I discovered in NOvember that my 32 year old son is on meth. He lives in NYC, is gay, unemployed etc. Found out that he has been lying to me about searching for a job. He was here for Christmas and we had a long talk. Made some plans for when he returned to NY. I have access to his checking account and he has been taking large amounts of money. He tells me he is getting it back, guess he is looking for a quick fix to get money. I don't think he is looking for a job, has $11 in his account, goes to court about every 4 months for back rent and yes, I have been helping him occasionally. I have now told him that I cannot help him financially any longer. I have to look to my own future. I feel terrible. I know that I did not do this and that it is not my fault, but how do I not help my son.
I have been reading other posts and boy it makes sense, but how do you get there and get the peace and ability to leave them on their own even if it means they fail?
I just don't believe it's that Easy. My son is addicted to meth too, and other things. I've been struggling with it for a few years. I'm not sure what the answer is. I Give him food to eat when he's hungry. I know many people who say that it's enabling. It's just so difficult. I am getting better at not giving him cash.. He will end up running himself in the ground every time. If I give him $5 or $500, It doesn't matter. I just Wanted to let you know that you're not alone. Praying for all the addicts of the world.
Thanks. I texted him yesterday just to see if he was ok. He replied he was fine, that this is harder than he ever expected. I'm worried about the eating. Unfortunately, he lives in NYC and I live in Texas, so the only way I can help is a little money now and then. But I have no way of knowing what he uses it on.
I just wish I could feel ok about not giving him anything. I know it is enabling but so difficult when its someone you love. And I know that I have to let him do this himself, but I feel that I have to know that he is ok.
I just wish I could feel ok about not giving him anything. I know it is enabling but so difficult when its someone you love. And I know that I have to let him do this himself, but I feel that I have to know that he is ok.
