Hi Lisa -
I wonder the same thing - why do people keep bringing up the "negative" things instead of jumping in and helping a newcomer? Its like they get a kick out of it or something. We've all had our problems in the past, have said what was said, maybe regreted it, but have apologized, held no grudges and moved on to discuss RECOVERY.
What part of this dont some people understand??? Thats what really gets to me.
So, how was your Thanksgiving? Did you cook this year? I think I gained 10lbs!!! and didnt have to cook either. I have so much to be thankful for and look forward to getting to know alot more of the newcomers on the board.
Have a nice night!
Love,
Marie
Hi Bob
LMAO.........You sure got my attention, I have been off the board for a couple of weeks & thankfully I missed most of the drama, looks like the board could use your good humor........as always.....good to see you
Dottie
LMAO.........You sure got my attention, I have been off the board for a couple of weeks & thankfully I missed most of the drama, looks like the board could use your good humor........as always.....good to see you
Dottie
Hi folks,
What a nice night. We just got home a little bit ago from our Saturday night meeting. Gina spoke, and let me say she did great. She shared what it was like, what happened and what it's like now. She was honest, ( very ) and I for 1 got alot out of her message. The meeting was pretty full tonight, and I was glad for her there were alot of women there tonight. Then we went out for a bite to eat with a couple of friends, it was fun. One of the guys that went out to eat with us is speaking tomorrow, I'm really looking forward to hearing him. He's a great guy, and one of the guys who has been very nice to Gina and I both these last few months. I think he has 26 years sober and I'm looking forward to tomorrow. Then tomorrow night, that same guy, myself and another guy, who has also been real good to me, are going to an evening meeting. So I have a full day tomorrow, flea market in the morning, 3pm meeting, dinner, then a 7:30 pm meeting. For now, I'm just gonna relax and read a bit.
I'm glad you all thought the title along with the first post was funny, I think we needed a laugh here today. But there was a message along with the humor. It's important to laugh, it's great medecine in my opinion.
I'd rather be sober and crazy than drunk and insane anyday.
Thanks for all the replies, I love you all.
Cowgirl, I have my own thoughts too, .. How to decorate my house, what song I wanna play on the guitar, what boots I wanna wear with what jeans, etc..etc..
But when it comes to recovery, which is what I was talking about, and assumed you were too, I (for me) have no original thoughts, only what I'm told and taught from those before me. Any idea of my own on how to stay clean and sober would be doing it my way. Been there done that, thought I had the answers, didn't think I needed all the steps or really had to read the books, now here I sit, basically a new comer again. I think you sound great Cowgirl, I always did, and I hope you don't think I hold any past arguments as part of my here and now, you are more than welcome to email me anytime, if ya' ever wanna talk. That goes for anyone, and I do mean anyone. Well, I'm gonna go read a bit, surf the net and relax, Have a great night all.
Take care..........Bob
sunberst585@msn.com
What a nice night. We just got home a little bit ago from our Saturday night meeting. Gina spoke, and let me say she did great. She shared what it was like, what happened and what it's like now. She was honest, ( very ) and I for 1 got alot out of her message. The meeting was pretty full tonight, and I was glad for her there were alot of women there tonight. Then we went out for a bite to eat with a couple of friends, it was fun. One of the guys that went out to eat with us is speaking tomorrow, I'm really looking forward to hearing him. He's a great guy, and one of the guys who has been very nice to Gina and I both these last few months. I think he has 26 years sober and I'm looking forward to tomorrow. Then tomorrow night, that same guy, myself and another guy, who has also been real good to me, are going to an evening meeting. So I have a full day tomorrow, flea market in the morning, 3pm meeting, dinner, then a 7:30 pm meeting. For now, I'm just gonna relax and read a bit.
I'm glad you all thought the title along with the first post was funny, I think we needed a laugh here today. But there was a message along with the humor. It's important to laugh, it's great medecine in my opinion.
I'd rather be sober and crazy than drunk and insane anyday.
Thanks for all the replies, I love you all.
Cowgirl, I have my own thoughts too, .. How to decorate my house, what song I wanna play on the guitar, what boots I wanna wear with what jeans, etc..etc..
