Hi everyone
I found out in Feb my bf is on this. I am totally shattered cos he used to be so anti drugs. When I found out I rammed rules down his throat cos i just wanted him to stop. How naive. I'm now thinkin of takin hi to meetings and taking a regular drug test. How long does it stay in ur system? It has totally broken the trust in our relationship and i'm always questionin everything he says to me. I wish it could just go away but i know I'm wishin hard on a star. Do u hav any advice as to how i shud handle this. I love him so much but this drug is killin our relationship.
This is a hard spot for u I know. But the harder u push for him to stop the more he will dive into it. This is just from my experience only. Until he is totally ready to stop or has hit rock bottom he will not. I mean bottom, no family, no home, no job, nothing. Just short of sleeping under a bridge. And then at that some still don't stop. U can just love him and be there for him. Be strong and learn as much about this drug as you can. Everyone is different w/meth. But everyones story is the same. Try not to enable him through this. My ex husband was an heroin addict and I thought I was helping him by making him well everyday, but what I was actually doing was enabling him to continue with his addiction. Be strong and don't give up!!! It will be a long hard venture for you.
Thanks Tamara
I was thinking of 'scaring' him by breaking up, for him to realise that he's relationship is at risk but I think that would push him even further. I honestly don't know what to do. How can i support him without enabling him to continue using this drug?
I was thinking of 'scaring' him by breaking up, for him to realise that he's relationship is at risk but I think that would push him even further. I honestly don't know what to do. How can i support him without enabling him to continue using this drug?
All you can do is look out for #1 ......yourself . Either he wants a relationship with you .....or he wants drugs...... Dont let "maybe he will get worse" effect your thinking .....the next thing you know you will become the "enabler"
Check out "parents and partners of addicts" topic , you will find a lot of similar stories there
Not that they are"stories" they are all real life situations ...causing similar pain and misery
VONNY, I`ve been married for 11 years to the same man. I found out 9 months ago that he`s an additied. Boy, was I blind, but I tried to threatin him about leaving, getting a divorce, and it just got worse.The more I said, the worse it got, the more he stayed away from home, the more fights he`d start. In Jan, on New Years Day I tried to commit suicide, thank god that didn`t work, and I`m back on track. But about a month ago, when he wasn`t using for a few minutes, I nicely told him that I was about at the end of my rope with his addition, and I wasn`t sure if I could take it, another day, week, month or year.I said if I left him it was because I love him, and when you love someone as much as I love you, in order to let him be happy with the type of lifestyle he chooses I`d have to leave. I also said that I would not turn back unless he was clean and until then I didn`t want to hear about it or if he was high not to come home. A week ago he ask me if I would order some drug tests for him to take, and if I`d stay. I replied that I would order them but staging clean was the answer. The tests are on the way, I`M NOT SURE IF HE WILL STAY CLEAN OR NOT, BUT I DO NO THAT WE CAN NOT HELP AN ADDIT, UNTIL HE HELPS HIMSELF, FOR HIMSELF AND NOT FOR SOMEONE ELSE. GOOD LUCK
