I recently figured out my brothers now ex-girlfriend has been using heroin. I have a few addicts in my family, and had recognized some of the signs awhile ago. I asked her if she was using and if she needed help. She denied it, and I let it go. I didn't know her that well, and didn't know if it was my place to get involved. Long story short, her and my brother recently broke up due to her use of heroin and I feel like we should tell her family, but we don't really know them that well. I don't really know how to go about telling people I hardly know that their daughter is using, but I'm 99% sure they have no idea, and I'm worried about her. So am I doing the right thing by telling them? And any tips on going about it?
Don't. Telling her family won't fix her...help her...help you or anyone else...she wants out...she'll find it...all you will do is fan smoke into fire....not your business. ..it's hers...we stop when were ready...and nothing you or anyone else does....will change that
i agree with Con, I wouldn't say anything to her family, them knowing (if they dont know already) wont change a thing, she wont stop until she is ready and its up to her to decide if she wants/needs her family to know/help or not. I never told my family, they dont know about heroin only what they know its about me smoking weed but heroin no, it would only cause hurt and would cause unnecessary problems ...
What does your brother think about the situation?
Did he not know she was using?
Does her family know why the relationship fell apart?
If you find yourself in a snake den don't try to reform the snakes - get the #ell out !!
Good luck.
Bob R.
Did he not know she was using?
Does her family know why the relationship fell apart?
If you find yourself in a snake den don't try to reform the snakes - get the #ell out !!
Good luck.
Bob R.
Are you sure your brother isn't doing drugs too? Birds of a feather flock together. I'd keep an eye on him. But as for his ex, I wouldn't get involved as you'll just open up a whole big can of worms. You seem a nice person but getting involved here isn't worth it. Good luck!
My son who is 18 has been struggling with fentanyl & cocaine for about a year. He lost a friend to cocaine that was laced with Fentanyl and has a lot of guilt because they were using together. He is right now clean of Fentanyl and I'd of cocaine because we test him at home and watch his bank account. He just started therapy and really likes his therapist. I guess why I'm posting is because I'm not sure what to do anymore or if I'm doing the right thing?! I'm not a tough love mom and not sure at this point it's what's necessary...he has a job, he doesn't steal, he lies yes....he seems to be making good choices. Can I be too compassionate?? It was his idea to start therapy for depression and he seems to be doing the work that he's asked to do. I feel very alone in my struggle and joined this site cause I'm tired of talking with friends & family who don't understand.
Hi Mama, Sorry your going through this with your son. It's a lot of worry I know. But you've found people to talk to here and who understand your worries as we've got the same ones too! You just need people to see what you wrote better in its own topic. Best thing to do is copy what you wrote on here and go to the top of the page where it says "Post New Topic" click on it then paste your post into there. Your post will get seen better and people will be able to help you better too. Leaving it here won't get seen as much. Hope this helps!! Good luck! Mary.
