What Is The Answer?

Methamphetamines
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I have a daughter who is 19 1/2. She just got out of rehab in early may and I think she is using meth again. She is hanging with her old "meth" friends and isnt coming home etc. She didnt go to work today and lost her job over it. I do daycare in my home and i cant have her here if she is using. When she got out of rehab it was one of the rules that she couldnt use and stay with me. I dont know what to do. I dont know where to turn. I dont know what to ask even. I feel so helpless and stupid. She is so beautiful and wonderful and I just dont know how to go through this again. Do i make her leave and do this on her own? Do I try to get her into rehab again, if i can afford it, thats a big if? Do i wait till she hits bottom, what is bottom? I havent seen her for 4 days, very unusual, she usually is home daily and calls when she isnt. I'm so worried. I think maybe i should call the police and see if they can find her, we live in a very small town, then i think no, shes using and that is what this is, but, what if something has happened to her? I just dont know what to do. Sorry for running on, i feel so alone in this.............
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Please do your daughter a big favour......... CALL THE POLICE.........if you don't get her attention, and i mean really get her attention then you will be burying her real soon........ My son (21) is a recovering meth addict and has 2 years of clean time.. Honey, i sent his butt to jail so many times and the last time I let him stay there for 6 months.... then, when he got out, i sent him to rehab for 4 months.....He thanks me everyday for what I did and he tells me that i saved his life.......If you need info on a rehab facility please let me know and I will give you what i can..Been there done that..........

pam
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She was doing so well and in the last two weeks its all gone....... I dont know how its happened so fast. I will call the police, I dont know what they will do if they find her, they would have to catch them doing something to arrest her. We live in the panhandle of northern idaho and there is nothing here as far as rehabs go. The only one here is faith based, thats fine but.........they didnt really do anything but pray about it and she was convinced when she came out she would never have a problem with meth again because "God cured her". I worried that put her at risk...........When your kids are little you try to save them from the bad people but when they are grown you cant save them from themselves. Thanks, Olliesmom
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Pam, I would like to know if you have any thoughts on Meth Rehab programs in Minnesota. Her dad was successful before she was even one yr old at Fountain Centers in Minneosta but that was for Alcohol and coke. I hear that Meth is a specialized program that normally requires a 3-4 month stay.

Jen

PS-- In response to Ollies mom--- we have called the cops, her employer is aware, employer does not want to lose her as an employee due to short staffing so they do not do random's on her even though the sheriff has asked them to. The sheriff and police know all about her and the rat nest she lives in with and the traffice in and out of there, but she remains out there getting away with everything right now. We live in a town about 3000 people.

I have no answers.
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I still havent seen her but someone did last night and told her to call me. She said to tell me she is moving out. Like i said at first, i do daycare in my home and she cant stay. I bagged all her stuff up, through tears last night, will move them to the me outside storage today. I dont know what else to do. I know the police cant do anything unless they see her doing drugs etc. They cant just demand a drug test and even if its positive i dont know what they can do. I cant image going this route again. Been there with the son too and feel like i dont have the strength this time. I do know i wont enable at all, there will be no couple bucks here and there for gas, no groceries, no help with paying the bills etc. This time i refuse to be drug into that part of it. It just kills me inside and there is nothing anyone can do...........I have two kids and they have both gone down this road, i understand no more about it than i did when it started with my son. I'm divorced and things started to really fall apart when that happened, the son was 16 the daughter 13..........I just dont know..........just know that i'm sure tired.....
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Hi, Ollie's mom, Yeah, I know that "sure tired" feeling. I think that's when we start to give in and accept and get a little better ourselves...though it doesn't take away the ache in our hearts. The night I cleaned out my daughter's room was the saddest because I knew I'd reached a breaking point and what if I closed up my heart completely. It's five months later, she is gone, and my heart is still open to her...just void the daily chaos. Instead of begging her and fighting with her and yelling, I come here and vent, get advice...and for her, I drop off vitamins, reading info from here, books to enlighten her (chicken soup for the recovering soul she really liked), and she actually reads it..nothing judgemental just informative or hopeful. Good luck. You're not alone this time.
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I guess we too have to give in an accept it in order for us to move on and forward.