But when it comes to recovery, which is what I was talking about, and assumed you were too, I (for me) have no original thoughts, only what I'm told and taught from those before me. Any idea of my own on how to stay clean and sober would be doing it my way. Been there done that, thought I had the answers, didn't think I needed all the steps or really had to read the books, now here I sit, basically a new comer again. I think you sound great Cowgirl, I always did, and I hope you don't think I hold any past arguments as part of my here and now, you are more than welcome to email me anytime, if ya' ever wanna talk. That goes for anyone, and I do mean anyone. Well, I'm gonna go read a bit, surf the net and relax, Have a great night all.
Take care..........Bob
sunberst585@msn.com
Hey Bob
I'm glad you had a nice evening. So Gina did OK ??? Didn't throw up or pass out?? I knew she would do just fine. It really sounds like you're doing well and it couldn't happen to a nicer guy.
Take care and have a good night.
Love ya
Frank
Hi Bob
1st, let me extend congrat's to Gina, It is so nice to hear a husband who can say that he too, got the message that his wife was delivering....You both are so cool........also, I just want you to know how much I enjoy your posts.....You have a way of sharing your experiance strenth & hope, in such a humble way, It is so positive........I get a lot out of yours & Gina's post & I want to thank you This board is in great need of the help you give us all, Hope your always here with us!!
Hey Frank
How are you? AYRFSF???...............I am!! LOL
I am doing well & feel better than I have in years........sorry I worried you, damm internet is making me nut's.......not much of a stretch there huh?? lol
Love Ya
Dottie
1st, let me extend congrat's to Gina, It is so nice to hear a husband who can say that he too, got the message that his wife was delivering....You both are so cool........also, I just want you to know how much I enjoy your posts.....You have a way of sharing your experiance strenth & hope, in such a humble way, It is so positive........I get a lot out of yours & Gina's post & I want to thank you This board is in great need of the help you give us all, Hope your always here with us!!
Hey Frank
How are you? AYRFSF???...............I am!! LOL
I am doing well & feel better than I have in years........sorry I worried you, damm internet is making me nut's.......not much of a stretch there huh?? lol
Love Ya
Dottie
Hey Bob glad to see you haven't lost your sense of humor. LOL
Crystal,
Good to see you back here as well. I know you were just talking about what was said on another thread that got locked. I saw that last week where you posted your opinions and someone told you to let it go and move on, then it was locked. Don't you hate it when you make a post and it gets locked after someone tries to shut you up? Hmmm I wonder why that is. I think you may have hit a nerve. Anyway have a good weekend and I hope to see you back here more often. You have just as much right to speak your mind as anyone else on this board. You go girl. Have a good one. Rae
Crystal,
Good to see you back here as well. I know you were just talking about what was said on another thread that got locked. I saw that last week where you posted your opinions and someone told you to let it go and move on, then it was locked. Don't you hate it when you make a post and it gets locked after someone tries to shut you up? Hmmm I wonder why that is. I think you may have hit a nerve. Anyway have a good weekend and I hope to see you back here more often. You have just as much right to speak your mind as anyone else on this board. You go girl. Have a good one. Rae
Hi,
Frank, Dottie, and Rae, thanks for the posts. Gina and I are best friends first, that also happen to be husband and wife. And yes it is very cool to be able to put our marrage aside sometimes and talk as friends and fellow alcoholic/addicts, which we do often. I'll be the first to admit how blessed I am.
And I think we gotta laugh and not take things so seriously, especially ourselves. I was guilty of that before, it's just to damn stressfull to be a tight a-s.
It's much more fun to be a smarta-s! lol just kiddin'...Maybe? lol
There is gonna be arguments, noone can stop that, s-it happens. But as those of us that are truely working a program of recovery, or even just growing on our own, should be taking a back seat to that kind of stuff as we get further into recovery by simply letting it go, knowing it'll pass, and remembering we were exactly like that once ourselves. In my opinion, theres nothing wrong with the arguing or high emotional stress, I just think, the names on those kind of posts and threads should be constantly changing. When it's the same people, after a certain amount of time, then theres a lesson for all to be learned from that.
