Who Here Is So Perfect?

Pain Pills
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I woke this wonderful morning to catch up on threads / posts from last night and wee hours (I am not online after 5pm usually) and the first thing that came to my mind was, "Who here is so perfect"?

You know, I have been a moderator in one of the popular About.com forums for over 8 years and a lot of the nit-picking that happens HERE would never be tolerated by me there. We have rules there and one of the most important is this: WALK....MILE...SHOES.

It may serve us all here to do the same.

The bickering here back and forth is childish and has absolutely nothing to do with recovery. Bickering between folks should not be public in the forum, rather it should be taken offline. Why criticize those who may not be as perfect a speller? I ask, What makes any of us so perfect than the next person? We are adults here, aren't we?

This board in cyber space has saved my life but that's only a small part of it. For me, recovery includes meetings (and yes, I had to visit many meeting groups until I found one that was more focused on recovery rather than gossip and criticism) and my faith in God. I don't believe anyone should place their 100% recovery in this board alone (with no F to F). If you do, you're only kidding yourselves.

Do any of you even think about the many lurkers still in active addiction who come and go here? We all come from different walks of life...some more emotional than others...some get their buttons pushed more than others...etc.

So who here is so perfect? Can't we get off our high horses and continue to support people here no matter what stage of the recovery process they are in? Some here have long term recovery under their belt yet I am amazed that some of the behaviors of those same people are the same of those early in recovery (anger, bitterness,etc). I say get help for it and deal with it.

I am a fan of Dr. Phil and one of his sayings would fit here today:
"You can't change what you don't acknowledge"

Let it go folks...
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I think most people go by the "progress, not perfection" creedo...i know i do
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I like, "Principles before Personality"
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that one too, and how about "take what you need and leave the rest"
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naw i worked with all woman all my life and i say this is just typical of woman, you know how we do hahaha damn freaking hormones it's just not fair.
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I was up all night, was in a negative thread for a short time - won't talk about it anymore.

I did post to many newcomers and others - so I did get a lot accomplished last night.

Made me feel better b/c I felt I did waste Friday with negative things.

I love your idea and I'm all for it.
I want it to let go now.

We have important issues on the board and that's what I want to say.

Love, Jean
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Walkingatightrope, perfectly stated. And so very true..

People assume just by reading words, when assumption should not even be in any of our vocabularies, Period.

Assume: to think that something is true even though you have no evidence for it. Encarta World English Dictionary & (P) 1998-2004 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.
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walkingtitghtrope,has anyone told you latly that they love you,,well here it goes ,,I LOVE YA,,,you are such a inspiration ,here,and you hav alot of wise infromation, thankyou mmyour freind poopie,,still clean,,,good post
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Walking:

Thanks for the very prolific post. Your words are very true.

Rachel
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OK to set the record right.....I AM PERFECT
I AM BEAUTIFUL
I AM A GOOD PERSON & I ABOVE ALL ELSE AM ALWAYS RIGHT LOLOLOLO>>>SORRY JUST HAD TO....mj
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MJ:

For the record, your darn close :-)
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Thank you that was so sweet.I just threw that out hoping to get a laugh.How are you today Miss Rachel???
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I am much better today, thanks. I like having that extra hour of sleep :-) How are you?
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Im feeling very happy again...Which is always nice.As I said me & my daughter are going to the devils football game but it will be nice to get out.I think later she & I are going to FINALLY carve our pumpkins.I waited this year why????I really dont know.`I hope you enjoy your day also.Its cold here but nice & bright so I think its going to feel great once I get my bum moving....(hint to myself)LOL.Anyways I hope you have an awesome day too,Im sure Ill be around later.Until then take care....mj
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Nice post...is that other forum about addicts? I wonder..we tend to act a little different than most.


CG
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Poopie: Luv back at ya! Glad you are staying clean. Remember, only one day at a time- JUST FOR TODAY!

Rachel: Don't know if I am prolific- but I do know I try to be real. I've gone through too much cr@p to play games at this stage of my life & recovery.

Cowgirl: Personally I do not think the folks over at the forum I moderate act much different than addicts or even alcoholics. People in general get "cocky" on most forums, some like to argue, some like to be right, some like getting the last word in and some like to threaten- AS IF. I'm all for a logical debate but when it turns nasty- I get po'd. My point I suppose is that I would hope we ALL keep the main thing the MAIN THING. Yes, folks here (for example) will disagree however attacking people's personalities, or spelling /grammatical skills is not the solution. The premise of this forum is recovery IMHO.
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Walking:

Boy that is right on!!!!
Good point!!
Thanks,
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I am perfect at being not perfect
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For those who get tired of the bickering and drama their is another site to try go to PillsAnonymous@groups.msn.com
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Dear Brook,
Did you ever hear the one.....
When we assume we make a a** out of U and ME...........

Also when we point a finger at someone...there is three fingers pointing back at yourself.........All the Best.shel