Whats A Mother To Do

After 20 years of accelerating drug use my 38 year old son finally landed in jail for residentual burgulary.First offence.He in the past supported his drug use with money he earned as a painter and drywall contractor.He turned his brothers empty house into a pig sty.
After many many lies he is finally exposed .He admits to being sick and needing help.I am devistatedAND IN SHOCK TO REALIZE JUST HOW BAD HIS PROBLEM. IS.
I have not been able to visit him due to my own state of emotional uproar.He has not come to trial yet.
I need advice and council. defeated
Dear Mother,
I am Wendy, 25 and an addict. I have 50 days clean now, and my biggest problem was admitting to my parents that I was an addict. At first, they were very hard on me thinking addiction was something you just could control. It is a very deadly disease. I really sympathize for you. But your son is very sick. He needs your support and love right now. Your understanding is very important, as hard as it may seem, this is something that you can make better. Your son needs to make a decision on whether or not he is ready to have this bad part of his life "worked on". If he is ready to give up the drugs and the past, there is a new way of life for him, and for you and your family. I have never had a better relationship with my family, my mother most of all. I am still attending an Intensive Outpatient Program, that not only empathizes on drug use, but learning about ME... I have learned how to deal with my emotions, my thoughts, and my surroundings. I feel a purpose in life, rather than making purposes for which to use... I also attend NA on a regular schedule. It helps me to know that there are others like me, and that I am not a bad person... Just very sick. It might not be a bad idea for you to attend a NA meeting just to learn more on addiction, and how others have dealt with this kind of pain. If you ever need to talk to someone, dont hesitate. I have free long distance on my mobile after 9pm and free weekends. I would be more than happy to talk to you about anything... You need a friend to listen, and someone who can also relate to your son. I am here!!! :)
Thank you for your reply.I have had a lot of contact with 12 step programs because my sons father was an alcoholic.We were married for 11 years and had two sons together.Both boys(men) are addicts.Crack for one and alcohol for the younger.Their father died of his disease.We were not married for a long time when he died.I am married to a good man who is not an addict.He cares about my kids.
My son who is in jail has told me so many lies I can not believe a word he says.He has stolen from me more than once.
I know he is sick but I feel so much anger for all the lies and deception I am reluctant to see him as I can't bear to look him in the eye knowing all the things he has done.
I have prayed for 20 years every day that God would help him overcome this deadly afflection.So far the answer is not yet.
He has used for so long and dug a hole so deep that I fear for his health.
I am overwhelmed
/agree, he needs all the support he can get, especially from his mother.

(as previous poster said, addiction is a disease, he could not help the things he did)
MOMMAISIE,
GO AND SEE YOUR SON AND TELL HIM IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS THAT YOUR LOVE FOR HIM IS UNCONDITIONAL,THAT YOU ARE THERE FOR HIM IF AND WHEN HE GETS OUT,AND THAT THE WORLD HAS NOT COME TO AN END BECAUSE HE WAS UNFORTUNATE ENOUGH TO MAKE THE MISTAKE OF BECOMING ADDICTED.INFORMATION ON ADDICTION IS A VERY POWERFUL TOOL IN DEALING WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE CAUGHT UP IN THIS ILLNESS,EDUCATE YOURSELF AND BE STRONG AND FIRM IN DEALING WITH YOUR SONS PREDICAMENT.KEEP AN OPEN MIND AND BUILD HIM UP WITH A BIT OF TRUST FROM YOURSELF.