I am a wife of a severe alcoholic, not a physically abusive one. Been through all kinds of stuff with him, I won't bore you with stories we all have them. What I would like to know is, besides aa (we both feel aa is a cult, not everyone believes in god). Are there any coping skills you can share.
I no longer believe it is a disease, some people can't handle it as well as others, but it is a choice that you make, and the crazy thing is society is ok if you are a drunk. It actually big money for the whole establishment,breweries, stores, rehab centers...sorry I'm ranting.
I love my husband, he went 10 months without,he decided to drink, he was on antabuse. He is sober again but having a hard time recovering this time, any coping suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I am at the end of my rope with the drinking stuff, so I am giving this one last try.
Thank you all for your help
Loving welcome Al-wife. You have found a place to be safe and supported during this horrible journey.
I'm not the wife an an alcoholic. My step-brother was . . . until he drank himself to death in 2014 at age 50. (My daughter experimented with it when she was a young teen; but her drug of choice is heroin.) My brother didn't like AA either. But during the year that he was sober he went daily. After her relapsed, he explored other alternatives, including smartrecovery.org, sossobriety.org and lifering.org.
My concern is you and what HIS addiction is doing to your heart, mind, body & soul. How are you taking care of you? How are you releasing your stress and concern? Are you loving yourself as much as you are loving him?
Sending hugs & wishes for peace,
Lynn
xoxo
I'm not the wife an an alcoholic. My step-brother was . . . until he drank himself to death in 2014 at age 50. (My daughter experimented with it when she was a young teen; but her drug of choice is heroin.) My brother didn't like AA either. But during the year that he was sober he went daily. After her relapsed, he explored other alternatives, including smartrecovery.org, sossobriety.org and lifering.org.
My concern is you and what HIS addiction is doing to your heart, mind, body & soul. How are you taking care of you? How are you releasing your stress and concern? Are you loving yourself as much as you are loving him?
Sending hugs & wishes for peace,
Lynn
xoxo
Sorry to hear of your struggles! If your husband doesn't feell AA works for him, then he should check out some other options. There are many organizations that are secular (no God talk!) such as Smart recovery, SOS, Lifering etc. These support groups can be very helpful and teach us a way to live a healthier life, where alcohol no longer is the guiding force
The Sinclair method has been very successful at curbing alcoholic drinking. It uses the drug naltrexone, which reduces cravings and also changes how the body reacts to alcohol. There is a documentary about it called "One Little Pill". The Sinclair method came out of Finland and the efficacy has been proven through long-term longitudinal studies.
I don't know if we can link websites here, but check out Sinclairmethod.com if you want more information.
Just remember that this is his problem to fix. Your job is to take care of yourself, set healthy boundries and not let his drinking beat you down. There are great books on co-dependency that are non 12-step based that can show you how to let the alcohol problem be his and his alone.
Good Luck and best wishes to you both!
The Sinclair method has been very successful at curbing alcoholic drinking. It uses the drug naltrexone, which reduces cravings and also changes how the body reacts to alcohol. There is a documentary about it called "One Little Pill". The Sinclair method came out of Finland and the efficacy has been proven through long-term longitudinal studies.
I don't know if we can link websites here, but check out Sinclairmethod.com if you want more information.
Just remember that this is his problem to fix. Your job is to take care of yourself, set healthy boundries and not let his drinking beat you down. There are great books on co-dependency that are non 12-step based that can show you how to let the alcohol problem be his and his alone.
Good Luck and best wishes to you both!
