while you were in the shower.
what would do or feel?
i am listening.........
thumper
YOU FOUND YOUR HUSBAND LOOKING THROUGH YOUR PURSE?
while you were in the shower.
what would do or feel?
i am listening.........
thumper
while you were in the shower.
what would do or feel?
i am listening.........
thumper
I would not be mad but I would ask him why??? I assume he would be looking for something ie my keys or change. I really think it would be based on the past and honesty.
Roxy
Roxy
My husband will usually hand my purse to me if he is wanting something out of it...like the checkbook. I'm not sure if he has ever looked in there...he would probably complain that he couldn't find anything in there if he did..lol
I would not care. Nor would I ask him why.
It depends on the situation i think thumper.
I'll walk in the room and see him looking in my purse and i'll say "What the hell are you looking for?" and it'll be something like my ipod...
I don't care as long as he doesn't take something out that i will need later ....
If it's because he is looking for something to see if i have been talking to someone ?? I'd be pretty irritated, but he can look all he wants.
what happened?
love
stac
I'll walk in the room and see him looking in my purse and i'll say "What the hell are you looking for?" and it'll be something like my ipod...
I don't care as long as he doesn't take something out that i will need later ....
If it's because he is looking for something to see if i have been talking to someone ?? I'd be pretty irritated, but he can look all he wants.
what happened?
love
stac
Goodness Ive been through this with Xes.not only that but I use to keep journals.not anymore.I have a book for Amanda I write in from time to time but as far as journals...NO WAY.
with Mikey I always say if hes looking for something its in my purse.He doesnt just go in he does ask & I have nothing to hide.
BUT if I found him doing that ,or going through my mail...Yup snooper.
Maybe thats why he doesnt know my password online...LO<L
with Mikey I always say if hes looking for something its in my purse.He doesnt just go in he does ask & I have nothing to hide.
BUT if I found him doing that ,or going through my mail...Yup snooper.
Maybe thats why he doesnt know my password online...LO<L
Going through your mail is wrong MJ?>??? lol..
This is weird to me, cause as long as my husband isn't throwing my mail away, we both open each other's mail. that's just how it is.
we also can log in online to view each other's bank accounts. we don't have a joint account YET, but we know each other's password and acct. number and we keep tabs on our spendings that way.
Hey MJ.
This is weird to me, cause as long as my husband isn't throwing my mail away, we both open each other's mail. that's just how it is.
we also can log in online to view each other's bank accounts. we don't have a joint account YET, but we know each other's password and acct. number and we keep tabs on our spendings that way.
Hey MJ.
did that happen to you???
my husbands wallet is off limits to me so i feel if he is in my purse i should get the same respect. he only gets in my purse to get the check book but i get mad at him because i cant do the same with his wallet.
when i was in love with him and he would always go the bar and take off his wedding ring that he says i force him to wear, i would feel insecure and check his wallet, i found phone numbers of women. man that hurt like hell back then.and the sad part is he doesnt have a picture of me in his wallet either but has one of his ex wife. man that use to hurt too. i would also check his truck when he came home from the bar and was passed out drunk. should of never looked because of what i found: a change of clothing and all his toiletries in his shave bag, a lipstick cigarette back when they had ash trays in cars.breath sprays and tic tacs, receipts from restaurants that he ate at and the worse was 6 blue tablets of viagra in the glove box.
but if he were to snoop in my purse, he would find nothing to incriminate me because i have been faithfull for 27 yrs
i have numbed myself to allow me to feel anymore pain as far as he is concerned. speaking of all this i am gonna start a new thread with some divorce
questions jewels
my husbands wallet is off limits to me so i feel if he is in my purse i should get the same respect. he only gets in my purse to get the check book but i get mad at him because i cant do the same with his wallet.
when i was in love with him and he would always go the bar and take off his wedding ring that he says i force him to wear, i would feel insecure and check his wallet, i found phone numbers of women. man that hurt like hell back then.and the sad part is he doesnt have a picture of me in his wallet either but has one of his ex wife. man that use to hurt too. i would also check his truck when he came home from the bar and was passed out drunk. should of never looked because of what i found: a change of clothing and all his toiletries in his shave bag, a lipstick cigarette back when they had ash trays in cars.breath sprays and tic tacs, receipts from restaurants that he ate at and the worse was 6 blue tablets of viagra in the glove box.
but if he were to snoop in my purse, he would find nothing to incriminate me because i have been faithfull for 27 yrs
i have numbed myself to allow me to feel anymore pain as far as he is concerned. speaking of all this i am gonna start a new thread with some divorce
questions jewels
Stace I ment my email stuff LOL My reg mail I feel as you do & we've done that alot.But to me this computer & my emails are my private zone.Its NOT that Im hiding anything but its my personal space so thats what I ment
Oh by the way happy Valentines to you & Kaylin huny!!!
Oh by the way happy Valentines to you & Kaylin huny!!!
I voted that I feel he would be snooping...because he would be. If my husband wants to know something or needs something, he would ask. And he would come into the shower to do it.
