Addictmom / Betsy



Hey girl,,,,I've been thinking about you a lot lately and wondering how you're doing. I don't think you've posted in a while and I miss you. Are things still going well for you?? I sure hope so. Anyhow I know a lot of people around here care for you so let us know how you're doing.


Frank
Bump for Betsy

You know its pretty sad when absolutely no one would respond to this asking about Betsy. I guess you're all busy begging Tim to come back and talking s*** about everyone else. This place has turned into a joke. More trash talking than recovery.

Betsy,,,,on the chance you see this please email me @ fstristar@yahoo.com.


I care about you

Frank
Hey AddictMom/Betsy,
Please check in and let us know how your doing. Hope all is well with you.

Hey Frank,
Nope not me, I stay out of all the drama...too dangerous for me....smile!!
love ya,
gi
Betsy,

I have also been wondering where you have gone. Hope all is well. Amercan idol has not been on in months.

Regards,
Tom
Hey Betsy, Hope all is well with you... Check in with us.....

Hey Frank Drama! Bulls***???? What are you talking about LOL>>>
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Hope you pop in Betsy and say hello. It would be great to hear from you and know how you're doing.
Love, Kat
Hi everyone-
Frank, thanks for asking about me! I had been doing pretty well - almost 6 months clean.
Then for some reason, I made up my mond that I wanted to get high. I got 2 vicodin from my brother in law, then a few days later my son got his wisdom teeth out and I ate up 30 more.
A guy I met in NA relapsed and I bought pot for him because he said he could hook me up with pain pills. All of a sudden I was getting calls from total losers, and I woke up and thought this was a world I do not want to enter. Been there, done that 30 years ago!
So I am clean for 4 days. Tomorrow I'll go back to NA and start over. The funny thing is, I don't feel at all guilty about it. I enjoyed the high and got a lot done. But the obsession and compulsion to get more is what kills a person.
How are you guys?
Betsy, so sorry to hear about the relapse.

It reminds me how cunning, baffling and powerful this disease is. How far and how fast you can fall.

Congrats on 4 days!
Hey Betsy,
So happy to see you back on the board! Congrats on your 6 months clean and sorry about the relapse. So now you have 4 days that is good you picked yourself up and started over. It sounds like you know what you have to do to get back on track. Your right don't let it rent to much space in your head, just keep doing what your doing. Again glad to see you back. Take care! Rae
Hey Betsy...stick around, we need you here.

Relapse sucksbut what done is done. And you're right, why feel guilty? Just move forward from here on out.

Did you have a sponsor at NA? get another phone list too. And next time you feel like getting high? Pick up the phone first. You can always still use, but at least give yourself that option. Call someone.

Welcome back.

Lisa
Thanks for the nice words.
One BIG issue that kept coming up while I was clean - my husband works very long hours and even when he's home, is not available. Too tired, busy, etc.
When I was using, I didn't care. Intimacy wasn't even an issue - I had my pills! With pain pills, even the most boring day could be fun and I didn't need anyone else.

I've talked to my husband about this and there are no solutions. I have a sponsor, a bunch of NA friends, "normies", family, etc. But these people cannot replace intimacy with a spouse. And I'm not talking about just getting laid, I mean a real connection. We addicts use to escape some kind of pain, whether it's physical abuse, neglect, violence, on and on. Pills made my situation easier to bear for a time. I know I can't fall back on that excuse, but it's damn tempting.
Hiya Besty,

I am so glad you found your way back.. and glad your at day four, there couldnt be a day 352 without a day 4.
Also, maybe NA is not the answer to the problems you stated, maybe marraige conseling is. Just a thought.

Regards,
Tom
How'ld you get so smart Tom?

Marriage counseling sounds like an excellent idea. You're right, nothing can replace that connection that we feel with our spouses. Not even the pills. They will just keep you further away from him.

xxx

Hi Betsy

Its really nice to see you. You know I hate the word relapse. Don't we all. I will never say its OK to to do that cause its not but you know that already. What you did was slip,,,,,,just don't slide. The first time I slipped, I learned something about my addition. In fact I learned a lot. It sounds like you did too. Take what you've learned and put it to work for you. You know you have a lot of people who care about you here so please keep in touch.

Take care of yourself and welcome back.

Love ya pretty lady

Frank