Hi, my name is Jennifer, I am the mother of a beatutiful daughter and meth addict. I am moving forward for today( or at least for this moment in time), I am heading to find a bright spot . ( I think I'll order in pizza for lunch! and buy some chocolate!)
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unfortunately the sad truth is...that no matter what you say or do...she will not stop using until she wants to...meth is a terrible thing to try to quit...i did it for 3 months last year and went to cocaine, cause the meth was too expensive...now i've got 7 weeks clean from cocaine, but there's not a day that i don't think about it...
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she did coke , too, I guess she prefers meth,. How much is this meth a hit or a high or what ever it is called. Her dad was a coke addict before she was born.
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Olliesmom, my son went to a faith based rehab in Alabama... Yes, they went to church twice a day and worked in a mission center........ Trust me, he learned so much... He went to group and had homework to do and he also had a counselor that worked with him daily.... It was tough and I mean very tough... He had to take a drug test every Monday and if he failed it then he got kicked out of the program.... He also had to take a drug test before entering the program and if he was not clean then they would not accept him into the program.... Tough love is a hard thing but getting arrested would be the best thing that could happen to your daughter... Please try the faith based program, they really work...... My son is living proof... Getting arrested may be the only thing that saves your daughters life.......she will be forced into rehab then... and that sure beats the graveyard and that is where she is headed if someone doesn't intervene.......

love,
pam
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meth can cost up to $120 a gram as opposed to coke at $40 gram...that's why i am a cocaine addict...

if you know someone who is making it you probably buy it much cheaper...and they love to "give" you some...ha...just get's you more hooked so you can spend more money...
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For all interested............ Please contact the Christian Mission Center in Enterprise, Alabama......... They will even send you a bus ticket for the addicts trip there and back home........ I don't have their phone number, but directory assistance does.. There is a waiting list but please get put on it..... They will help in anyway they can........Also, they do not charge you one penny for the 4 month program and participants earn 5 bucks a week for working in the mission center. No, it is not a picnic......... Oh yes, they have seperate houses for the males and females and they feed them 3 well balanced meals a day.... This is a tough program........ Please calll directory assitance and ask about the program... Gene Warren, i think, is the director and he was my sons counselor too... there is also a man by the name of John there and he can help you with all of the information too.....People from all over the United States go here for this rehab.. It is one of the best in the nation for meth adddicts...

Free,,,,, No Charge...........


love,
pam
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Is a gram a normal amount to use at a time or do you use a gram several times a night if you are looking to get high?
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Ollies mom,,,,,,,,, please read my thread on the Christian Mission Center.. I have posted all of the info needed to contact them...... This is a great program and it should help your daughter to get clean...

love,
pam
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Olliesmom- my heart goes out to you and i will be praying for you and your daughter. The only thing you can do at this point is give your troubles to God.

Love and God Bless,
Briana :)
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when i was using meth a gram would last a few days...i can go through a gram of coke in an hour...coke doesn't stay with you like meth does...
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That is a fact ladies,,,,,,,, What janet said................ Meth hangs around a long time........ Coke flies out of the window like a bat out of hell........

love
pam
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i could shoot up meth and not have to use anymore for up to 8 hours...coke...it's one after the other...chasing that first ultimate high...and never getting it...no matter how much you did
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Dearest Ollie,
I totally understand how you feel, but there seems to be no answers for what we need. They say rehab, prayers, and tough love. I have a beautiful daughter as well who is 25 and has so much to offer to this world. She's such a fun person with a vivacious, bubbly, great sense of humor and not to mention good looking. She says she's ok, but I see her and my heart says somethings wrong again, I can feel in my gut that she's reverted back to that monster drug. It just won't leave, it's like a weed growing in your body and no matter how you try to exterminate it, it comes back and makes your world so ugly. Do I just walk away and say "this is the choice she is making" there are so many resources out there for her to look into but she she says "I have no problem" I wish sometimes we had no eyes or feelings cause then I could believe her. I feel lost and at times callous toward her being so weak. She may be the one child I have that has taken after her father who is also a drug user and hasn't stepped out of that world even though he is a 54 yr old man. Is this hereitary?
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my daughter came home yesterday, slept until five today, i took her out for a burger and when we got home she wanted money, i told her no, i know what she will use it for.........anyway, she punched the window out of the kitchen door, threatened to kill herself, got a knife etc. Screamed like an insane person, told me i tricked her into rehab when she went etc. She was hitting me in the chest and when she said she would kill herself i called the police. They came, took her to where she is staying, nothing else. Didnt put her on a 24 hour suicide watch, she says she isnt using but will tonight because of me and when she kills herself it will be because of me....... i just dont know what to do or say anymore.....I'm just so tired inside.......