Being married for 22 years has given us that.
Being married for 22 years has given us that.
My husband is not a snooper at all. On the rare occassion he is in my purse, he is looking for something he legitmately needs. My husband is so predictable. When he is searching for something, all the cabinet doors and drawers are open. I believe he is biologically incapable of closing them...LOL. He always has this "lost" or "annoyed" look and my first question is "What are you looking for?" Then, he is always relieved when I retrieve the item for him.
I answered as if he was snooping, because that seems to be what you really want to know. If I were to walk out of the shower to see him just looking around, with no legitmate purpose, I would be irritated and confront him. The purse is not for browsing. If he needs something, fine. Otherwise, stay out.
What happened, Thumper?
I answered as if he was snooping, because that seems to be what you really want to know. If I were to walk out of the shower to see him just looking around, with no legitmate purpose, I would be irritated and confront him. The purse is not for browsing. If he needs something, fine. Otherwise, stay out.
What happened, Thumper?
LMAO! Atlas, it is the male hormone that prevents them from closing ANYTHING! My son is taking after his dad in that regard......all doors, drawers, closet, cabinets, you know it!
My husband calls my purse the pit. I wouldn't really care if he went in it,but he won't unless I am right there watching, and he's usually only looking for keys or the checkbook. Not that I would mind, he just doesn't do it.
Jewels,,,,,,that's a tough one. If I had ever caught my hubby doing that, we wouldn't have lasted this long.......29 years in June. He knows he can get what he wants at home, and if I ever caught him out cheating, it would be the last time he cheated on anybody.
I hope you can find the answers you need.
Edited to say....I answered snooping, based on what I said above, if her went through it, he would be doing nothing else.
My husband calls my purse the pit. I wouldn't really care if he went in it,but he won't unless I am right there watching, and he's usually only looking for keys or the checkbook. Not that I would mind, he just doesn't do it.
Jewels,,,,,,that's a tough one. If I had ever caught my hubby doing that, we wouldn't have lasted this long.......29 years in June. He knows he can get what he wants at home, and if I ever caught him out cheating, it would be the last time he cheated on anybody.
I hope you can find the answers you need.
Edited to say....I answered snooping, based on what I said above, if her went through it, he would be doing nothing else.
Thumper,
Did you ask your husband what he was doing in your purse?
Trust me my BF doesn't want to get into my purse. I have everything but the kitchen sink in there. LOL If I caught him getting in it, I wouldn't think twice about it. He isn't nosey and could probably careless what I have in there.
Now if I see my soon to be 16 year old daughter getting in it, that is different. LOL My daughter is always taking make-up. tweezer's you name it out of my purse and never remembering to put them back. I guess that happens when your raising a teenage girl!!!!!
Rae
Did you ask your husband what he was doing in your purse?
Trust me my BF doesn't want to get into my purse. I have everything but the kitchen sink in there. LOL If I caught him getting in it, I wouldn't think twice about it. He isn't nosey and could probably careless what I have in there.
Now if I see my soon to be 16 year old daughter getting in it, that is different. LOL My daughter is always taking make-up. tweezer's you name it out of my purse and never remembering to put them back. I guess that happens when your raising a teenage girl!!!!!
Rae
I guess im the strange one,i would be angry and confront him.
We've been married 25 years so...like Lisa,if he wants somethg from my purse,he would ask,even if he had to follow me all around the house to find me to ask.
So...if he were doing it without asking,and i was in the shower,he would be for something that he didnt want me to know he was looking for,wht that something might be...god only knows but,i would be angry and feel he was violating my privacy.I do not go inot his wallet without asking so i feel i deserve the same consideration.~KIM
We've been married 25 years so...like Lisa,if he wants somethg from my purse,he would ask,even if he had to follow me all around the house to find me to ask.
So...if he were doing it without asking,and i was in the shower,he would be for something that he didnt want me to know he was looking for,wht that something might be...god only knows but,i would be angry and feel he was violating my privacy.I do not go inot his wallet without asking so i feel i deserve the same consideration.~KIM
I'd be mad if my husband did..hehe
No really..it wouldnt cross my mind to snoop and likewise, my significant other can go through my wallet. I couldn't care less. Car, pocketrs, computer..so what..If you have to rummage through a purse to find something wrong, either something is wrong you or the woman is extremely stupid to leave some kind of evidence in there...
No really..it wouldnt cross my mind to snoop and likewise, my significant other can go through my wallet. I couldn't care less. Car, pocketrs, computer..so what..If you have to rummage through a purse to find something wrong, either something is wrong you or the woman is extremely stupid to leave some kind of evidence in there...
I have no problem what so ever with my husband going in my purse if I am not around. I guess I just know he has to be in desperate need to find my keys or the checkbook to go in there. I carry around a suitcase and he always says he is afraid something is gonna bite him if he goes in there. As far as me going in his wallet he has no problem with that but I have no need to since he never has any money in there.(LOL). Shantel
I would think he was looking for a clue because it's Valentine's Day. LMAO
Seriously, though, what if he's checking out what your favorite lipstick is, or receipts from places you like to shop....???