But, thats just me, I love everyone, I really do.
Take care...........Bob
Frank, Dottie, and Rae, thanks for the posts. Gina and I are best friends first, that also happen to be husband and wife. And yes it is very cool to be able to put our marrage aside sometimes and talk as friends and fellow alcoholic/addicts, which we do often. I'll be the first to admit how blessed I am.
And I think we gotta laugh and not take things so seriously, especially ourselves. I was guilty of that before, it's just to damn stressfull to be a tight a-s.
It's much more fun to be a smarta-s! lol just kiddin'...Maybe? lol
There is gonna be arguments, noone can stop that, s-it happens. But as those of us that are truely working a program of recovery, or even just growing on our own, should be taking a back seat to that kind of stuff as we get further into recovery by simply letting it go, knowing it'll pass, and remembering we were exactly like that once ourselves. In my opinion, theres nothing wrong with the arguing or high emotional stress, I just think, the names on those kind of posts and threads should be constantly changing. When it's the same people, after a certain amount of time, then theres a lesson for all to be learned from that.
But, thats just me, I love everyone, I really do.
Take care...........Bob
Hey Bob...I know what you mean. Exactly. My way and thoughts are what got me into this mess so no, I don't have any of those of my own anymore. I do what's suggested and I don't argue. Why would I argue with what works? Then I'd really be a dummy. But that's just what works for me.
Like you, I try not to hold on to past resentments. They only serve to posion my mind and soul. That's what ammendments are for.
Cowgirl
Marie...it's always so nice to see you post. I don't know why the negative keeps going. It's just sad. That's all I can say. I guess the best thing to do is to forgive and forget.
Thanksgiving was ok. Yes, I cooked. It was quiet this year, my husband's mom is in pretty bad shape so we stayed close to home. He's not dealing with it very well. I really hate this part about getting old.
Take care
Cowgirl
Like you, I try not to hold on to past resentments. They only serve to posion my mind and soul. That's what ammendments are for.
Cowgirl
Marie...it's always so nice to see you post. I don't know why the negative keeps going. It's just sad. That's all I can say. I guess the best thing to do is to forgive and forget.
Thanksgiving was ok. Yes, I cooked. It was quiet this year, my husband's mom is in pretty bad shape so we stayed close to home. He's not dealing with it very well. I really hate this part about getting old.
Take care
Cowgirl
*wink* I love ya'.....and I think you know that..........Take care......Bob
Lisa,
I'm really sorry to hear about your husband's mom. You'll be in my prayers. Yes, getting old isnt easy, especiallly when we see our parents getting ill. Then its a double whammy if its right around the holidays.
So glad you had a nice Thanksgiving. I've been shopping for the past two days and I'm beat!!!! Those woman are vultures (not me of course, lol). At least I kept my word to myself aobut not waiting til a week b4 Christmas to shop!!!!
Best wishes to you and your family. I'll say an xtra prayer for his mom tonight.
Love you.
Marie
I'm really sorry to hear about your husband's mom. You'll be in my prayers. Yes, getting old isnt easy, especiallly when we see our parents getting ill. Then its a double whammy if its right around the holidays.
So glad you had a nice Thanksgiving. I've been shopping for the past two days and I'm beat!!!! Those woman are vultures (not me of course, lol). At least I kept my word to myself aobut not waiting til a week b4 Christmas to shop!!!!
Best wishes to you and your family. I'll say an xtra prayer for his mom tonight.
Love you.
Marie
I didnt undestand,,and still dont ,am I desne or what,,,bob thankyou for putting joy to people here ,,,what does f mean that people would take to be driffrent ,,(wink) poopie
Hi poopie,
Nice to see ya'. Ummm, "F" = ummm how can I say it?, If I do they will only show the "F" anyway, lol. F= F**k..it's an action word! lol Thats about the best I can do for ya' Poopie....*wink* Love ya'....
Take care......Bob
Nice to see ya'. Ummm, "F" = ummm how can I say it?, If I do they will only show the "F" anyway, lol. F= F**k..it's an action word! lol Thats about the best I can do for ya' Poopie....*wink* Love ya'....
Take care......Bob
