Hello all,
My husband is an addict. Mainly heroin, now crack. He has ruined his family's company - bankrupted the company. He has served 4 years in prison for grand larceny (stealing for drugs). He has been in jail twice this year - one for illegal possession of a stolen firearm, one for possession of crack. His mother always gets him out. We are not together - and I will file for divorce in January. What will it take to get him out of this? He already lies, cheats, steals, and God only knows what else to get high. He has stolen from EVERYONE in his family. He even sold the rings my mother left me when she died. How far down does he have to go? Is there anything I can do to help him?
First of all jack Russell, if that is your new name it is one someone else had,
second there is nothing you can do. If so just being you would have been enough. My fiance ( I tell you that he is my fiance and he knows that but HEROIN has killed that idea.)
I once had a boyfriend that I live with. It was yesterday actually. Thank god he is not here tonight with that bulls***. That bulls*** brown s*** that he snorts in oru house. The s*** that my kitten could die from if she stepped on it. That brown s*** that I would kick over and smash and kick and smash again if I was not afraid to do it.
No, I don't think you could do anything. My boyfriened okay fiance is in detox tonight.I will be a fiance again if he actually got the whole concept of rehab after detox. He must mean well. I can't see why otherwise. But this is not okay. I have ZIPPO control. Who cares about controlling other people anyway. It is hard enough to control ourselves.
It is that you will get bored of trying to control the life of your loved one. You can follow them, check up them, whatever, it will not ever work out to anything anyway.
What will be will be. So sad. I am so dead inside from actually trying to control it.
second there is nothing you can do. If so just being you would have been enough. My fiance ( I tell you that he is my fiance and he knows that but HEROIN has killed that idea.)
I once had a boyfriend that I live with. It was yesterday actually. Thank god he is not here tonight with that bulls***. That bulls*** brown s*** that he snorts in oru house. The s*** that my kitten could die from if she stepped on it. That brown s*** that I would kick over and smash and kick and smash again if I was not afraid to do it.
No, I don't think you could do anything. My boyfriened okay fiance is in detox tonight.I will be a fiance again if he actually got the whole concept of rehab after detox. He must mean well. I can't see why otherwise. But this is not okay. I have ZIPPO control. Who cares about controlling other people anyway. It is hard enough to control ourselves.
It is that you will get bored of trying to control the life of your loved one. You can follow them, check up them, whatever, it will not ever work out to anything anyway.
What will be will be. So sad. I am so dead inside from actually trying to control it.
Jeniferlee,
Why are you still with him?
Why are you still with him?
The bottom, that point where the pain of using is more then the pain of just living in life, sick and tired of being sick and tired, varies. Some have very high bottoms, some have to lose everything and eveyone in thier life and it still may not be enough for them to see what they are doing to themselves......One thing is for certain when he is done, he will be done, no sooner, no later....
His mother bailing him out is stopping in a way him from hitting that bottom. He has to be able to face and feel the consequences of his actions. It is important....
Can you help him, well like how? If you mean show him the way, fix him, save him, then NO.....He is the one who needs in the end to care enough to save himself. It is all him...... To support and love, well I think that is a good thing, but not at our expense, meaning you take care of YOU. Worry for you, and live each day the best you can.
I know this is hard, and all to sad...
Pray lots, and take good care of you,
Love,
Tina
Jen you have mail, and a phone message....Thinking of you!
His mother bailing him out is stopping in a way him from hitting that bottom. He has to be able to face and feel the consequences of his actions. It is important....
Can you help him, well like how? If you mean show him the way, fix him, save him, then NO.....He is the one who needs in the end to care enough to save himself. It is all him...... To support and love, well I think that is a good thing, but not at our expense, meaning you take care of YOU. Worry for you, and live each day the best you can.
I know this is hard, and all to sad...
Pray lots, and take good care of you,
Love,
Tina
Jen you have mail, and a phone message....Thinking of you!
First of all God Bless! Unfortunately there's not much any one can do at this point for him. What his rock bottom might be might not be someone eles. I am a recovering addict and I know I will Always be exactly that. The only way out is yourself period. Not my family, not my husband, not even expensive rehabs could do it for me. I had to or die.I struggle with my addictions every day at to some extent always will. But it's hard letting go of the only friend I've known for 12 years.
I don't know if this helped but I felt compelled to put my 2 cents in since my husband and I know all too well about the destruction that addiction can bring to a marriage and the one not useing. shannaSOUTHERNLANDAU@AOL.COM
I don't know if this helped but I felt compelled to put my 2 cents in since my husband and I know all too well about the destruction that addiction can bring to a marriage and the one not useing. shannaSOUTHERNLANDAU@AOL.COM
