HI EVERYONE...
Okay this is my first time on this site, but i hear it is great so here goes...a little history i have had the drug problems with cocain and went to rehab for that. Don't judge but my parents own a bar where i work. I love my job, i have tried others "safer environment" but i hated it. The bar is my home, i have worked there sober and know that i am capable of doing it, so please don't say "Well first you have to get out of that bar" Not only do i love it but it is a family business. I have tried e verything possible but for some reason i contiue to drink when i know all the trouble it will cause if i get s***faced and even if i don't get s***faced i still usually drink something in moderation so my parents won't get angry with me. Here is the thing, i don't want to drink at the bar it just seems to be a habit and it is different from my addiction to the coke because at least i knew why i did it and what triggered me to pick up. With the alcohol it is different, i have no idea why it contines. Anyone who has any strenght,hope, and/or advice, or experience please respond i need some help and have no one reasonable or that understands what i am saying to talk to me. Please Advise
Hey Trying to Understand how goes the battle?
Don't worry about your parents owning a bar because for approx 90% of the population it's cool. I know a family who grew up in pubs where i live and the whole town is very pub orientated anyway He felt an enormous pressure to be a big drinker and carry on the tradition of being a big drinker to the point where he moved away because he didn't want to give up drinking and be a failure in his familys eyes (his own thinking).
You know what i love about pubs and still do it is the atmosphere of unpredictability, i can still go into a pub and see whose selling what, whose on the pull etc etc my radar is still 100% when it comes to drinking scenes.
This is me just thinking aloud trying to hit on something for you, in a way do you feel that it is expected of you to drink and be there to be sociable or as with any addiction i will just have a couple to say gidday then the morals goe and it's a bender or enough to get pissed anyway.
Plus when i'm at home i feel safe so maybe you feel safe and addiction puts a spin on that for you.
Hey Ttu all your other addictions had triggers because in the long run you knew that you always had alcohol as a backstop and now the others are falling away addiction will tell you that it's okay to drink because it is cunning, baffling and powerful the bstard.
It's not impossible to stay sober and live in a pub just whatch out for the feel good factor and revisit your triggers in detail and you will see them present for a drinking session but just in more relaxed volumes.
Hope this helps and Ttu keep posting
Light and love Zac
Don't worry about your parents owning a bar because for approx 90% of the population it's cool. I know a family who grew up in pubs where i live and the whole town is very pub orientated anyway He felt an enormous pressure to be a big drinker and carry on the tradition of being a big drinker to the point where he moved away because he didn't want to give up drinking and be a failure in his familys eyes (his own thinking).
You know what i love about pubs and still do it is the atmosphere of unpredictability, i can still go into a pub and see whose selling what, whose on the pull etc etc my radar is still 100% when it comes to drinking scenes.
This is me just thinking aloud trying to hit on something for you, in a way do you feel that it is expected of you to drink and be there to be sociable or as with any addiction i will just have a couple to say gidday then the morals goe and it's a bender or enough to get pissed anyway.
Plus when i'm at home i feel safe so maybe you feel safe and addiction puts a spin on that for you.
Hey Ttu all your other addictions had triggers because in the long run you knew that you always had alcohol as a backstop and now the others are falling away addiction will tell you that it's okay to drink because it is cunning, baffling and powerful the bstard.
It's not impossible to stay sober and live in a pub just whatch out for the feel good factor and revisit your triggers in detail and you will see them present for a drinking session but just in more relaxed volumes.
Hope this helps and Ttu keep posting
Light and love Zac
I just want to thank you for sharing your experience with me and showing me that some people really understand what i am talking about. I really appreciate the advice, it gives me that "other point of view" and a little more hope, which i needed.
Thanks Again,
Krista
Thanks Again,
Krista
Hey Krista,
Just wanted to say welcome to the boards. Zac is right in his post to you. Family pressure sucks! You might not want to drink but you continue? You were addicted to cocaine and our disease is a sneaky little b****** and now it is roping you in, just in another avenue. The drink. I don't have any great advice to give just wanted you to know there were others out here who care. You keep up the fight and stand your ground. If you don't want to drink then fake it. Act like you are pouring a Vodka or something and pour water or Sprite. If somone else pours it for you....wait til they aren't looking and remake a new one without alcohol. Just be careful. Alcohol snuck up on me before I knew what hit me after I quit using drugs! I wish you luck!
P.s. Getting off drugs was 10x easier than getting sober from booze and I was using ALOT of drugs.
Take care!
Just wanted to say welcome to the boards. Zac is right in his post to you. Family pressure sucks! You might not want to drink but you continue? You were addicted to cocaine and our disease is a sneaky little b****** and now it is roping you in, just in another avenue. The drink. I don't have any great advice to give just wanted you to know there were others out here who care. You keep up the fight and stand your ground. If you don't want to drink then fake it. Act like you are pouring a Vodka or something and pour water or Sprite. If somone else pours it for you....wait til they aren't looking and remake a new one without alcohol. Just be careful. Alcohol snuck up on me before I knew what hit me after I quit using drugs! I wish you luck!
P.s. Getting off drugs was 10x easier than getting sober from booze and I was using ALOT of drugs.
Take care!
