Hello everybody,
Second day of being on this post and having a very hard time today because in the last 17 days I haved a total of 9 perc's and I usual take 8 to 9 10/650 mg a day. But I'd like to know what people's opinion is regarding a therapist that no showed on me when I really needed someone to talk to....
Last Tuesday the 16th I went to my therapist and had a major break down: ( I was at the end of everything, She called my work and told them she was very concerned about me and she felt it best if I didn't go to work and she wanted to put in a hospital because of my mental state. But I told her I would just go straight home and that I'd be alright. She calls me later in that day and left a message (please call nobodys heard from you) So I called her and she said call me wed. to make sure you're all right and set up a appt. with me for this week.. I was like ok yes I really need to see her I have a lot to talk about so my appt. was for friday at five oclock at 5:15 I left her a message did I get the time wrong? Are you running late? please call me. I gave her until 5:30 never showed up never called me nothing. That was the point when I felt totally alone and cried all the way home and course her office was 20 miles for were I live. Since I left her a message she has not called me. So if she's not dead or hurt so bad GOD FORBID!!!! How should I handle this? I had been seeing her since april 06 at this point I don't even want to talk to her. thanks in adavanced Nik
Nik,
I'm very sorry your therapist didn't show up. You must feel abandoned right when you need her the most. You've been seeing her for a while now. I assume you trust her. Has she blown off appointments in the past? Has she failed to returns calls before in a timely manner?
There's no way of knowing until you talk to her what actually happened. It's hard for me to believe, though, that a good therapist, knowing that you were bad enough off in her opinion to need hospitalization would disappear like that without arranging for someone to cover her caseload. My therapist, for example, shares an office with another psychiatrist who fills in for him in case something unexpected comes up.
Don't make any decisions about this until you see her again, but do tell her how you think this happening may have affected your therapeutic relationship. And figure out a plan for what to do if this comes up again. I have my therapist's home number, though I've never had occasion to use it. And his email address.
If she brings up hospitalization again, you might give it some consideration. She's the expert. That's why you pay her the big bucks. (Not that I do everything Dr. M tells me to. LOL, not by a long shot.)
One thing, I'm confused about, and don't feel you need to address this. You said that you had quit work on the 4th because you were getting your drugs from there, but your therapist called your work to tell them you shouldn't come in on the 16th? I ask only because, if you're still working and still able to get the pills, it'll be that much harder to quit. But perhaps I misread your posts. I'm a little frazzled here myself.
Have you given your pills at home over to someone else to hold?
Cheers,
Gina
I'm very sorry your therapist didn't show up. You must feel abandoned right when you need her the most. You've been seeing her for a while now. I assume you trust her. Has she blown off appointments in the past? Has she failed to returns calls before in a timely manner?
There's no way of knowing until you talk to her what actually happened. It's hard for me to believe, though, that a good therapist, knowing that you were bad enough off in her opinion to need hospitalization would disappear like that without arranging for someone to cover her caseload. My therapist, for example, shares an office with another psychiatrist who fills in for him in case something unexpected comes up.
Don't make any decisions about this until you see her again, but do tell her how you think this happening may have affected your therapeutic relationship. And figure out a plan for what to do if this comes up again. I have my therapist's home number, though I've never had occasion to use it. And his email address.
If she brings up hospitalization again, you might give it some consideration. She's the expert. That's why you pay her the big bucks. (Not that I do everything Dr. M tells me to. LOL, not by a long shot.)
One thing, I'm confused about, and don't feel you need to address this. You said that you had quit work on the 4th because you were getting your drugs from there, but your therapist called your work to tell them you shouldn't come in on the 16th? I ask only because, if you're still working and still able to get the pills, it'll be that much harder to quit. But perhaps I misread your posts. I'm a little frazzled here myself.
Have you given your pills at home over to someone else to hold?
Cheers,
Gina
The job I worked at we only work four days so the 4th was my last working day there because we did not have to work fri,sat,sun, mon, so tues morning I went in to see my therapist and over that four day weekend is when I decided enough I couldn't do it anymore... Most dr. offices only have four day work weeks thats way it was good for me to work there I put in 38 hrs in four days and had 3 or 4 days off depending on how we schuduled, Sorry it is confusing
nikki
nikki
oops see I'm all messed up it should of been the llth was my last day not the fourth so then tues morning was my appt and thats when I broke down and she called my work to tell them I couldn't came in still in a drug fog on everything I can't even remember dates...so it was the 11 th that I stopped except for the nine perc's my friend gave me. Its so hard when you have to think.Hahahah
See and I thought I was doing so good because I thought it had been since the 4th now I realize it's only been 10days today except for the nine perc's . But I was really upset that she no showed she has been late before but she always called me.
See and I thought I was doing so good because I thought it had been since the 4th now I realize it's only been 10days today except for the nine perc's . But I was really upset that she no showed she has been late before but she always called me.
Don't forget that therapists are people too and have the same problems we do. ...or different ones. Give the therapist the benefit of the doubt and call her again. Hopefully time will have handled her problems and she/he'll have time for yours. If you really feel a connection with this therapisit, I'd certainly forgive her/him one time at least.
MY problem is that I have my appt. with my pain dr. on monday and I needed her help with the direction I need to take with my pain dr. now I decided it would be best if I ask my pain dr where to go and who to see so they can work together to help me get off the meds.
It scares me to get off the meds and feel the pain that I had felt before I finally got the pain in control....
But then I ruined it by abusing my break through pain meds I was doing so good but just one thing after another I let emotion get in the way of reason I just wanted to feel numb....Not face what was going on in my life its so much easier to be numb.
It scares me to get off the meds and feel the pain that I had felt before I finally got the pain in control....
But then I ruined it by abusing my break through pain meds I was doing so good but just one thing after another I let emotion get in the way of reason I just wanted to feel numb....Not face what was going on in my life its so much easier to be numb.
What kind of person would welcome pain? I understand you completely. The key is trying to find the amount you need to control the pain and staying there...not exceeding the minimum dosage you need. That's very difficult for someone addicted. Others on this site have suggested that the way to do so is to get someone you trust to hold the meds and only let you have what is prescribed and that does seem to be a good way of dealing. At the same time, try to find an alternative method of control with relaxation therapies like meditation, massage, reiki,postural changes, a pain clinic or acupuncture. Relaxation makes your perception of pain decrease and increases blood flow to the injured area. It's a kind of reward in itself in that the minutes you spend in doing it are less painful. Best of luck and ((((hugs))))).
Thanks petsmom
I'm going to talk to my pain Dr. today and find out the best way to get off the fentanyl patch. The problems are that as long as I'm on the fentanyl patch I really have no idea what kind of pain I have... The fentanyl patch is a slow release patch that I use for the pain and I use one 25mg patch every three days, the perc's I use for break though pain and of course I'm only suppose to take up to four a day of 10/650 perc's and instead I'm taking 8 or 9 a day...
I'm going to talk to my pain Dr. today and find out the best way to get off the fentanyl patch. The problems are that as long as I'm on the fentanyl patch I really have no idea what kind of pain I have... The fentanyl patch is a slow release patch that I use for the pain and I use one 25mg patch every three days, the perc's I use for break though pain and of course I'm only suppose to take up to four a day of 10/650 perc's and instead I'm taking 8 or 9 a day...
