Hello,
I just found out that my heroin addicted husband got out of jail today. I have no idea how - someone had to come up with $10,000 surety bond (doesn't that come to $1000?) Anyway - what is he doing now? He has been in jail since April 24. He didn't contact me from jail - but there was no way he could have. They don't allow calls to cell phones - and that is all I have. He could have written, I guess, but he had no money to get paper, stamp, etc. Will he contact me? I am so worried!! Please advise!!
There is no decision to make - he is out of my life forever!
JR,
Then why all the questions of which you already know the answers to? If he is out of your life "forever" then why stay stuck in HIS pain? There is a decison to make.....YOU just are not willing to let go to make it.
JR,
Then why all the questions of which you already know the answers to? If he is out of your life "forever" then why stay stuck in HIS pain? There is a decison to make.....YOU just are not willing to let go to make it.
Oh ........you are right! I guess the fact that I am still married to him causes me this distress. I am a school teacher. My admin knows the situation. I may have to appear before the school board to "explain my situation". I am just worried about what further damage he can do to me!!! And - I do love him - I know that I will never be with him - but I cannot turn my feelings off that quickly!!
I know that I will never be with him - but I cannot turn my feelings off that quickly!!
JR,
If he infact is out of your life FOREVER....feelings or not you should be able to shake the constant questions and worries about him and his burdens. You talk, think, and worry more about him than yourself....you know you do matter in all of this in case the thought has not crossed your mind. When is your release date from the prison you put yourself into!?!
JR,
If he infact is out of your life FOREVER....feelings or not you should be able to shake the constant questions and worries about him and his burdens. You talk, think, and worry more about him than yourself....you know you do matter in all of this in case the thought has not crossed your mind. When is your release date from the prison you put yourself into!?!
Hey JR,
If that was me, and I got out of jail I'd be looking for dope.....the second I hit that street I'd be getting loot together somehow and getting a bag of smack.
Who knows how he got his bail up.......remember manipulation?
Could ne anything though so who knows? I am so sorry you are having to explain to your school board.......you should not have to pay for the sins of your husband........I understand, and empathize about feelings.....you can't help the way you FEEL, but right about now he's not worrying about you, and how you have to explain to supervisors.
Hang in there honey......hang tough......eventually anyway we pop up if we think we can get some loot or sympathy......I am sure you'll get a Broadway performance, and more.......stay strong.
If that was me, and I got out of jail I'd be looking for dope.....the second I hit that street I'd be getting loot together somehow and getting a bag of smack.
Who knows how he got his bail up.......remember manipulation?
Could ne anything though so who knows? I am so sorry you are having to explain to your school board.......you should not have to pay for the sins of your husband........I understand, and empathize about feelings.....you can't help the way you FEEL, but right about now he's not worrying about you, and how you have to explain to supervisors.
Hang in there honey......hang tough......eventually anyway we pop up if we think we can get some loot or sympathy......I am sure you'll get a Broadway performance, and more.......stay strong.
Thank you for your support - Brynn!! (not condemnation!) Thank you for realizing that my feelings are my feelings and that they are valid - no matter how convuluted they seem to be at the moment. I am sure he is getting high. I have alerted my immediate neighbors as to his physical description and told them to call police if they see him around my place when I am not here. Told them not to leave anything of value in their cars or outside. I want to protect them, as well as myself. Maybe I will be lucky, and I will only see him again at our divorce!!
Sorry you think you are being condemmed but to say in one breath that he is out of your life forever then in the next ask a bunch of questions you aleady know the answers to gives me the inpression that you have settled into the pain of his addiction. Your feelings are very valid......just a little clouded by his addicton(IMO)!
Holy smokes.......Darin you would never condemn anyone.....you of all people.
It's just we know......ya know the other side.....I don't think she meant it towards you as you were not validating...then again I am weird.
I adore my Darin......hang in there sweetie......I just remember plain old romances or even marriage, and how it just don't automatically go POOF....we all have that at one time or another......I'd wonder too where he was....the key is to worry about where you are, and you are doing that by taking charge, and securing your house, and the neighbors.
The worst part of this heroin addiction thing I think is that basically we all were at one time truly kind, compassionate people.....usually sensitive people...obviously we all were very loved.......appreciataed, and KABOOM....here ya got me.....a thieving, liar who steals out of piggy banks, and strolls the avenue......HELLO.....who the heck could just ditch someone so basically pure, and good........give it some time though and we turn everything to junk.......I am sorry sweetie....and Darin a fine evening to you my dear, dear friend........you always get me thinking...good things.
It's just we know......ya know the other side.....I don't think she meant it towards you as you were not validating...then again I am weird.
I adore my Darin......hang in there sweetie......I just remember plain old romances or even marriage, and how it just don't automatically go POOF....we all have that at one time or another......I'd wonder too where he was....the key is to worry about where you are, and you are doing that by taking charge, and securing your house, and the neighbors.
The worst part of this heroin addiction thing I think is that basically we all were at one time truly kind, compassionate people.....usually sensitive people...obviously we all were very loved.......appreciataed, and KABOOM....here ya got me.....a thieving, liar who steals out of piggy banks, and strolls the avenue......HELLO.....who the heck could just ditch someone so basically pure, and good........give it some time though and we turn everything to junk.......I am sorry sweetie....and Darin a fine evening to you my dear, dear friend........you always get me thinking...good things.
THANK YOU BRYNN!!
All is well in the land of FATMS thanks for asking!. I give advice from the heart of a recovering addict that is so blessed and honereed to be FATMS(free as the morning sun) that I try with my all to give those on the other side of the fence a view of just what they are up against.....the good, the bad, the REALITY of it all. You know full well how painful the F(eelings) word can be....it is so easy to take offense to the truth! You are right my dear......................... we are beauty and the beast all in one! All the best to you dear and have a most grand evening!
Darin
All is well in the land of FATMS thanks for asking!. I give advice from the heart of a recovering addict that is so blessed and honereed to be FATMS(free as the morning sun) that I try with my all to give those on the other side of the fence a view of just what they are up against.....the good, the bad, the REALITY of it all. You know full well how painful the F(eelings) word can be....it is so easy to take offense to the truth! You are right my dear......................... we are beauty and the beast all in one! All the best to you dear and have a most grand evening!
Darin
Hey Jack, this is what I do whenever I start missing my ex, it's a great way to train your mind to forget about someone you can't help but love; everytime you start thinking of them, bring up something in your mind that makes you completeley angry with them, and tell yourself that it's not worth your time worrying about him because he obviously does not care about you. I've found the more that I do this the more I only think of them negativley on spot, and end up not thinking of them at all. Another trick is to make believe you've got him in your palm and blow him away, or write his name on a peice of paper and throw it in the garbage. I was in my last relationship for a miserable 5-6 years, and that trick helped me get by the missing him period fairly well, he was a big doo doo head too. Hope your feeling better soon dear, too bad I can't smack him a good one for ya. : /
