Hi my name is Amy and I'm really worried about my brother. He has been doing coke and meth for the past few years and he's been trying to come off. He stopped and went to counseling for about a year, and he's been good. But this past week I caught him coming off drugs, and he admitted to my mother that he had done meth and coke again. He's 18 and I don't know what I can do to help him and my family. He's the type of kid where if you punish him he'll just get angry and leave to go live with the people he buys drugs from. I don't know what I can do for him. Any suggestions will help. Thankyou
Amy H/
Amy, The only thing you can do is let him know how much he means to you. And that because you care about him, tell him you want him to quit. The fact is that an addict won't quit until THEY are ready. My best hopes for you and your brother,,,Linda
Your mother and you and any non-addicted friends you trust need to plan and execute an intervention. Look at the post on intervention to find a good site that describes how to plan it.
The idea of an intervention is not to punish, but to convince. You want to convinve your brother that he must remain a part of your family, and you and your friends want him to recover so he can be with you more often, and be a greater part of your life. Together, your intervention group will give him the message that you want him back, all of him, and that to get him back you need his help to try out a recovery program. Select a recovery program for him on this first try at recovery. Plan your intervention when he wants money, or is down; then argue that you want him back and you think his return to the family requires that he try the recovery program you have selected. Then get him down to the program site immediately, get him to sign on the dotted line. Do not criticize his addiction, rather emphasize all the things you like about him, the things you miss.
Make sure of your message, You are confronting him because you all want him back. Tell him, "Please try this because we want you back, we like you back with us, and we know no other way to keep you."
The idea of an intervention is not to punish, but to convince. You want to convinve your brother that he must remain a part of your family, and you and your friends want him to recover so he can be with you more often, and be a greater part of your life. Together, your intervention group will give him the message that you want him back, all of him, and that to get him back you need his help to try out a recovery program. Select a recovery program for him on this first try at recovery. Plan your intervention when he wants money, or is down; then argue that you want him back and you think his return to the family requires that he try the recovery program you have selected. Then get him down to the program site immediately, get him to sign on the dotted line. Do not criticize his addiction, rather emphasize all the things you like about him, the things you miss.
Make sure of your message, You are confronting him because you all want him back. Tell him, "Please try this because we want you back, we like you back with us, and we know no other way to keep you."
