You know, I'm constantly asking myself this question. Why do only some people have weakness to addiction where others can firmly say no to drugs or alcohol? Is it really the choices we make? Or why is it that someone can try a drug and "moderately" use it, then stop, and NOT become addicted to it? Why do only some of us have addiction problems were as others dont? Do we really choose our own paths? Or are there other factors that come into play? I just dont get it! How can one person go to a bar and have 2 drinks the entire night, where as me for example, once I start, I cant stop! It doesnt seem fair. It's not like I choose not to stop getting high or drinking once I've started. I just can't stop once I've started. The only way, is to steer clear 100% of ALL drugs! I know that. Don't get me wrong, I understand that even the tiniest bit WILL hurt. But why can some people stop and we get to the point of near death? It's a very scary thing!
thats a good question--i think thats why many refer to addiction as a disease...some have it some dont, i think alot of it has to do personality and some has to do with genes--but i wonder the same thing often
Hiya crazy girl, I don't actually think it's particularly helpful to spend time and headspace deliberating over why you seem predisposed to addiction. I find it better to look at it from the other way round. Yes you know you are an addict, so how do you deal with it. I think the answers come quicker that way. If, like me, you use drugs to help you deal with emotions/events/bad memories etc, then you need to work on what else you can do to enable you to cope without self destructing. A good place to start is forgiveness. Forgive those who have hurt you. Forgive yourself for the wrong you have done. Don't repeat the same mistakes over and over, then wonder why you always get the same outcome. Draw a line under the past. Move on. Think about how you live your life, and the impact it has on your well being, your peace of mind, and the impact it has on your important relationships and dealings with others.
Maybe you'll begin to find the answers you seek that way. Life IS unfair, but we all have to find a way to cope when we're bowled a googlie, as the posh folks say!
take care
Diff x
Maybe you'll begin to find the answers you seek that way. Life IS unfair, but we all have to find a way to cope when we're bowled a googlie, as the posh folks say!
take care
Diff x
Maybe it's genetic?
Maybe it's that we want to bury something that we don't even know is bothering us?
Maybe we like the feeling more than others?
No, it ain't fair CG, but it's reality. Yeah it stinks don't it? All the why's in the world won't help though. I wish Iknew the answer as well. You sound like you're doing good. Just try and stay cool.
Maybe it's that we want to bury something that we don't even know is bothering us?
Maybe we like the feeling more than others?
No, it ain't fair CG, but it's reality. Yeah it stinks don't it? All the why's in the world won't help though. I wish Iknew the answer as well. You sound like you're doing good. Just try and stay cool.
Thanks guys. I was doing a little, okay a lot, of venting. It's just that some days seem worse than others, ya know? And I do get high or drunk to cover up my emotions and to put off not dealing with daily life. But I know that covering up those emotions are just that, COVERING. They are still there when the high wears off, so I'm not solving anything. Just making things worse!
Thanks!
Crystal
Thanks!
Crystal
Its genetic but i think too it has a lot to do with your life circumstances you could be from a 1 parent family and grow up in a bad neighbourhood all these things make us who we are me personally my father died when i was a child so there was a gap there from the start my mother had to work so we could basically do what we want because my mother had to feed us. My father was a drug addict and died from an oveerdose so it was there for me from the start i have 3 brothers 2 of them are addicts so i often ask myself how did three of us end up on drugs and one didn't just like the question you asked i believe these circumstances are why im an addict but thats just my belief if thats any use to you .
Yours Robbyp78
Yours Robbyp78
Good topic. Wish i had the answers. Diff ur post made so much sense to me there...Yeah we're all addicts on here, but it's how we deal with it. Do we run away from life and use or do we stay clean and face life as it is. Yeah some days choice 1 seems better, but really, in the long run choice 2 is the way ahead...
Vent away, Crystal........that's why we are here.
You asked a really good question.........so in that ya helped us.
Glad you are feeling a little better...............there's ways to deal once ya learn how and ya won't need the booze or drugs...........it ain't easy, but it's way easier than all the madness goes on with the addiction.
You asked a really good question.........so in that ya helped us.
Glad you are feeling a little better...............there's ways to deal once ya learn how and ya won't need the booze or drugs...........it ain't easy, but it's way easier than all the madness goes on with the addiction.
