We post a lot of painful stuff on here. I had a nice evening and wanted to share it.
I've done a very good job of stopping with the enabling with my son. He has many times accused his dad and I of acting like he's garbage because he's an addict. Well, it's true. He's right. It's hard to look at him and know what he's doing to himself and act normal around him.
Well, tonight I was headed in town and decided to text him before I left to see if he wanted to get a bite to eat. He said that would be great. I told him to let me know exactly what time he'd be ready and I'd come in town then (I definitely didn't want to come in if he wasn't "right" for the moment).
He gave me a time and I picked him up. We went to Denny's and had a meal together. We didn't talk about drugs, him getting clean, etc... We talked about how my recovery from surgery was going, how one of his roommates left so it was a calmer environment now, talked about my upcoming trip, and just light stuff. I dropped him back off, he gave me a hug, we said we love each other and I left.
I got home and decided to send him a text telling him I really enjoyed having a meal with him tonight and that I love him. This next part is the part that helped fill my heart with some renewed hope. He texted back and said "Yeah, me too" and then added a line that he hasn't said since he was about 9 years old ( he's 29 now) and had heard it on a commercial and just thought it was so funny and said it to me for about a month..."Thank ya kindly ma". It means nothing to anyone else but I felt like God was sending me a sign that my kid is still in there, not completely lost.
Any moment can bring a whole different attitude from him so I'm going to enjoy tonight for what it was, dinner with my son.
Michelld
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That is awesome. So glad you had a nice time with your son. God has a plan for our kids!
That is awesome. So glad you had a nice time with your son. God has a plan for our kids!
That was a tear-jerker! Thanks for sharing!
Funny I cry when things are bad, and cry when things are good!
I'm glad you and your son had a good moment. It is encouraging. You can sleep easier.
You can have no regrets, no matter what happens.
I believe there is an energy. when something isnt right, we sometimes feel it. when something is the right moment, and we let ourselves act upon it, it brings a good moment.
I think there was the energy of a good moment that summoned you to text your son.
Hugs
Funny I cry when things are bad, and cry when things are good!
I'm glad you and your son had a good moment. It is encouraging. You can sleep easier.
You can have no regrets, no matter what happens.
I believe there is an energy. when something isnt right, we sometimes feel it. when something is the right moment, and we let ourselves act upon it, it brings a good moment.
I think there was the energy of a good moment that summoned you to text your son.
Hugs
Michelle,
I am SO happy that you had this time with your son that was positive and enjoyable. Thanks for sharing it with us. I too just got back from a nice time with my son. He joined my younger son, my granddaughter and myself to volunteer with others to pick up trash along the streets, sidewalks, park. There is a group of volunteers that do this weekly. When I dropped him off, he thanked me for bringing him with us and also he said how much he liked seeing his gramma on sunday and my sister and brother since he was in jail for over a year. It made him feel good to be around family and today, doing a volunteer thing. So like you Michelle, I am thankful for times like this, just spending time with our son/ daughter and without drugs or anything negative. We have to treasure those times.
Love all of you out there and I pray EVERYDAY for you all.
I am SO happy that you had this time with your son that was positive and enjoyable. Thanks for sharing it with us. I too just got back from a nice time with my son. He joined my younger son, my granddaughter and myself to volunteer with others to pick up trash along the streets, sidewalks, park. There is a group of volunteers that do this weekly. When I dropped him off, he thanked me for bringing him with us and also he said how much he liked seeing his gramma on sunday and my sister and brother since he was in jail for over a year. It made him feel good to be around family and today, doing a volunteer thing. So like you Michelle, I am thankful for times like this, just spending time with our son/ daughter and without drugs or anything negative. We have to treasure those times.
Love all of you out there and I pray EVERYDAY for you all.
Thank you Michelle for sharing that. I'm happy for you and your son. I hope this is the beginning of something good. (Hugs) Mary
Ditto that! Thank you for sharing and reminding us that there are moments that we can grasp and hold on to. And we should look for them whenever we can. It is difficult sometimes to know how to act because we can't always hide the disappointment that we feel. A close friend co-worker once observed me around my addict daughter. She didn't know any details but asked if things were okay with that daughter and me. It made me sad that others could see that there is an unseen stress in our relationship. I didn't think I was acting any differently around my daughter. But I guess we do and can't help it. Like walking on eggs sometimes.
Smiles...not discussing ...no drug talk...keeping it as normal as possible. ..no drama...nice
