar vein and kind of agreed with it. I was told to reach out, jump in...so I did. It's made these 30 or so hours much easier. We really want to help!
Thanks MJ! I appreciate your concern! Beck
Beck I hear you about sleep/Im lucky if I get 4 staight hours.Im up & down all nite.Ive been on sub since Jan & I dont think Ive gotten any real sound sleep since than.I cheat with cat naps during the day if I can get away with it.If you find yourself real early(or real late)Hop on here I am usually here by 6 am.Well Good Luck tonite ...mj
Crystal
You mentioned that you have made friends with 3 people. I'm sure you have been posted to by many more however its impossible to post and be posted to by every member of this board. I've been here for 3 months and there are many who have never posted to me. Like you I have made a few good friends and thats a nice little support group for me. I don't post to anyone unless I think I can help them.Take this board for whats its worth......A nice supplement for your real recovery which should be family, close friends, and face to face support like aa / na meetings.
Please stick around. The support is here.
Good luck in your recovery and if you need me let me know. If I'm around I will surely answer you.
Frank
You mentioned that you have made friends with 3 people. I'm sure you have been posted to by many more however its impossible to post and be posted to by every member of this board. I've been here for 3 months and there are many who have never posted to me. Like you I have made a few good friends and thats a nice little support group for me. I don't post to anyone unless I think I can help them.Take this board for whats its worth......A nice supplement for your real recovery which should be family, close friends, and face to face support like aa / na meetings.
Please stick around. The support is here.
Good luck in your recovery and if you need me let me know. If I'm around I will surely answer you.
Frank
I am new here as well..only since Easter.at first it was hard figuring out how to keep up with the messages..who knows who etc and I posted the same question you did! Someone replied..keep reading and keep posting..after awhile..you'll get it..and I did! If you find that one person or another can relate to you better (since we all have different personalities) then you can direct post that person. I kow that I have been given alot of support from people that started out strangers but are slowly becoming friends. I am only clean 6 days but I couldnt have done it withouth them or the boards..hang in there and write to me anytime! I am a newbie as well!
Go back and re this thread and your first one. u will c there are people reaching for u at all angles. Please try to stay with us. We are a great group and love to help each other.
I from this board have started tapering with my shrink, which I would have done if it was not for the support of this board.
God Bless, Tina
Drop me a note any time or even email me at jtrchead@bellsouth.net
Love ya to stay aboard.
Tina
I from this board have started tapering with my shrink, which I would have done if it was not for the support of this board.
God Bless, Tina
Drop me a note any time or even email me at jtrchead@bellsouth.net
Love ya to stay aboard.
Tina
I am sorry you feel this way Crystal, like everyone else here is. But like someone else said before, I only post if I think I can be of help.There are wonderful people here, and I couldn't have quit oxy's without them, and they gave me support, courage, and a kick in the butt when I needed it!! lol, I hope you stay, but if you choose to leave, that is your choice, and I say good luck to you, Kim
Wow i made a hot topic and didnt have to keep bumping it up.I post it earlier today and its still in the orange (hot topic).....Im glad to wrote this post and have gotten alot out of it.Sorry to the ones that thought i was being a winning baby.But,there was alot that explained the way it is in a good way to me.And i really wasnt intending on stay at this borad.But i think i'll stick around a little longer.Thank to you all .Love ya,crystal
Crystal, I felt the same way and wrote about it too, but as people said you just have to keep writing and being involved. This is such a huge group but very supportive and understanding, but if you don't feel comfortable you have to do what you want. I say, keep with it.
Donna
Donna
How are you doing Donna? Hope you're having a good day! Beck
