Good Morning, I posted this over on the Crack/Cocaine board too, but thought I'd re-post it over here and get an Alcoholics perspective.
Just checkin' in...especially with you other 12 Steppers. I just completed my first go 'round of the 12 Steps with my Sponsor and have to say there wasn't any "AHA" moment or neither did any angels break through her ceiling upon completion ~ LOL! My girlfriend just completed her Steps too and she shared in a meeting recently something like, "What's up, no big Parade and Marching Band walked through the living room when I was done..." which I am totally relating to right now. In fact I had an emotional letdown and cried and cried for about a day and half after that...my Sponsor said that's okay and that I'm just grieving my old way of life, the drinking and using, and I've made a real commitment to sobriety now. She said it's totally normal to go through a grieving process. I know I will be working the Steps in my life on a daily basis and I do know that by practicing the Steps it feels the void that I use to fill up with with drugs and alcohol. What my Sponsor did say that was reassuring is that I've built a strong foundation and now I can stand firm on that foundation which will only strengthen my sobriety and I can draw from that when times get tough. I'm coming out the other side now and starting to feel better. Gee, now I'm ready to go out and Sponsor other women, geesh, with the way I've been acting lately not sure if some other gal will really want what I've got! Any others out there that have experienced anything similar upon working the Steps?
Peace & Serenity,
VWGirl
Hey girl! Good morning....I shared in a meeting on the 8th step last night, that i was in my 90 meetings in 90 days mode, however I am dancing the waltz daily with my steps...
one, two, three, one, two, three, one, two, three...practice makes perfect? nope practice makes me more sane.
Day 36 for me today! Hurrah!
Love ya
Janet
I started going to a Dual Recovery meeting, for addicts with mental illness, I love it, and though I have to give up a great NA meeting for it, it's worth it!
one, two, three, one, two, three, one, two, three...practice makes perfect? nope practice makes me more sane.
Day 36 for me today! Hurrah!
Love ya
Janet
I started going to a Dual Recovery meeting, for addicts with mental illness, I love it, and though I have to give up a great NA meeting for it, it's worth it!
Hi VWGirl. / Janet.
Its a beautiful Sunday morning here in Sydney. Where in winter and be having days with temperatures around 23c/74f .Its just great to be sober and appreciate how life is to be enjoyed.
You really start to understand the steps when you start working them with others because you will want to know what youre talking about.
And one of the paradoxes in the program is.You have to give it away to keep it.
The thing with alcoholism is its a progressive disease. And even though we are not drinking alcohol the disease is still progressing .The sad thing if we do pick up a drink after a period of abstinence .We dont pick up where we left of we pick up as though we had been drinking all the time.
One way to prevent picking up is the program the 12 steps an having a God of your understanding.. .Not only is the disease progressive so is recovery. You dont fall of a program your not on. So by practising the steps on a daily basis could be the difference between picking up or not.
And if you have that solid foundation when the disease raises its ugly head you will have the tools to prevent it from having any affect on yourself.
Vwgirl you will make a good sponsor but like it was said hopefully when you started doing something about the program. Dont expect to much to soon..
Have a great 24 God Bless Lionel
Its a beautiful Sunday morning here in Sydney. Where in winter and be having days with temperatures around 23c/74f .Its just great to be sober and appreciate how life is to be enjoyed.
You really start to understand the steps when you start working them with others because you will want to know what youre talking about.
And one of the paradoxes in the program is.You have to give it away to keep it.
The thing with alcoholism is its a progressive disease. And even though we are not drinking alcohol the disease is still progressing .The sad thing if we do pick up a drink after a period of abstinence .We dont pick up where we left of we pick up as though we had been drinking all the time.
One way to prevent picking up is the program the 12 steps an having a God of your understanding.. .Not only is the disease progressive so is recovery. You dont fall of a program your not on. So by practising the steps on a daily basis could be the difference between picking up or not.
And if you have that solid foundation when the disease raises its ugly head you will have the tools to prevent it from having any affect on yourself.
Vwgirl you will make a good sponsor but like it was said hopefully when you started doing something about the program. Dont expect to much to soon..
Have a great 24 God Bless Lionel
Good Morning Lionel,
Please clarify this part in your reply to me. I'm missing something and would like to understand:
"Vwgirl you will make a good sponsor but like it was said when you started doing something about the program. Dont expect to much to soon.."
Also, thanks so much for reminding me that the disease continues to progress...even though we've put down the drink (alcohol)...I forget that so often!
Have a GREAT Sunday!
Peace & Serenity,
VWGirl
Please clarify this part in your reply to me. I'm missing something and would like to understand:
"Vwgirl you will make a good sponsor but like it was said when you started doing something about the program. Dont expect to much to soon.."
Also, thanks so much for reminding me that the disease continues to progress...even though we've put down the drink (alcohol)...I forget that so often!
Have a GREAT Sunday!
Peace & Serenity,
VWGirl
Hi VWGirl.
When I said .Dont expect too much too soon. What I meant by this is probably best describe when I started to sponsor people.
A few of those people who ask me for help after time went back out to drink and drug again and when that happened I was having thoughts maybe it was me, maybe I could have done a bit more.
But I am powerless over people, places things and situations. It was a while before a couple of those I sponsored stayed then went on to sponsor overs. And the good news is by giving away what was given to me I stayed sober.
I dont know if this is a good example or not its early morning as I am writing this and my brain is only in first gear. lol
God Bless.Lionel
When I said .Dont expect too much too soon. What I meant by this is probably best describe when I started to sponsor people.
A few of those people who ask me for help after time went back out to drink and drug again and when that happened I was having thoughts maybe it was me, maybe I could have done a bit more.
But I am powerless over people, places things and situations. It was a while before a couple of those I sponsored stayed then went on to sponsor overs. And the good news is by giving away what was given to me I stayed sober.
I dont know if this is a good example or not its early morning as I am writing this and my brain is only in first gear. lol
God Bless.Lionel
