Thanks for responses. Drop off last Thursday went well. It's a good plane and the distance from us and his old stomping grounds is good. I know people say you can get drugs anywhere and the distance does not help. This is a different situation, he really wants it... Have seen and heard it before, so time will tell. He's called twice, just to say he's happy and working. Likes the program and people. One day at a time.....
Keep us posted. It is good to have some hopeful feelings. One of the things I hated about parent support groups is they are always filled with "debbie downer" stories and I am an intelligent person and I know the reality of what we deal with but when things are going well I want to keep that hopeful feeling alive and enjoy it as long as I can, hopefully, for the rest of my life. But, if she happens to fall, oh well, at least I didn't waste the good times with dread and fear of the bad times, so enjoy this good time!
Yes so many similar stories. Found compassion within this site. Oh a good note, it's been a week, and no drama. My husband and I sleep better knowing he's safe and staying busy actually starting to take responsibility for his own actions.
Happy Friday people.
Happy Friday people.
Haven't posted under my original post in awhile. My son continues on the path of recovery. He's working and living in another state, supporting himself. (FINALLY). I know people say you cannot run from the drugs; although, being in a new environment and being given the opportunity for a job has helped his self esteem. We were very lucky to find this good recovery location.
It's a relief, as a parent knowing he's not on the street. The worry never ends. The gut feeling a parent has that, is he finally telling the truth about wanting to stay clean. Is this the new normal in our life??
We are all starting the Holiday sentiment, Christmas will be tough, we've never been without our son.
Guess we are thankful for current prayers that have been answered.
It's a relief, as a parent knowing he's not on the street. The worry never ends. The gut feeling a parent has that, is he finally telling the truth about wanting to stay clean. Is this the new normal in our life??
We are all starting the Holiday sentiment, Christmas will be tough, we've never been without our son.
Guess we are thankful for current prayers that have been answered.
This is my first post. A little introduction: I have a daughter, 29, who started doing heroin about 6 months ago. She met a homeless guy in the subway and thought he was "so cute" and he got her started. She came to her senses after some very bad things happened, and I moved my son out of his room and into an apartment so she could have his room. I was convinced I could help her get back on track, since she'd only strayed a little at that point.
But she does have a host of problems: body dysmorphic, anxiety, bipolar, and sex and love addiction. The heroin makes all the problems go away for her-- except one! The heroin.
She's left my apartment and her job and taken up with the junkie bf again, after all he's done to her. The latest bulletin from her is that she feels she finally has freedom and it's priceless. OMG....
My big issue now is with other family members who want to hire "professional help" to fix her. These professionals make me unreasonably angry. I'm only now figuring it out. It's like wandering into a shop where there's only one item for sale and the shopkeeper is determined to make you buy it. The rehabs that are being pushed by a couple of these professionals are horribly expensive. The family sent her to one in Arizona a few years ago-- I'm not even sure why-- and she walked out after a few weeks. I know she's not ready to stick it out in rehab. She likes what she's doing! They don't get that they have to let her fall.
It's so hard with something like shooting heroin where each time the person does it, they could literally DIE. But I don't know what I can do for her so I'm trying a new (to me) Nar Anon meeting tomorrow night. And reading this thread has been helpful.
We can't do it for them. I wish people in my family would quit blaming me for not being all enthusiastic about the eager professionals who want to fix my daughter. They are making me the bad guy. I'm going to have to stop expressing my disagreement and just let them make their plans. And I'm restarting some antidepressants for myself. I need to take the edge off.
Thanks for listening!
But she does have a host of problems: body dysmorphic, anxiety, bipolar, and sex and love addiction. The heroin makes all the problems go away for her-- except one! The heroin.
She's left my apartment and her job and taken up with the junkie bf again, after all he's done to her. The latest bulletin from her is that she feels she finally has freedom and it's priceless. OMG....
My big issue now is with other family members who want to hire "professional help" to fix her. These professionals make me unreasonably angry. I'm only now figuring it out. It's like wandering into a shop where there's only one item for sale and the shopkeeper is determined to make you buy it. The rehabs that are being pushed by a couple of these professionals are horribly expensive. The family sent her to one in Arizona a few years ago-- I'm not even sure why-- and she walked out after a few weeks. I know she's not ready to stick it out in rehab. She likes what she's doing! They don't get that they have to let her fall.
It's so hard with something like shooting heroin where each time the person does it, they could literally DIE. But I don't know what I can do for her so I'm trying a new (to me) Nar Anon meeting tomorrow night. And reading this thread has been helpful.
We can't do it for them. I wish people in my family would quit blaming me for not being all enthusiastic about the eager professionals who want to fix my daughter. They are making me the bad guy. I'm going to have to stop expressing my disagreement and just let them make their plans. And I'm restarting some antidepressants for myself. I need to take the edge off.
Thanks for listening!
Hi Trilby- you are making the right decision in going to that meeting, you will meet alot of people with very similar stories and concerns- the natural reaction is always wanting to protect and help those we love and care about- but you are right-your daughter will have to decide for herself when she wants help- no one can make that decision for her- if these so called professionals know jack s...t about addiction they would have told you that - they are either amateurs - maybe well intentioned -or they are trying to push your daughter into a rehab centre- as you say if she aint ready then its a waste of her time and your money- she will be ready when she is ready- all you can do is wait and be there when she reaches out for help- until that day she will put the drugs before everything else- i wish you and your daughter the best of luck and i truly hope she finds the road to recovery quickly.
@GPBAS- Am I understanding that your son is in a rehab that has a work component and is long-term? I'm new here, don't want to break any rules. Is it permissible to say what the place is?
My silly ex-husband and his wife were yammering on last night about some YouTube videos of Russel Brand talking about rehabs he's been to. Like that would help us at all!
It's nice to hear that your son is doing well there and you're feeling more at peace.
My silly ex-husband and his wife were yammering on last night about some YouTube videos of Russel Brand talking about rehabs he's been to. Like that would help us at all!
It's nice to hear that your son is doing well there and you're feeling more at peace.