Seriously, though, what if he's checking out what your favorite lipstick is, or receipts from places you like to shop....???
I have nothing to hide so it wouldn't bother me. That said, my husband has always respected the privacy of my purse. If he wants something out of it he asks me to get it.
even if I say "you can get $20 out of my purse" he never will. He always brings the purse to me so I can get it out.
I don't go in his wallet either - never felt the need to.
even if I say "you can get $20 out of my purse" he never will. He always brings the purse to me so I can get it out.
I don't go in his wallet either - never felt the need to.
Idgie,same here,if he has ever wanted something from my pocketbook,or ive said go and take it,he usually brings it to me.Like everyone else i have a huge purse full of many many things,it would take him forever to find what he was looking for.He cant find his own things let alone mine,so...he would rather i rummage through.~KIM
this is very shocking for me because my husband always brings me my purse..
and has me get whatever......
he has done that a million times....
i get out of the shower AND there he is looking in my purse, looks like hes having fun...
i stand there for a minute and then i say what the hell are you looking for in my purse............why are you snooping through my purse.......
"advil"....he says.......
the first thought of mine was...............LIE
if my husband has even a headache he will always come to me and tell me and then i will get the advil and water for him.......
i hate it when anyone goes in my purse with out asking me......
so i tell him.........i want to look through his wallet..........right now
i share EVERYTHING.........
i am very attached to my purse...if i get like a new coach purse or a cool purse, i will sleep with it for 3 days because i am so excited to have a new purse.
i have done this every since i was a little girl.......
after the 3 days i am over it.
i really dont mind my husband going in my purse.....
thats not it.
its the fact that he did in in "secret"
i truely believe that my husband thinks i have met some man on the internet...
he has even asked me that......
if you were to really know me............that would be real funny, cause i am a big NERD and home body........
and he thinks i am on the internet to much.........
see i have never been on the internet until i found this board....
and then he says well your always home and you get online right by me...
i think he is trying to convince his own self that i am not doing anything wrong..
like cheating...........
trust me if i was going to cheat, it would not be online......
i just dont have that in my heart to do that on or off line........
i was praying he would say something to me about that.
he just watched me........
i know, i can be childish........
but that made me angry.......
we share everything......... accounts, i am on his insurance...
we are very close.....
and sometimes we can fight like brother and sister over dumb stuff.......
OH WELL.............its over now and i have to FORGIVE and FORGET....
and i am going to buy me a new purse.
LOL
coach or dooney & burke
i am looking around for the one i want.............
thank you for your replys..........
i dont like to bad mouth my husband, because i do love my husband and he is a good man..........
he is clean and sober for 16 years and is a very kind man........
goes to work every single day........
comes home on time every single day..........
and very thoughtful......
i dont have anyone to talk to sometimes..........
about what i am angry about........
so its nice to be able to vent and then move on..........
thank you so much...........
love you all
thumper
and has me get whatever......
he has done that a million times....
i get out of the shower AND there he is looking in my purse, looks like hes having fun...
i stand there for a minute and then i say what the hell are you looking for in my purse............why are you snooping through my purse.......
"advil"....he says.......
the first thought of mine was...............LIE
if my husband has even a headache he will always come to me and tell me and then i will get the advil and water for him.......
i hate it when anyone goes in my purse with out asking me......
so i tell him.........i want to look through his wallet..........right now
i share EVERYTHING.........
i am very attached to my purse...if i get like a new coach purse or a cool purse, i will sleep with it for 3 days because i am so excited to have a new purse.
i have done this every since i was a little girl.......
after the 3 days i am over it.
i really dont mind my husband going in my purse.....
thats not it.
its the fact that he did in in "secret"
i truely believe that my husband thinks i have met some man on the internet...
he has even asked me that......
if you were to really know me............that would be real funny, cause i am a big NERD and home body........
and he thinks i am on the internet to much.........
see i have never been on the internet until i found this board....
and then he says well your always home and you get online right by me...
i think he is trying to convince his own self that i am not doing anything wrong..
like cheating...........
trust me if i was going to cheat, it would not be online......
i just dont have that in my heart to do that on or off line........
i was praying he would say something to me about that.
he just watched me........
i know, i can be childish........
but that made me angry.......
we share everything......... accounts, i am on his insurance...
we are very close.....
and sometimes we can fight like brother and sister over dumb stuff.......
OH WELL.............its over now and i have to FORGIVE and FORGET....
and i am going to buy me a new purse.
LOL
coach or dooney & burke
i am looking around for the one i want.............
thank you for your replys..........
i dont like to bad mouth my husband, because i do love my husband and he is a good man..........
he is clean and sober for 16 years and is a very kind man........
goes to work every single day........
comes home on time every single day..........
and very thoughtful......
i dont have anyone to talk to sometimes..........
about what i am angry about........
so its nice to be able to vent and then move on..........
thank you so much...........
love you all
thumper
