My daughter has been sober for 4 months. She has been out of rehab for 2 months. She is now living in an apartment about a mile from me. We could not live together, too tense.
What is the next step. I try to make sure she gets to her therapy appts and I make sure she has her meds.
But seriously, I dont want to be around her. Her constant mood changes drive me crazy. I am very critical. It's sad that she has no one else that can support her. She needs a positive atmosphere and I can't provide it.
So what are your plans with providing that kind of surrounding for her? Or do you have different options to give her?
I have no plans.I am asking for suggestions from any one who has succeeded.
There are lots of advice on detaching and not enabling.Lots of suggestions about rehab . But very little information on how to keep this ball rolling.
There are lots of advice on detaching and not enabling.Lots of suggestions about rehab . But very little information on how to keep this ball rolling.
Hi Walkedon I'm just thinking of some ideas and options. I don't know how old your daughter is so they may or may not be helpful.
*sober living (a good one.There are some that are not good). It's a way to transition back into life with responsibilities and a job and they live together and form relationship skills. Make sure it has strict rules in order to live there otherwise it's chaos.....(speaking from experience)
*there are day or night outpt programs they can go to. Sometimes hospitals or treatment centers have them.
They are generally evolved to the emotional age when they started using so learning and growing are an important part of moving forward. It's really hard for us to help them though because they are grown 'adults' with limited social, coping, decision skills. However we never stop growing and learning. Would she be interested in going to school or learn a trade? Does she have interests she is passionate about which could be part of her work or life?
*sober living (a good one.There are some that are not good). It's a way to transition back into life with responsibilities and a job and they live together and form relationship skills. Make sure it has strict rules in order to live there otherwise it's chaos.....(speaking from experience)
*there are day or night outpt programs they can go to. Sometimes hospitals or treatment centers have them.
They are generally evolved to the emotional age when they started using so learning and growing are an important part of moving forward. It's really hard for us to help them though because they are grown 'adults' with limited social, coping, decision skills. However we never stop growing and learning. Would she be interested in going to school or learn a trade? Does she have interests she is passionate about which could be part of her work or life?
A sober living home would be great. My daughter wss supposed to be in a long term rehab but left after a week. As I see her struggle with anger,depression and loneliness I can't help but think she would still be in rehab.
I guess she is going to have to figure this out on her own.
I guess she is going to have to figure this out on her own.
Yea that sounds like the best thing to do for her. I know you probably didn't want to hear that from me. But coming from the addicts point of view, you can't make the addict quit and stay sober. They got to be ready for it. I'm sorry I'm no help. Good luck to you.!
